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Mothers chihuahua ate half of my babies grape

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Anonymous23458d · 19/08/2025 14:37

Just as the title states.. I took my boys 1 and 3 years old to my mothers. She never makes the effort to visit us i see her every other week. She lives with my two other older siblings and my dad. Last year they've bought another chihuahua that is just crazy. They don't train it it bites my children and now my baby is crawling it bites his face and is vicious, it steals food and items and growls when I try and get them. They don't do anything to help just idolise this dog. They have about a 2 metre crate for it, which I have to put it in when it gets vicious with my children.
I went because my eldest loves my older sister who lives there and loves seeing her. I was feeding my one year old downstairs whilst the dog was upstairs. I didn't realise the dog ran down and at the same time my baby threw one half of a grape then another one and the dog ran and ate them up. My sister and mum started screaming and rang the vet who said they must rush her down. All the while so hostile and angry at me when I said I didn't realise and im sorry. I know dogs cant eat grapes but I have a baby and toddler and thought the dog was upstairs. It's hard to manage in basically a glass house with so many ornaments and crap everywhere. It's the opposite of baby proof which I don't expect it to be but she doesn't even help me one bit when I come round. My mum only has interest in her new dog not her grandchildren. She has now sent me the receipt for £105 she's had to pay to make the dog be sick at the vets. I am not paying it and for one don't have that money. AiBu?

OP posts:
DeeKitch · 19/08/2025 15:13

Anonymous23458d · 19/08/2025 15:00

@returnofjude Yes it's strange but im on this forum to get advice about whether im unreasonable as my mother and sister make me feel like im this wrong horrible person. When it's two against one it's not nice. You on the other hand just make sarcastic comments on other people's posts who are trying to get advice. I think you are the strange one who hasn't got anything better to do. Maybe it you who sits around all day without a job?

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And you’re desperate for a relationship with your family which is natural. Glad you put it into the crate and sad they’re not caring enough

DeeKitch · 19/08/2025 15:13

Anonymous23458d · 19/08/2025 15:00

@returnofjude Yes it's strange but im on this forum to get advice about whether im unreasonable as my mother and sister make me feel like im this wrong horrible person. When it's two against one it's not nice. You on the other hand just make sarcastic comments on other people's posts who are trying to get advice. I think you are the strange one who hasn't got anything better to do. Maybe it you who sits around all day without a job?

Edited

And you’re desperate for a relationship with your family which is natural. Glad you put it into the crate and sad they’re not caring enough

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 19/08/2025 15:12

You should not be putting your children at risk taking them to a house with a view house dog. You need to stop taking them.

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 15:11

Rainbowyogurt · 19/08/2025 15:06

OP trying to backtrack to not look like a bad mum

Yup

mycatismyworld · 19/08/2025 15:10

A few grapes wouldn't have harmed the dog,it's not like it ate an entire Christmas cake. Vets are very grabby now,my DC paid £110 for some charcoal after the dog they were minding ate a packet of biscuits.
I wouldn't be going to see them again until they can train or contain their dog.

PluckyChancer · 19/08/2025 15:09

YABU to keep visiting them. You should have reported the dog to the police when it bit your child the first time.

Why on earth are you risking your children’s welfare with that awful dog and your bitch of a mother??

I’d never step foot in her house again if it was me.
Either they visit you at home without bringing the dogs or they choose not to see you.

daisyb2 · 19/08/2025 15:08

Not sure why you are taking your children somewhere you know there is a vicious dog who bites in the first place ? Irresponsible at best

Rainbowyogurt · 19/08/2025 15:06

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 15:05

Here we go….

OP trying to backtrack to not look like a bad mum

PigglyWigglyOhYeah · 19/08/2025 15:06

A dog is biting your children. How about instead of paying the vet bill, you tell your mother that you will refrain from informing the police about how her dog behaves, because if it’s going around biting children she will be paying the police vet euthanasia bill, too. Then you stop taking them round.

Your job is to protect your children. Stop taking them into that environment. Do your job.

MaggieBsBoat · 19/08/2025 15:06

YABU for going there. You know the dog is dangerous and that your mother doesn’t give a shit yet you go there. Your DD loving your sister doesn’t make your actions reasonable. If your dd liked to walk in the traffic would you let her???

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 15:06

Anonymous23458d · 19/08/2025 15:00

@returnofjude Yes it's strange but im on this forum to get advice about whether im unreasonable as my mother and sister make me feel like im this wrong horrible person. When it's two against one it's not nice. You on the other hand just make sarcastic comments on other people's posts who are trying to get advice. I think you are the strange one who hasn't got anything better to do. Maybe it you who sits around all day without a job?

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You are the mother of two young children and you want to know whether you’re being unreasonable.

Only for ever taking them there in the first place fgs

Elliania · 19/08/2025 15:06

They bought the dog last year. That's well out of the puppy nipping stage, that is an untrained, unpredictable and aggressive dog that is BITING YOUR CHILDREN.

THE DOG BIT YOUR CHILD ON THE FACE. Why do you still go there?!

Jellycatspyjamas · 19/08/2025 15:05

I wouldn’t be paying the vets bill - that’s the price of having a poorly trained dog. I’d also have the dog crated at all times around young children - that’s just a sensible precaution around very young children regardless.

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 15:05

Anonymous23458d · 19/08/2025 15:01

Maybe it wasn't a bite then more like a playful nip like puppies do as she is a puppy. Ever since she did it I don't let her near him.

Here we go….

Returnofjude · 19/08/2025 15:04

mondaytosunday · 19/08/2025 15:03

I wouldn’t be going to her house ever. They can visit you.

Apparently there’s some such “toxic codependency” drama going on that renders this sensible suggestion utterly futile

Campingisnexttogodliness · 19/08/2025 15:04

Agree with your dm that it's best the ddog and dc don't mix.. Let them know when you are home for a cuppa /park for a meet up. Tell your dc they have been invited and you're sorry if they don't show. Don't get sucked to back down. Your dc need their faces intact much more than they need to see these people..

Rainbowyogurt · 19/08/2025 15:03

I refuse to have sympathy for a mother who willingly takes her children somewhere that they apparently get bitten, around a violent dog.

Sorry but someone needs to say it - you’re absolutely mental. Why are you taking your children to your mums house when she has an untrained animal who has on occasions “bitten babies face and steals their food”

If this post is real, you need to up your game and start protecting your kids. You’re meant to be their advocate.

mondaytosunday · 19/08/2025 15:03

I wouldn’t be going to her house ever. They can visit you.

Lmnop22 · 19/08/2025 15:01

YABU to go there at all.

Their dog literally bites your children and nobody wants you and your kids there by the sounds of things so just stop going!

Anonymous23458d · 19/08/2025 15:01

Maybe it wasn't a bite then more like a playful nip like puppies do as she is a puppy. Ever since she did it I don't let her near him.

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smallslyfox · 19/08/2025 15:01

Everyone in this scenario is bonkers. Your mother for refusing to train her dog, you for visiting a house with a mental dog, and your baby for throwing the grape.

Lucytheloose · 19/08/2025 15:00

Fabulous title, disappointing thread.

Anonymous23458d · 19/08/2025 15:00

@returnofjude Yes it's strange but im on this forum to get advice about whether im unreasonable as my mother and sister make me feel like im this wrong horrible person. When it's two against one it's not nice. You on the other hand just make sarcastic comments on other people's posts who are trying to get advice. I think you are the strange one who hasn't got anything better to do. Maybe it you who sits around all day without a job?

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Queenofheart · 19/08/2025 14:59

ThatCyanSheep · 19/08/2025 14:43

YABU to keep taking your children around a dog you know is violent.

Exactly what I was going to say ... why are you subjecting your children to vicious dogs that could scar them for life, I wouldn't be taking mine anywhere near

Jackiepumpkinhead · 19/08/2025 14:58

Never known a dog to bite a soft babies face and not leave a mark.