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To let DD vape?

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ByBoldLeader · 18/08/2025 17:20

DD (16) vapes. I’ve tried to stop her from vaping but I can’t, nothing works and she just keeps on vaping. She has a part time job and pays for the vapes with her own money. I’ve given now up trying to stop her from vaping and have just decided to let her vape now but other mums are saying I’m a bad mum for taking that approach and that I should still be trying to stop her from vaping. Has anyone else just given up and let their teen vape? AIBU to just let DD vape? Am I a bad mum?

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disappointedconfused · 18/08/2025 17:32

There’s only so much you can do and how much she’s prepared to listen no matter what sanctions you put in place. She’s old enough to vote now under the Labour government - if she’s considered mature and old enough to make political decisions then she’s old enough to decide to vape or not

Holluschickie · 18/08/2025 17:30

Yes. If my kids want to vape they cant do it in my house.

chipsandpeas · 18/08/2025 17:30

would you let her smoke a cigarette

Ohlifelife · 18/08/2025 17:29

If nothing else you should not let her vape in the home. If she is determind to potentially ruin her own health and also set off on the road to addiction- because vaping is addictive and many say is harder to quit than cigarettes- so be it. But why should everyone else in the home suffer potential negative health consequences because of her ignorance and stupidity ?Especially if you have younger children at home. And the smell is utterly stomach churning.

I just learnt last week from another thread on MN that vaping is actually illegal in Mexico and a host of other countries. They are obviously a lot more enlightened then the UK.

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ByBoldLeader · 18/08/2025 17:27

VickyEadieofThigh · 18/08/2025 17:23

If you CAN stop her, do. But it sounds like you can't.

I’ve tried to stop her but can’t.

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Holluschickie · 18/08/2025 17:27

I would go nuclear and stop all other services. No vaping in my house.
But then I am not you.

VickyEadieofThigh · 18/08/2025 17:23

If you CAN stop her, do. But it sounds like you can't.

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