Has anyone offered to give up their seat on public transport just for being a woman?

No one has ever offered me (58F) a seat because I'm F. I do however often offer seats to all manner where I think I can probably stand for the journey easier. That would usually be someone older but might include a younger guy if he was laden with luggage.

I rarely go far on public transport so I'm happy to stand in most cases to be honest. It can be easier as you can stand closer to the doors.

The last time I was offered a seat by a young man. I was wearing an empire waisted dress, and was slouching (end of a long day). I declined politely, then realised he’d most likely thought I was pregnant. Never wore that dress again.

I have noticed on a few occasions when I've offered a seat to someone who looks more in need of it than me, all the men who had been ignoring them suddenly noticed and jumped up to offer their own seats. So we often both end up with seats.

I am in my fifties and have on several occasions over the years been offered a seat on the tube. Always by men in their twenties. I always accept and tell them it's appreciated. Partly because it is, and partly because I think it's a nice thing in society and I don't want to discourage them from offering again to someone else.

Men step in front of queuing women for the bus in my area, for many giving up a seat would be unthinkable.

I think it's lovely when people offer seats. I offer whoever if they look like they need a seat. Wouldn't stand up for a child (unless special circumstances)

Then that is the reason - he does it if he believes someone is more needing of it. That's really nice. But this thread is about offering a seat to a woman purely because they are a woman. That doesn't make them more needing of it.

As for offering seats/being offered in general - I appreciated being offered a seat when I was pregnant, which happened fairly regularly, from men and women, but other than that I don't mind if I have to stand. On short public transport journeys I tend to stand unless there are loads of seats - I don't need to sit so I'd rather someone else had a spot. On longer train journeys I book a seat if I can.

Yes, I get offered a seat on the train from men fairly regularly (I travel to work by train). I’m a healthy looking woman, early 40s live in the SE. I always say no thank you.

If someone offered me their seat I’d likely say no.

I have found though that on an incredibly busy train into London, my 72 year old dad and I were the only ones who stood up in an entire first class carriage for a very, very heavily pregnant lady and her toddler. The rest of the carriage was taken up by men in suits who kept muttering about paying for the seats.

Dont agree. Im 63 commute in London 3 days a week and often get offered a seat.

Ffs. It’s called being nice

Years ago, in my twenties, I was on a train from London to Bristol after a job interview. I was very tired and the train was packed, so much so that I ended up standing in first class. I got talking to an older man was sitting down and told him about the interview. Another older man sitting nearby chipped in on the conversation and offered me his seat. The first man then offered me his seat and it became a bit of competition between them as to whose seat I'd sit in. I think the first man was a bit put out that the second man had trumped him and made him appear rude by not offering in the first place. I didn't know what to do - I'm not from England and wasn't used to travelling on trains so I didn't know if I could sit in first class without a first class ticket. I didn't know whose offer to accept for fear of offending one of them. In the end I just chose a seat and sat in it and it was all very awkward. I wasn't so keen on being offered seats after that!

Not exactly offered. On the underground, when the doors opened a man pushed his way in and practically dived into the last available seat in that section. I stood next to him, with my suitcase. He then got up and went elsewhere. I took the seat. 🙂

Would you rather hard working/tired/elderly/pregnant women etc etc get "squashed". I hate to see children in seats when there are adults having to stand.

Awful on buses too. Small children sitting looking at their phones when adults come on to the bus. Dreadful parenting.

I have been offered a seat (I’m in my 50’s and if anything look younger)by young lads, 17/18/19 sort of age, I refused the first time then it’s happened again and i accepted, the lad last time said his grandfather had impressed upon him that he should give up his seat to adults older than him, his grandfather had since died but he hears his words whenever he’s on public transport, how lovely!

I'm just grateful for a seat and don't give a toss why it was offered. Hidden disabilities suck.

Ha! When I was about 30 I was standing on a crowded tube, and a younger blonde woman got on behind me. A man sitting down peered around me to offer her his seat (she accepted). Yes, I am also a woman…

Older men have done this for me on trains. I thought it was really sweet and kind but not at all necessary. Both were Asian men, not sure if that’s relevant.
Have also been on the tube 9 months pregnant and no one get up.

A young man gave me his seat on the Tube recently. Most appreciated.
I also appreciate having the door held for me - especially by someone who says 'no rush' when I start quickening my steps ☺️.

I think men should stand for a woman.

I don't think equality and chivalry are mutually exclusive.

We're also a long way from equality.

Can the reason be just to try and make someones journey just a little bit more comfortable? Why does anyone have to justify being nice to someone else?

But he does offer his seat to men as well. The blind man was an extreme but if he felt someone was more needing of his seat he would stand up, as would i.

I have also witnessed my DS & DD do similar.

Does there really have to be a reason for being nice?

Maybe it was just the area I was in a couple of weeks back, I am a little older but the men were older than me

As a Londoner now living in the north of England... no, this really isn't any more of a thing in the north than it is in London (unless you look pregnant).

I use public transport in a northern city every day and it was very rare that anyone even gave up their seat for me when I was on crutches, let alone simply for being a woman.

I'm not saying nobody ever gives up a seat for a woman ever, but it's not a regional thing.