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bellalou1234 · 18/08/2025 21:13

Help I’m so scared of them. I have moved into my own flat following a break up of a 17 year relationship. I can’t cope with them. Just came in from a 13 hour shift to be greeted by a bloody tarantula I’m shaking. Any tips to keep them out.

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Scarylett · 18/08/2025 22:48

My daughter had loads of conkers in her house when she moved in - we thought it a bit odd. I didn’t realise they were a spider deterrent. She has a cat who happily kills all spiders thankfully. It’s that time of year OP. Spiders coming in when the fields are cut. I would buy a spray and give your bedroom a really good spray and close the door for a few hours. You could also rig up a fly net over any open windows.

Iwilladmit · 18/08/2025 22:46

Yes, hoovering will kill them. I have researched extensively. The vacuum means they cannot breathe plus they get battered about (sorry).
leave the hoover for a minute or so afterwards just to make sure.

MrsKateColumbo · 18/08/2025 22:46

If you live near a zoo that offers it and you can spare the money I would recommend looking into friendly spider courses. I actually was getting terrible spider related sleep paralysis/waking nightmares, I was awfully phobic. Did the course and im now totally fine with the massive fat ones in my house.

I tried all the killing methods but if your house is a spidery house I think it's hard to get rid of them all.

gamerchick · 18/08/2025 22:43

It's spider season. All the big females are coming out to mate. They'll disappear again soon enough. Theyve been there all along and haven't bothered with you. They do excellent pest control.

RamsaySnowsSausage · 18/08/2025 22:40

I feel so bad for spids...they can't help what they are and they are not capable of malice. I've read they sometimes run towards humans because we provide the shadow/shelter that they need to feel safe.

I still shit myself when a big one skedaddles out unexpectedly, but they deserve life too.

Wolfpinkola · 18/08/2025 22:37

wtf ! Is that true ? The spindly ones called harvesters eat the fat hairy ones? How is that possible? They just look like a dot with really long legs

HostaCentral · 18/08/2025 22:32

Definitely hoover them up. They will die in the process. No point catching them to put outside, they die anyway if they are house spiders. House spiders do not come in from outside, the big long legged hairy ones with boots on live in your house all year and only come out to mate. And yes, the spindly ones catch them and eat them. I often see them entangled in the spindly ones webs. Amazing.

sparklychair · 18/08/2025 22:26

If I lived in Australia or another country with poisonous spiders I could sympathise, but if in the UK why spiders? Is there a limit on how many legs a creature can have?
DH, for instance, got savaged by a squirrel(4), I am not keen on earwigs(6). But we can deal with them.
I can understand a phobia - not wanting to touch a particular thing, or maybe eat it. But you can trap it and put it out, surely? I love spiders because they keep the clothes moths and other insects down.
No so much their close little relatives the ticks (8 legs like spiders), however. Sucking my blood and giving me Lyme disease... straight to arachnid afterlife.

sparklychair · 18/08/2025 22:25

If I lived in Australia or another country with poisonous spiders I could sympathise, but if in the UK why spiders? Is there a limit on how many legs a creature can have?
DH, for instance, got savaged by a squirrel(4), I am not keen on earwigs(6). But we can deal with them.
I can understand a phobia - not wanting to touch a particular thing, or maybe eat it. But you can trap it and put it out, surely? I love spiders because they keep the clothes moths and other insects down.
No so much their close little relatives the ticks (8 legs like spiders), however. Sucking my blood and giving me Lyme disease... straight to arachnid afterlife.

Ddakji · 18/08/2025 22:24

Is this a regional thing? I’m in London and rarely get house spiders. I do have cats but I don’t think they catch them - I just don’t think they’re here! I can’t remember the last time I saw one in the house. We do get the spindly ones, though.

bellalou1234 · 18/08/2025 22:23

PistachioTiramisuLimoncello · 18/08/2025 22:16

Oh fuck. I totally hear you op. Hoover with long nozzle?

Will it die if I suck it up I can’t bear to empty the hoover I’ll need help to do that in daylight hours. It might breed in there. Fml

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PistachioTiramisuLimoncello · 18/08/2025 22:20

bellalou1234 · 18/08/2025 22:17

Nah definitely a big hairy spider on my bedroom door stop, large as life. I’ll have a look at all the recommendations. I’m itchy and hyper vigilant. I’ve got a glass of wine to help me sleep. Bloody spider.

They are such bastards!

bellalou1234 · 18/08/2025 22:20

I live in an apartment loads of the other flats are empty I’m grounded floor next to the garden they love it here

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bellalou1234 · 18/08/2025 22:17

Nah definitely a big hairy spider on my bedroom door stop, large as life. I’ll have a look at all the recommendations. I’m itchy and hyper vigilant. I’ve got a glass of wine to help me sleep. Bloody spider.

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PistachioTiramisuLimoncello · 18/08/2025 22:17

PumpkinPie2016 · 18/08/2025 22:03

I absolutely sympathise OP as I am petrified of them and couldn't even manage a spider catcher - I just freeze with fright.

Make friends with some neighbours who don't mind spiders - I have called upon neighbours in the past to assist (and never been refused 😂)

Honestly, I'd probably invite an axe murderer in if I had to!

🤣🤣🤣 me too!

PistachioTiramisuLimoncello · 18/08/2025 22:16

Oh fuck. I totally hear you op. Hoover with long nozzle?

BettysRoasties · 18/08/2025 22:05

Flea bomb kills spiders. I learnt this by accident as I don’t mind the corner of the ceiling spiders but needed to treat the house.

The older child keeps conkers in their room.

PumpkinPie2016 · 18/08/2025 22:03

I absolutely sympathise OP as I am petrified of them and couldn't even manage a spider catcher - I just freeze with fright.

Make friends with some neighbours who don't mind spiders - I have called upon neighbours in the past to assist (and never been refused 😂)

Honestly, I'd probably invite an axe murderer in if I had to!

tara66 · 18/08/2025 21:55

Are you sure it isn't a small mouse? I have something similar but it is so quick and small - I have seen it 3 times and have traps down but nothing caught. - When I see it it's just a quick small dark blur even though the last time I saw it , it was actually rushing past me in corridor! I have wondered if it is a spider or a small mouse!! I'm in UK so presume mouse! I have been spraying with peppermint oil diluted with water. I did not see it for about a week so stopped spraying but now have resumed - good luck!

Tolber · 18/08/2025 21:30

You genuinely have all my sympathy OP. I live alone and in the past have grabbed random passers by to remove huge spiders from my home. I've did the 'spider friendly' course at Edinburgh Zoo and am no longer completely terrified but I still do not like them one little bit and cannot live with them.

Indorex is your friend, around £14 from amazon. I spray it around all my doors and windows and, when necessary, directly on a spider. You don't have to get too close and it kills them pretty quickly. Conkers and peppermint oil do not work.

bellalou1234 · 18/08/2025 21:30

I’ve got two Boston terriers who aren’t fussed and I only have them half the time so feel extra vulnerable when they are not here. I wouldn’t be able to open the window to get it out the catcher I’d be too scared it ran back in. I’m buying peppermint oil tomorrow. This was on another level. I keep my windows closed all the time

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ShesTheAlbatross · 18/08/2025 21:26

Redrosesposies · 18/08/2025 21:18

Cultivate your cellar spiders ( the far less scary, spindly ones). They eat the big fat hairy ones.😆😄

Edited

This is what I was going to say! Leave your spindly ones in peace and let them help deal with the big ones.

I’ve read this in a few places, and it does seem to work in my house. But I’ve not properly googled it because I don’t want to see a picture of massive spiders!

DiordreBarlow · 18/08/2025 21:25

If you don't like cats then a terrier will deal with them for you.

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 18/08/2025 21:23

Peppermint oil does a great job of getting rid. You have to spray it regularly, though. Works well outside my front door where they love to cluster in disgusting groups of legs

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 18/08/2025 21:23

I'm exactly the same op. I dread this time of year. I spray a lavender based repellent everywhere and repeat every few days. I have a spider catcher that a pp mentioned. I hate them. I don't want a relationship but sometimes I consider it just on thr basis I'd have someone to remove the horrible spiders. Can't sleep if there's one in my bedroom.

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