To let DD vape?

You can't stop her. She'd just get better at hiding it, even if you removed all 'privileges'. It's not like you can keep her locked in the house for the next two years. Vaping in the house and garden, you can control though.
I disagree that vaping is a gateway to smoking. Cigarettes just aren't really a 'thing' anymore in the younger generations. Can't remember the last time I actually seen a person under 40 smoking cigarettes .

Do you pay for her phone? Hobbies ? Clothing? Fun days out with friends? Basically anything thats not a necessity you could stop. Tell her if she is old enough to decide to ruin her lungs then she can pay for all that stuff.
Keep showing you disapprove.
Keep sending every article about people who have become seriously sick because of it. Especially young people.

All the posters who began smoking or vaping at 14 or 15, have you been able to give it up? ( If you wanted to).

You can reduce her pocket money. It's true you can't force her to not do it.

You can give consequences for her doing it in the house or even garden. Like saying she can't come on a holiday or go some fancy place? Like saying she has to have a cheaper birthday or Xmas gift? Saying you'll block the WiFi for however many days/ hours?

But sadly if she's vaping nicotine she's addicted. You could try and encourage her to reduce the nicotine down to zero. It is hard though as you can't really make her stop.

I really wish I hadn't started smoking aged 14. But my mum couldn't have stopped me. Even though she disapproved.

You need to stick to your guns when you withold privledges - this sounds as if you came down hard for a shortwhile, but you gave up when she didn't stop vaping. You need to keep it up next time - no Internet, no laundry service or whatever you did.

Vaping is toxic for young lungs, she will blame you for not stopping her when she's trying to quit when she's older.

Depends on how much she vapes, they’re not actually that expensive, they start off at a lower price for low nicotine ones

No your not a bad mum at all!

Shes 16, even if you were to ban it she’s just going to go out and buy them without telling you.

This was me with smoking at age 14, I remember my mum screaming at me to stop but the more she shouted at me/ took them off me the more I wanted to do it.

Stupid teenage years.

Could maybe talking about the health issues with vaping, the cases of collapsed lungs etc help.
Leave little magazines articles out.

Well, it's true that the other mums are overstepping. It's none of their business.

Like hell would I be putting up with vaping at 16 - she is buying them from somewhere dodgy. Every vape I found would be smashed with a hammer before putting it in the bin. No smoking in the house, no smoking in the garden. And if she won’t do that then a escalating withdrawal of privileges.

So these mums that are judging your parenting have told you exactly how to stop your daughter vaping and you've just ignored them? Nope didn't think so! How exactly are you supposed to stop her? It sounds like you've tried a good many things but if shes buying them herself with money she has earned and willing to ignore all the health evidence you've shown her then what are you supposed to do?
Turn it around on the judgy twats and ask them to tell you in great detail how to stop her, do not accept them saying statements such as I wouldn't let my child etc you want specific step by step details or they should shut up.
Yes keep on at your DD in regards to what she could be spending her money on, health issues, insisting not in the house etc but I don't think at her age you can stop her, all you can do is educate her and hope she makes the right choices

The more you push, the more she’ll pull.

Set up boundaries like no vaping in the house but apart from that I’d let her do it.

I would encourage her to quit for her health and promote a healthy lifestyle like exercising and taking care of her skin.

My DD doesn’t vape and it’s because she knows that I used to smoke and quitting made me put on weight which took ages to lose and stained my teeth, made me smell etc.
So I play to her vanity.

Honestly I was smoking as a teen and so were lots of my mates.
Most of them grew out of it.

I think teens will always do something rebellious.
I hate vapes but it’s not the worst habit she could have.

Not in the house and not in the garden. You can't stop what she does outside of that but you can make it clear you don't approve and make it as difficult as you possibly can.

Imo she can either spend her money on vapes or pay for the house WiFi. She doesn't get to use both imo.
Ds had 1 now and again. Binned every time until he gave up bringing them home.

It's highly addictive. That's why the companies that make them are targeting the young - customers for life.

It is a gateway to smoking in the young.

I think it is the parents responsibility to ensure their children don't vape.

Vaping isn't dangerous in the UK its tightly regulated all these stories you hear are in America where its not regulated. I would have no issue with a 16 year old vaping I think if thats the worse she does i think you got of lightly. People treat 16 year olds like children these days and its why they are so dependent.

I just don't think it's a hill worth dying on. Vapes are not the worst thing in the world, and TBH while I don't like it one bit, I think on the scale of things teenagers could do, vaping is one of the least harmful. And no, I wouldn't allow it in my house at all. That would be one rule that can't be broken, although having said that, it is difficult to detect the bloody things as I can't smell them at all in my brother's flat where he's at it constantly!

Experience has taught me exactly the opposite. I think teens need strong boundaries. Everybody here is always saying they will go no contact or have a a strained relationship if you lay down the law, but it's not my experience. And I'd rather they quit vaping than have a lovely relationship.

What do you mean 'previously' 'at one point'?

Do it and continue to stick to it.

Otherwise what was the point?

You say you've tried everything but you haven't. You need to stick to this, stop her vaping in the garden and if you think she's vaping in the bedroom, make her leave her vape where you can see it.

Enough to pay for all the extras? I doubt it.

The fact you’ve said “previously” means you stopped doing it, so of course she still vapes.

Stop everything, indefinitely.

It's far better than cigarettes and/or weed IMO. Experience has taught me that the more you ban things, the more inventive and belligerent they become. As long as it's not being done within your walls (or just in her room with the window open for example), I'd leave it be for now. She may come to her senses eventually.

At 16 you can’t stop her from doing it away from the house especially if she is paying for it herself.
If it was me I would also ban it from the garden just like you have the house. All vaping to be done away from the house altogether. Winter is coming so that won’t be fun.
I would also make sure no vaping is being done in the bedroom.
if she has money to pay for vapes she has money to pay things such as mobile phone bill etc.

She’s earning her own money!!!

Maybe. But they didn't do it in my house.

It's almost impossible to stop her vaping when she is 16 and has a job. What I would do is not allow it in my home and presence to keep up the message that I don't approve and it may also reduce the potential of developing addiction, although nicotine is highly addictive so that ship may have already sailed. It's really not worth stressing about her doing it away from you as there is nothing you can do to stop it.