To find these comments from new mum friend intensely irritating

It kind of makes you sound jealous which I don’t think you are really.

she’s just got the feels and is blown away by how strong it all is. Let her have it. Smile and nod.

I think you are being extremely pernickety and basically finding reasons to take issue with what at best is a slightly clumsy way of talking.

I highly doubt she is thinking of your older baby at all when she’s saying these things. She’s talking about how SHE feels now, in the moment, with her newborn.

If you don’t like it, avoid her for now. Or if you don’t like her, avoid her forever. Problem solved

Sounds perfectly normal first time mum behaviour. And why would one do anything else but spend time with your baby - esp if you are on maternity leave and will go out to work at some point?

Literally why??? Don’t you relate to what new mum is experiencing? Why be so horrible.

Ha yes, it's annoying, but I'm sure I said some shit like that too 😆 I'd say something like "ha, these early months hormones do make everything feel extremely intense, don't they" you can also add "it's not a competition"

In real life good people are happy when other people are happy. In real life women can talk together about the true joys and hardships of motherhood, and the women coming on mumsnet to complain about it or suggest bitter little one-line comebacks to shut down someone’s joy are the anomaly.

I much prefer real life to what i’m seeing on this thread

Very annoying, but I'd just have a bit of a chuckle about it. Maybe even a bit of banter... "really Meghan? I don't know what that feels like, I couldn't give a toss about mine!"

This sounds far more annoying than anything the new mum is doing

What a lot of negativity on this thread. God forbid a woman enjoys motherhood and is vocal about it. Better bring her down immediately before she gets any ideas about parenting life being anything other than an unremitting round of drudgery and seething unvoiced grievances

How new is the baby? If she’s still in the newborn phase I think YABU, she’s in a PFB bubble and things are still feeling surreal and overwhelming.

If baby is several months old and she’s still making comments like this i can see why you’re feeling annoyed, I’d just distance myself a bit until she realises her experience is no different to anyone else’s.

Maybe she just has an easy baby. Shes just excited

She sounds sickening.

She'll grow out of it.

Unfortunately whilst a new baby is life-changing it’s not character-changing. I’d wager she’s never had a huge amount of empathy? That’s usually what makes people think their normal feelings are exceptional.

I think people are a bit mixed up with the comparison too. New mum can't imagine leaving newborn doesn't actually have much to do with mum of 8 month old going out, there's 7 months or so of difference in age for a start. I wouldn't think new mum is considering the 8 month old as still a baby as such, because of the size difference.

I remember a mum being all indulgently annoying that I was helping 18 month old DS on a trampoline, while her 4 year old ran about. Sure, mine did that at 4 as well. Kids change, how you feel changes, what you think they're capable of changes. An 8 month old recpgnises family, can eat food, has predictable naps, predictable poos etc etc. Not at all the same as the helpless 1 month old living on a boob who can only just hold their head and only recognises mum and dad's voices.

We all say stupid things in those early days. It’s an intense time. Just smile and nod.

Most of us in those early days have proclaimed how perfect the baby is and how we absolutely won’t be co-sleeping, will only be feeding organically and zero screen time…

If she’s STILL like that in a few months, then you might need to revisit your friendship then!

There’s always one of these in any new Mum friendship group.

I remember popping to the shops solo when ds was about a week old. Bumped into baby-wearing friend who looked shocked and said she still couldn’t be apart from her 4 month old.

I get that it feels like they’re being competitive but really they are just parenting differently.

It gets marginally less annoying as Kevin grows up and proves to be less than 100% angelic if that helps!

Every time she does it just laugh, hysterically.
Then say “good one!”
And move the conversation on.

YANBU because it is annoying. Even if she really believes her bond with her baby is more special and close than anyone else’s could possibly be…to say that out loud? I think it goes beyond a bit of PFB issues. She sounds like she has a tendency to be self absorbed and lacking in empathy, she may have managed to keep that covered better until now.

My children are young adults now and I’m early fifties. I’ve noticed a bit of a pattern…when this phase is over I would say there is a strong chance she will show these traits in other ways.

She's a new mum, don't piss on her parade. You're like the annoying elderly sibling who when you are worrying about your gcses says wait until you get to A levels, that's hard

Everyone thinks their baby is the most adorable.

You found it difficult to leave your baby, due to undiagnosed PND and not having anyone to leave your baby with. I doubt that you would have said this to another mother:

'Gosh I don’t know how you can bear to leave your baby (I recently left mine with my sister for 4 hours for the first time), I don’t think I could leave Kevin as our bond is too strong and he needs me'

That implies that OP doesn't love or care about her baby as much as her friend does about hers, as OP was able to leave her baby with her sister. It is a passive-aggressive dig, rather than just a mum being totally besotted with her baby.

It’s normal, you whole life
changes so she’s realising this! Perhaps be just as annoying and say oh yes I remember it well, or you could say oh really I just felt life was exactly the same … not lol 😂