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Breach of Alcohol Undertaking Family Court

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Minions2000 · 18/08/2025 09:30

My partner took me to court for alcohol, social and court were involved and I was a week off of obtaining a residency order and my behaviour was detrimental.
The children are now with their dad and we have not heard from social however they have been informed.
I slipped up with the drink to a point where he needed to step in, I had also been issued an alcohol undertaking
We are both as parents working together, to get the help and cause minimal disturbance to the kids.
What will happen?

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Minions2000 · 18/08/2025 10:09

I thought I was ok, then the one drink I was meant to have turned to more.

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Minions2000 · 18/08/2025 10:09

I abstained throughout court and then lapsed to a point my children were not safe.
I am currently on my way to the doctors and will be asking for every bit of support.
My children are my life but I really did mess up.
I have tried to contact the social worker on duty as its in court today for my residency order

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pointythings · 18/08/2025 09:59

If you are drinking to the point of being unsafe, then the children shouldn't be with you unsupervised. What are you doing to promote your recovery?

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 18/08/2025 09:52

What does "the right help" look like to you? What is stopping you from getting that help?

CalicoPusscat · 18/08/2025 09:51

But your partner has concerns about alcohol impacting on your parenting.

Have social services referred you to support?

Jellycatspyjamas · 18/08/2025 09:47

Minions2000 · 18/08/2025 09:41

Will the family courts not work with us to bring them back home considering that is what the children want?

He knows I'm a good mum I just need the right help

That’s the role of social work, the family court is there to make decisions about the safe care of your children. There comes a point when the children just can’t wait for you to be in a better place, whether you’re at that point is for social work to assess and court to decide.

Swiftie1878 · 18/08/2025 09:45

Minions2000 · 18/08/2025 09:41

Will the family courts not work with us to bring them back home considering that is what the children want?

He knows I'm a good mum I just need the right help

This isn’t about you. It’s about safeguarding the children.
You should want the same for them, and acknowledge that your problems with alcohol mean you can’t be in charge of keeping them safe, even on a short visit.

Maray1967 · 18/08/2025 09:44

It is not just what the children want, it is what is safe for them. It sounds as though you have a problem with alcohol and have been told clearly what you must do but you have started drinking again. The DC need to be kept safe.

Hayley1256 · 18/08/2025 09:43

Swiftie1878 · 18/08/2025 09:35

Most likely he’ll get full residency and you’ll get supervised access.

Agree that this is a likely outcome

Minions2000 · 18/08/2025 09:41

Will the family courts not work with us to bring them back home considering that is what the children want?

He knows I'm a good mum I just need the right help

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Swiftie1878 · 18/08/2025 09:35

Most likely he’ll get full residency and you’ll get supervised access.