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Mothers chihuahua ate half of my babies grape

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Anonymous23458d · 19/08/2025 14:37

Just as the title states.. I took my boys 1 and 3 years old to my mothers. She never makes the effort to visit us i see her every other week. She lives with my two other older siblings and my dad. Last year they've bought another chihuahua that is just crazy. They don't train it it bites my children and now my baby is crawling it bites his face and is vicious, it steals food and items and growls when I try and get them. They don't do anything to help just idolise this dog. They have about a 2 metre crate for it, which I have to put it in when it gets vicious with my children.
I went because my eldest loves my older sister who lives there and loves seeing her. I was feeding my one year old downstairs whilst the dog was upstairs. I didn't realise the dog ran down and at the same time my baby threw one half of a grape then another one and the dog ran and ate them up. My sister and mum started screaming and rang the vet who said they must rush her down. All the while so hostile and angry at me when I said I didn't realise and im sorry. I know dogs cant eat grapes but I have a baby and toddler and thought the dog was upstairs. It's hard to manage in basically a glass house with so many ornaments and crap everywhere. It's the opposite of baby proof which I don't expect it to be but she doesn't even help me one bit when I come round. My mum only has interest in her new dog not her grandchildren. She has now sent me the receipt for £105 she's had to pay to make the dog be sick at the vets. I am not paying it and for one don't have that money. AiBu?

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Owly11 · 22/08/2025 09:05

I can’t believe the thread title - it got me to click, but surely the real issue is ‘Mother’s chihuahua bit my baby’s face’.

oldmoaner · 22/08/2025 08:47

I love dogs, but, if my little dog so much as growled at any child or even an adult it would be put in it's cage. I definitely would not let my children near that dog. As for vet bill, she's got pet insurance hasn't she so she would only pay excess? My advice would be to stay away, say they can visit you to see you and children (without the dog) but you think it's best not to have children and dog at same house. If they won't do that, their loss, kids safety is most important. I'd be reminding her if the dog bites it's not safe around anyone. Oh, and NO I would not pay vets bill nor would I go and visit again. Maybe she doesn't want you to visit, if she did she would control her dog. Sad fact but often true.

echt · 22/08/2025 05:01

I haven't RTFT but I can't be the only one who read the thread title as a chihuahua eating half of the OP's baby(ies) and clicked.

DearDenimEagle · 22/08/2025 01:13

Whatafustercluck · 21/08/2025 07:57

My friend has needed stitches on her mouth/ nose due to her dachshund's food possessiveness when she's had to wrestle something unsuitable out of its mouth. My dd could have lost her sight due to a small dog bite. The size of the dog is not relevant. Just because they cannot kill, does not mean they cannot maim.

I agree but a bite won’t make the news.
I was merely responding to a post that suggested the child would be killed by the dog and it would be news.

Many children are scarred by dogs and it never hits the news. chihuahuas aren’t ever in the news for biting. It’s reserved for those that actually kill. Bite force.

Dachshunds are hunters..I had several and they are not cuddly pets. Bred to kill. She should not have put her face within reach, but sympathies nonetheless. Everyone thinks, they’re small and lap dogs. They aren’t.
Chihuahuas are known to be biters. My only point was it is not likely to be fatal. Only because of the size of the dog. Bites are always nasty. She should not put her children back in the house with a dog that bit once.
I would not take my child to a house where the dog was prioritised over my child.

Lovehascomeandgone · 21/08/2025 22:09

Don’t go there again and don’t put your kids in harms way, are you crazy. Did you read what you wrote? The dog bites your kids and the baby’s face? Are you for real?!?! Stay the hell away and she can pay her own bill.

HangryLikeTheHulk · 21/08/2025 20:32

SporadicMincePieMuncher · 21/08/2025 18:37

Oh bore off, or at least recognise that the problem is the owner who isn't meeting her dog's basic needs. He needs a new home with an owner prepared to treat him like a real animal with needs, who would have communicated his needs LONG before a bite happened. And one who is sensible enough to keep him and children separated. He does not need mutilating, what a gross thing to say.

The child needs not being taken into a household where a dog with a bite history resides and whose owner won't ensure that he is kept away from the child.

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The dog was bred for humans to be amused by. Only for that. A plaything.

It is aggressive and bites babies. Not much of a plaything then, not serving its purpose. Pointless dog, invented and created by humans. Not endangered, not rare, not special, not a bonus to society at all.

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 19:35

Anonymous23458d · 21/08/2025 19:30

Why has 'dont act with solictude for my family. You're not a nice person dont pretend to be' to @returnofjude been deleted ?

I can assure you I didn’t report it!!

Anonymous23458d · 21/08/2025 19:30

Why has 'dont act with solictude for my family. You're not a nice person dont pretend to be' to @returnofjude been deleted ?

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Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 19:07

And as this thread demonstrates, every other poster is also concerned

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 19:06

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It is only the children in this environment I’m concerned about

a grandmother like this
a mother who takes them to a house with a dog that has bitten every member of the family and even drawn blood
the screaming and toxicity and arguments

hellish

WiddlinDiddlin · 21/08/2025 19:05

YABU... in taking your children to a household where you know there are aggressive, uncontrolled, resource guarding dogs.

Everything else that has occurred in the house could have been avoided by you being responsible enough for your children not to take them there.

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 19:04

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Oh dear

I really do pity these children

the apple doesn’t fall from from the tree it would appear

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Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 18:57

Muffsies · 21/08/2025 18:52

Do you not know when to give it a rest?

Happy as I am
Not happy to think of kids with the dog and indeed around this screaming family with “toxic codependencies” but each to their own

Muffsies · 21/08/2025 18:52

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 18:49

I’m fine thanks (well apart from recovering from a broken ankle!)

Your children however…. Aren’t

Do you not know when to give it a rest?

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 18:49

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I’m fine thanks (well apart from recovering from a broken ankle!)

Your children however…. Aren’t

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SporadicMincePieMuncher · 21/08/2025 18:37

HangryLikeTheHulk · 21/08/2025 16:46

And how does the baby defend itself against this pointless creature ?

It needs its teeth filing off, mandible removing, or its life ending. A pointless dog.

Oh bore off, or at least recognise that the problem is the owner who isn't meeting her dog's basic needs. He needs a new home with an owner prepared to treat him like a real animal with needs, who would have communicated his needs LONG before a bite happened. And one who is sensible enough to keep him and children separated. He does not need mutilating, what a gross thing to say.

The child needs not being taken into a household where a dog with a bite history resides and whose owner won't ensure that he is kept away from the child.

OdisseanQueen · 21/08/2025 17:03

Don't pay the bill.

If you must continue visiting, insist that the dog is crated for the entirety of your visit without exception.

HangryLikeTheHulk · 21/08/2025 16:46

XelaM · 21/08/2025 16:27

Are you serious?! It's a chihuahua puppy, not an adult Rotweiler. It's probably not much larger than a guinea pig.

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And how does the baby defend itself against this pointless creature ?

It needs its teeth filing off, mandible removing, or its life ending. A pointless dog.

Tuesdayschild50 · 21/08/2025 16:39

I wouldn't bother visiting at all.. and don't pay they need to train their dogs properly .

XelaM · 21/08/2025 16:27

HangryLikeTheHulk · 21/08/2025 16:20

It should be destroyed. Causing injuries repeatedly should be game over.

Are you serious?! It's a chihuahua puppy, not an adult Rotweiler. It's probably not much larger than a guinea pig.

HangryLikeTheHulk · 21/08/2025 16:20

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 16:15

It drew blood on adults
multiple times

It should be destroyed. Causing injuries repeatedly should be game over.

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 16:15

DearDenimEagle · 21/08/2025 07:49

Agree with first part, but it is a chihuahua. Not a pit bull. It will bite but not likely to kill. And she did say it was a puppy nip. I’ve a pup now, bites all the time, but it’s playing as it does with other pups. It’s taking longer to stop than my others but I’ll get there. Even on my throat, it isn’t hard enough to break skin, and it’s a lot bigger than a chihuahua.

It drew blood on adults
multiple times

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