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To wonder what’s going on with all the big lips

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Laurendelaney1987 · 19/08/2025 08:31

Everywhere I go I see women with massive lips. It looks like so many women are wearing lip fillers.

i totally get that if you’re someone with really thin lips then you may want to plump them up, but I see this look on lots of women from their 20s to 60s.

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Laurendelaney1987 · 19/08/2025 14:20

CoffeeCantata · 19/08/2025 13:42

I do dread what the long term effects will be. I was saying upthread that I think (?) fillers don’t ever go away…they just go lumpy and gradually move around your face or body. I’d be heartbroken if my daughter went in for this look.

Sorry, but what’s the older mum hype? I’m an older mum

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Laurendelaney1987 · 19/08/2025 14:19

MyDadWasAnArse · 19/08/2025 09:05

I saw a woman in Aldi yesterday like this. Sat a child in the trolley, pushing it with one hand whilst having a conversation on her phone. She'd got overinflated lips especially the top lip that was curled up and made her look deformed.

Topped off with stretchy nylonny leggings that scrunched up the crack of her (substantial) arse, and slides.

Yeah; that’s one “strain” of women I see with this lips done, the hard as nails type of woman (with the massive nails too). But also I see a few local successful business owners with the lips too. One of them was stunning without the work

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Laurendelaney1987 · 19/08/2025 14:18

MyDadWasAnArse · 19/08/2025 09:05

I saw a woman in Aldi yesterday like this. Sat a child in the trolley, pushing it with one hand whilst having a conversation on her phone. She'd got overinflated lips especially the top lip that was curled up and made her look deformed.

Topped off with stretchy nylonny leggings that scrunched up the crack of her (substantial) arse, and slides.

Yeah; that’s one “strain” of women I see with this lips done, the hard as nails type of woman (with the massive nails too). But also I see a few local successful business owners with the lips too. One of them was stunning without the work

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Maray1967 · 19/08/2025 14:11

hmmnotreallysure · 19/08/2025 08:45

I took my ds to the dentist last week and all the young women working there had it done, I was really surprised but then wondered if they offered fillers at the dentist which was why they all had fillers.

Same at DS’s orthodontists - all 3 reception staff. All very obvious - total waste of money and potentially dangerous in my view.

IhateSPSS · 19/08/2025 14:07

I work in parent-infant relationships and non-verbal communication between parent and infant is extremely important for brain development. Serve and return eye contact, smiling, mimicking tongue pokes, frowning, wide eye recognition, gaze tracking etc literally creates neurotransmission and hard wires neural pathways that we rely on our entire lives for emotional processing, safety and recognising our kin.

Babies don't have verbal language to communicate and they don't understand language in the newborn stage so facial expression and eye contact interaction with the primary caregiver is vital. Plus they need to watch our speech as well as hear it to ensure word formation and conversational norms. Anything that interrupts or changes a primary caregivers face is difficult for infants (fillers, eyelashes, botox and lip changes all change the face) - have you seen how young children react when Dad's shave their beards or you put facial filters on your/their image? Children are impacted and sensitive to this and it would make a great PhD...in fact you have given me an idea for mine!

petermaddog · 19/08/2025 13:56

been going on decades

CoffeeCantata · 19/08/2025 13:48

Now I’m sticking my head over the parapet and you’re welcome to shoot me down, but I think this is more than an aesthetic issue. (puts on hard hat)

All fashion choices are a form of communication and these women are unfortunately pandering to the taste of the most horrible, sexist, misogynistic and shallow men - the sort who care only about appearance and who would prefer a sex-doll look to a real, individual, independently-minded woman.

If you set out to appeal to men like this you aren’t going to have a happy life.

This may offend some people but it’s my genuine belief.

CoffeeCantata · 19/08/2025 13:42

NOresponsibility · 19/08/2025 10:50

Its just a trend that is fading out.
The big brow.
The huge spider lashes.
Reduclious long fake nails.
A puffy face full of filler.
The older mum hype.
The skinny jab.
Awful fake tan.

Its down to others what they want but i think in due time some will see the effects it has. Sorry to say it but some have made their selfs look older.

I do dread what the long term effects will be. I was saying upthread that I think (?) fillers don’t ever go away…they just go lumpy and gradually move around your face or body. I’d be heartbroken if my daughter went in for this look.

NOresponsibility · 19/08/2025 13:20

Isittimeformynapyet · 19/08/2025 13:06

Their selfs?

Have you never heard the word "themselves"?

Lol. 🙄
Thanks miss.

CookingFatCat · 19/08/2025 13:07

It’s the same face trend, contouring, make up and brows and lips all look identikit like blow up dolls.

Beauty standards from the bloody Kardashian’s.
I hope all their faces melt.

SpaceRaccoon · 19/08/2025 13:07

The "average girl" never seem to have been influenced by high fashion models I've noticed

I was a bit, as a teen. I unfortunately thought that was a desirable level of thinness.

Isittimeformynapyet · 19/08/2025 13:06

NOresponsibility · 19/08/2025 10:50

Its just a trend that is fading out.
The big brow.
The huge spider lashes.
Reduclious long fake nails.
A puffy face full of filler.
The older mum hype.
The skinny jab.
Awful fake tan.

Its down to others what they want but i think in due time some will see the effects it has. Sorry to say it but some have made their selfs look older.

Their selfs?

Have you never heard the word "themselves"?

Isittimeformynapyet · 19/08/2025 13:04

Jamesblonde2 · 19/08/2025 10:43

It’s nice to be on holiday and see local women looking normal, like we did 20-30 years ago. Yes there’s the odd one with fillers, but my God the number of British young women who have gone down the route of lip fillers (and false teeth) is bamboozling. They don’t look better.

I love watching documentaries and programmes from the 80s/90s where the women looked natural and all different.

Most women with big lips and big bottoms were African heritage, why the push for all of this?

Surely the standard beauty was the 90s supermodel, they were stunning without any ridiculous enhancements.

The "average girl" never seem to have been influenced by high fashion models I've noticed. In the days of the Supermodels I remember wondering why women seemed to still aim for a more Page 3 kind of look, and now they're gone the reality stars and Influencers have taken over that role. Even today fashion models are girls who are naturally beautiful without enhancement.

Katemax82 · 19/08/2025 12:58

sorrynotathome · 19/08/2025 08:31

Big lips are going out of fashion, apparently.

Good

SpaceRaccoon · 19/08/2025 12:52

A baboon’s backside is pretty X-rated in my opinion! I guess other baboons feel differently.

I suspect in fact that they very much feel the same about it 😂

beadystar · 19/08/2025 12:51

I only know one that’s been done well (a friend who was open about it). She had basically no lips and had them filled to be thin lips. They look better.
However last week I saw a girl whose lips protruded past her nose in side profile, like a weird doll. Mostly they look obvious and cheap.

CoffeeCantata · 19/08/2025 12:45

SpaceRaccoon · 19/08/2025 12:40

I wanted to post a picture of a baboon's arse but then I remembered that images need to be checked first so thought I'd spare the poor mod's eyes. But yes that.

I know exactly what you mean - pumped up lips have the same effect on me!

But I’m very grateful that you didn’t post that pic. A baboon’s backside is pretty X-rated in my opinion! I guess other baboons feel differently.

Isittimeformynapyet · 19/08/2025 12:44

PInkyStarfish · 19/08/2025 10:22

I regularly see a young woman who has had her lips inflated to comic proportions. They look like two glistening pink sausages. The lip gloss she wears always looks patchy, perhaps due to them being over inflated?

She has a uniform of pastel coloured outfits - pale pink, beige, cream and pastel blue that are matching top and bottom that are either skin tight or cropped sweatshirt and jogging bottoms.

she also has over inflated breasts and an unnaturally large backside which looks strange with her slim legs and waist.

She has long dyed matte black hair and massive fake eyelashes.

She has sported this look for at least three years.

Her husband looks like a normal bloke. I noticed that he has quite thin lips.

They have three daughters and it’s hard to see if there is any resemblance to their mother as she looks like a cartoon caricature but they do have a strong resemblance to their father including the thin lips.

I wonder if the girls will be influenced by her look and when they become teenagers will try to emulate this look.

People do stare at this woman as she’s quite startling to look at so I wonder if the children notice or she thinks she is receiving glances of admiration?

The lips actually make me wince, they look so painful and uncomfortable.

I found this photo online but they are identical to what this woman has except for this woman has patches of red. It must be the look she wants as over the years they look the same.

Edited

If you squint they actually do look like raw cocktail sausages 😂

SpaceRaccoon · 19/08/2025 12:40

I wanted to post a picture of a baboon's arse but then I remembered that images need to be checked first so thought I'd spare the poor mod's eyes. But yes that.

beachwalkx · 19/08/2025 12:37

Holluschickie · 19/08/2025 09:49

It's quite odd for those of us who have naturally full lips thanks to our ethnicity, and were first teased for it in our teens, and now asked where we got such natural filler. DD is in that position!

Yep, I’ve been told on her I had bad lumpy lip filler
no, that’s just my lips!

GreyCarpet · 19/08/2025 12:23

Remember Pete Burns? He used to look like a sideshow, now he looks like Kayleigh from down the road.

Pete Burns was a beautiful man until he wasn't anymore. Sad.

Onthebusses · 19/08/2025 12:21

Lostsadandconfused · 19/08/2025 12:20

Source please?

I know Botox is used to treat some symptoms of Parkinson’s, but I’ve not heard of any other link.

If this is not true, that’s very nasty scaremongering, considering Botox has been used for many years to treat a whole range of medical conditions.

Have a look at 'the still face experiment' (Google or preferred search engine)

Holluschickie · 19/08/2025 12:20

SaladRoger · 19/08/2025 12:20

When, oh when will huge noses be fashionable and sexy!

Waiting eagerly for that day myself! Though Barbra Streisand did her bit!

Lostsadandconfused · 19/08/2025 12:20

NamechangeNightNurse · 19/08/2025 11:18

I think you have made a very good point about it affecting children's development.

There are studies showing that botox sets up pathways in the brain that are similar to those affected by Parkinsons disease.

So if you take the expressions away how does it affect a babies development?

Source please?

I know Botox is used to treat some symptoms of Parkinson’s, but I’ve not heard of any other link.

If this is not true, that’s very nasty scaremongering, considering Botox has been used for many years to treat a whole range of medical conditions.

GreyCarpet · 19/08/2025 12:20

I'd like to see women's bodies being less commodified generally.

Lots of women posting on here talking about their naturally fuller lips and how they were mocked for it at a school.

My daughter and I have very similar figures. Naturally smaller waists and wider hips/round bottoms.

My measurements are currently 28 inches waist and 39 inch hips. Hers at 19 are 23 inch waist and 34 inch hips. The same as me at the same age.

I was mocked and ridiculed for my figure as a young woman but hers is deairable and people pay to have my daughter's figure artificially created or go to the gym to get a bigger bum and smaller waist. Neither of us are of comical proportions but our experiences of just living in the same shaped body are so very different.

I appreciate a lot of money is tied up in policing women' bodies in these ways but the damage women are doing to their bodies and the mental health issues as a result are criminal really.