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Marks & Spencers bra fittings and trans women - they've missed the point

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IdaGlossop · 18/08/2025 18:36

A mother complained to M&S when her daughter was approached in-store by a trans woman asking if she could be of assistance. The daughter needed a bra fitting and was upset as she could see that the member of staff was male. M&S apologised.

Today, in response to the incident, M&S have announced that bra fittings are for biological women only. The solution to the mother's complaint is to not deploy trans women staff in the lingerie department! Banning trans women from having bra fittings discriminates against trans women and doesn't solve the original problem.

YANBU = M&S have messed up with this decision
YABU = Banning trans women from bra fittings protects biological women from being offered bra fittings by trans women staff

www.thepinknews.com/2025/08/18/ms-bra-fitting-trans/

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Londonmummy66 · 07/02/2026 13:19

ThatBlackCat · 07/02/2026 08:25

The details for the link are in the top right hand corner. You're not observant are you.

Very unobservant - so any assertion that they can't tell the difference between a biological woman and a TiF can be reliably ignored.

ThatBlackCat · 07/02/2026 08:25

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:05

can i have the link I want to see if this is weighted or not

The details for the link are in the top right hand corner. You're not observant are you.

ThatBlackCat · 07/02/2026 08:24

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 22:48

source?

All the anime gifs. And always anime. You're all a cliche. But here: (someone already posted the first UK one). Unlabeled/named one is Canada.

Marks & Spencers bra fittings and trans women - they've missed the point
Marks & Spencers bra fittings and trans women - they've missed the point
Marks & Spencers bra fittings and trans women - they've missed the point
Marks & Spencers bra fittings and trans women - they've missed the point
Marks & Spencers bra fittings and trans women - they've missed the point
Helleofabore · 07/02/2026 07:13

Ivelostmyglasses · 07/02/2026 02:33

Out of curiosity, how do you feel about a person who has had female to male surgery and identifies as male fitting a bra? Do they count when people say it should only be biological females fitting bras?

There are two safeguarding situations to consider with bra fitting scenarios and they are not symmetrical.

One is about non-consensual touching. Such as a male person potentially having an unconsenting female person touch them or in very close proximity to them.

The other is causing a female person distress through having someone with male body cues (either from being a male person or from testosterone intake or surgery) touching them or in very close proximity to their breasts.

Through discussing this with female people who have made those decisions to have those body changes, many of them are very aware that their presence in such a situation may cause another woman distress. I don’t believe they would choose to put another woman in that position.

So, you tell me, “Do they count when people say it should only be biological females fitting bras?”

Should they be having to touch a male person without their freely given consent?

Should they be put in a position where they might cause another female distress?

Ivelostmyglasses · 07/02/2026 02:33

Helleofabore · 06/02/2026 23:57

Sure. Has anyone on the thread said that a male person should not be allowed to purchase a bra? I haven’t seen that said on this thread.

However, no female person should have to fit a male person for a bra, just as she should not have to accept a male person fitting her for a bra.

Out of curiosity, how do you feel about a person who has had female to male surgery and identifies as male fitting a bra? Do they count when people say it should only be biological females fitting bras?

Hoardasurass · 07/02/2026 00:34

snowwy888 · 07/02/2026 00:18

the link i put is for trans peaple in the uk and whear i quoted from in my coment 0.5% of adults aged 16 and over. that part 🤗

That figure is inaccurate the question was too confusing for people unfamiliar with the language of gender ideology and for whom English is not their first language which is why the ONS downgraded that set of statistics.
The number of transwomen is believed to be less than 0.1% we won't get a accurate picture until the next census and only then if they fix the question.
The graph i posted use the higher rate of transwomen which the census found of 0.2% transwomen as can be found on the ONS websites (as qualified ie accepted as inaccurate) if we used the most likely figure of less than 0.1% the rate of sexual offending by transwomen would be closer to 11 times that of men who identify as men.
May I strongly suggest that you spend some time on both the ONS and MOJ websites including looking up the types of sexual offenses that transwomen commit as they are some of the most serious and often involve gratuitous violence.
I can assure you that it will make you see why women don't want any man especially not trans identifying men anywhere near our single sex spaces and services

Helleofabore · 07/02/2026 00:24

snowwy888 · 07/02/2026 00:18

the link i put is for trans peaple in the uk and whear i quoted from in my coment 0.5% of adults aged 16 and over. that part 🤗

The link you posted has the numbers that correspond with the chart. I am not sure what you are misunderstanding. It is in the link you posted how many male people identified as female on the census and that is the same number used on the chart.

Hoardasurass · 07/02/2026 00:19

snowwy888 · 07/02/2026 00:05

yea its up to consent like your saying its just peaple are worried that they wont be able to get one becose they cant get them fitted its like saying to a person who doesn't know what shoe size they are That they can buy a pair but the shoe shop teach them how to tie their shoes or tell them what shoe size they are
do you get what im saying

Then they should look up an online tutorial on how to measure yourself for a bra and measure themselves and buy a bra in their size off the rail, no need for any woman to measure them ever.
More to the point men should not be buying womens bras as they are not designed for the male body (wider back and shoulders) even if that man has gynocomastia (moobs) from taking cross sex hormones or has breast implants.
What men who need bras should really do is set up their own lingerie range and shops with other men who need bras doing the fitting then the men wont need to worry about not getting a bra that fits

snowwy888 · 07/02/2026 00:18

Helleofabore · 07/02/2026 00:01

The sources for the chart is on the chart.

the link i put is for trans peaple in the uk and whear i quoted from in my coment 0.5% of adults aged 16 and over. that part 🤗

Helleofabore · 07/02/2026 00:12

snowwy888 · 07/02/2026 00:05

yea its up to consent like your saying its just peaple are worried that they wont be able to get one becose they cant get them fitted its like saying to a person who doesn't know what shoe size they are That they can buy a pair but the shoe shop teach them how to tie their shoes or tell them what shoe size they are
do you get what im saying

I have no idea what you are saying. Sorry.

No female person should be made to fit a bra for a male person. Or teach them how to wear one. Or teach them how to pick one. No employer should put a female in that position where they have to do this.

If a male person needs that service, that male service should seek specialised assistance.

snowwy888 · 07/02/2026 00:05

Helleofabore · 06/02/2026 23:57

Sure. Has anyone on the thread said that a male person should not be allowed to purchase a bra? I haven’t seen that said on this thread.

However, no female person should have to fit a male person for a bra, just as she should not have to accept a male person fitting her for a bra.

yea its up to consent like your saying its just peaple are worried that they wont be able to get one becose they cant get them fitted its like saying to a person who doesn't know what shoe size they are That they can buy a pair but the shoe shop teach them how to tie their shoes or tell them what shoe size they are
do you get what im saying

Hoardasurass · 07/02/2026 00:02

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:57

oh sorry have i mised some thing im looking at difrent things

Edited

Yes the ONS and MOJ are official government organisations that would face criminal charges under foi laws for knowingly falsifing data. Gires is a biased pro trans group and can and do falsify data all the time

Helleofabore · 07/02/2026 00:01

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:53

OK from looking at I'm just doing a little bit of thinking from https://www.gires.org.uk/information-on-prevalence-incidence-and-monitoring/ saying that "“Is the gender you identify with the same as your sex registered at birth?”

  • 45.7 million (94.0% of the population aged 16 years and over) answered the question.
  • 45.4 million (93.5%) answered “Yes” and 262,000 (0.5%) answered “No”.
  • 2.9 million (6.0%) did not answer the question.
" now your graph is saying 1916 per mil for "men identifieing as woman" now the data I here says 0.5 percent of the UK population does not assign with their gender given at birth Now I don't have a number for how many of them are trans women but I know that 0 .5% is a lot less than 49% and 49% of the population is male so i came to the conclusion there is more male sex offenders just with that massive difference of number it isn't possible for there to be more sex offenders That are male but then again this is only a rough thought

The sources for the chart is on the chart.

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:57

Waitwhat23 · 06/02/2026 23:56

You're ignoring the data from the MOJ and ONS in favour of information from GIRES?

Oh dear...

oh sorry have i mised some thing im looking at difrent things

Helleofabore · 06/02/2026 23:57

BlackCatDiscoClub · 06/02/2026 23:15

Bras are for people who have tit's, whether they are real or fake, or grew before or after puberty. If a man with a big pair of man boots wanted a bra, he should be able to get one! Likewise the woman who has had a double mastectomy and had implants afterwards should be able to get one. If a trans woman has tits, due to hormones or implants, she needs a bra.

Sure. Has anyone on the thread said that a male person should not be allowed to purchase a bra? I haven’t seen that said on this thread.

However, no female person should have to fit a male person for a bra, just as she should not have to accept a male person fitting her for a bra.

Waitwhat23 · 06/02/2026 23:56

You're ignoring the data from the MOJ and ONS in favour of information from GIRES?

Oh dear...

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:53

Waitwhat23 · 06/02/2026 23:33

Links are literally on the image....

You know, the bit where it says 'Derived from:'?

OK from looking at I'm just doing a little bit of thinking from https://www.gires.org.uk/information-on-prevalence-incidence-and-monitoring/ saying that "“Is the gender you identify with the same as your sex registered at birth?”

  • 45.7 million (94.0% of the population aged 16 years and over) answered the question.
  • 45.4 million (93.5%) answered “Yes” and 262,000 (0.5%) answered “No”.
  • 2.9 million (6.0%) did not answer the question.
" now your graph is saying 1916 per mil for "men identifieing as woman" now the data I here says 0.5 percent of the UK population does not assign with their gender given at birth Now I don't have a number for how many of them are trans women but I know that 0 .5% is a lot less than 49% and 49% of the population is male so i came to the conclusion there is more male sex offenders just with that massive difference of number it isn't possible for there to be more sex offenders That are male but then again this is only a rough thought

Information on Prevalence, Incidence and Monitoring - Gender Identity Research & Education Society

Gender Diversity in the UK 2021 Census For the first time 2021 UK Census asked people aged over 16: “Is the gender you identify with the same as your sex registered at birth?” 45.7 million (94.0% of the population aged 16 years and over) answered the q...

https://www.gires.org.uk/information-on-prevalence-incidence-and-monitoring/

Helleofabore · 06/02/2026 23:51

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:27

you shuld be able to provide your own link to whear you got it from when your present data you need to be able to prove it

The image has the sources listed right there on the graphic.

Hoardasurass · 06/02/2026 23:34

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:27

you shuld be able to provide your own link to whear you got it from when your present data you need to be able to prove it

No you should be able to look it up yourself women aren't here to do your research for you.
Its simple just go to the gov website look up crime statistics and scroll down to any year and look up then do the maths with the number of transwomen sex offenders per million and then do the same for men and women (the women's figures are unreliable as they include men who have GRCs and even 1 man makes a huge statistical difference when there are so few women sex offenders)

Waitwhat23 · 06/02/2026 23:33

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:05

can i have the link I want to see if this is weighted or not

Links are literally on the image....

You know, the bit where it says 'Derived from:'?

snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:28

BlackCatDiscoClub · 06/02/2026 23:15

Bras are for people who have tit's, whether they are real or fake, or grew before or after puberty. If a man with a big pair of man boots wanted a bra, he should be able to get one! Likewise the woman who has had a double mastectomy and had implants afterwards should be able to get one. If a trans woman has tits, due to hormones or implants, she needs a bra.

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snowwy888 · 06/02/2026 23:27

Hoardasurass · 06/02/2026 23:16

Sure go look it up on either the MOJ or ONS websites for yourself im not your research assistant

you shuld be able to provide your own link to whear you got it from when your present data you need to be able to prove it

Alwaysontherun · 06/02/2026 23:21

BlackCatDiscoClub · 06/02/2026 23:15

Bras are for people who have tit's, whether they are real or fake, or grew before or after puberty. If a man with a big pair of man boots wanted a bra, he should be able to get one! Likewise the woman who has had a double mastectomy and had implants afterwards should be able to get one. If a trans woman has tits, due to hormones or implants, she needs a bra.

No one is stopping anyone buying a bra but I can see how a female bra fitter may be uncomfortable fitting someone other than a biological women.

AnSolas · 06/02/2026 23:20

BlackCatDiscoClub · 06/02/2026 23:15

Bras are for people who have tit's, whether they are real or fake, or grew before or after puberty. If a man with a big pair of man boots wanted a bra, he should be able to get one! Likewise the woman who has had a double mastectomy and had implants afterwards should be able to get one. If a trans woman has tits, due to hormones or implants, she needs a bra.

He may need a bra.

However he has no right at all to rock up to M&S with the expectation that he will be allowed into the M&S fitting room area or that any of the M&S female staff must provide a service.

BlackCatDiscoClub · 06/02/2026 23:19

Hoardasurass · 06/02/2026 23:18

Well he can go to a man for his bra fitting rather than try and force a woman to participate in his fetish

There aren't any male bra fitters. I think you've spotted a gap in the market!