To find these comments from new mum friend intensely irritating

Aww don't overthink it. She's just in love with her baby. Although, an earlier poster bought up an important point: some people say what they feel they're supposed to say or give off a defensive image that they're ticking all the right boxes but actually inside they're struggling to manage and are feeling low/depressed/anxious/lost. Not everyone suffering with those feelings admits it outright or 'looks' like they're feeling that way.

I'd cut her some slack tbh and just smile and move on.

Just wait till Kev gets older, she won’t be saying this when he’s a gobby, know it all teenager.

obviously i’ve never done that either! but i find that a very uncharitable reading of the fairly benign comments given. imo OP is the one making it a comparison. new mum is just being a bit thoughtlessly gushy

I'd put most of this down to excitement and joy. Where it goes too far is the "I can't understand how you can..." comments, as she either lacks the social skill to realise that "I do this and can't understand how you don't" comments are critical, or she knows and is deliberately trying to 'out mum' you. I think I'd accept her comments about her own feelings with a smile, but challenge any that talked about mine or other mums.

I’d just stay away a little if you can if she’s being irritating, not obviously so as babies are not tiny for long. Meet up in a group if it’s possible and sit away from her.

It’ll pass, remind of her of this when Kevin hits the mad toddler phase and she’ll love/need a break (whether she admits it or not!).

She did, but the other way to view that is she's in the OMG I can't let go of this precious baby stage. Which is kind of normal when you are filled with hormones. Yes, she's being unreasonable, but it's the sort I'd ignore, bit like the drunk who says they love you. It'll pass. And is healthier than the drunk!

I remember my friend saying on her baby's first birthday how sometimes I just come home and look at him. And I thought it was so sweet and loving. Yes, of course he grew up too!

@DarklingIlisten not nice to start a thread to ridicule.

Does it even need a thread. Most people would just shrug or roll their eyes.

Except she was thinking about the OP's older baby when she made the comment about not being able to leave her baby. It's very clear in the OP's posts that the friend was questioning how the OP could leave her baby for a few hours as the friend couldn't dream about leaving (her much younger) baby. Perhaps if the friend could leave other parents out of it and not pass judgement on them, then the OP and others would find her less annoying.

A lot of people here are failing to realise. If you had a bad relationship with parents and never felt loved then sometimes that baby stage is incredibly healing, even my therapist told me that was a thing. Not everyone has the same life experiences. I absolutely loved the baby stage personally. Now my littlest is older, I can see in a more balanced way but back then it was different

Kevin would be a great name for a baby! 😁

If she is breast feeding then it's likely the hormones.
I physically couldn't leave my babies with anyone, it was actually painful to even contemplate it.
That's nature for you -it is perfectly normal

I was well annoying when I had my PFB. My mates didn’t tell me but my brother did (thank god). You need to remember though she has so many hormones going through her it’s like she’s hit a crack pipe.

You also don’t know - she could have struggled with fertility, she could be having issues and overcompensating, there’s many reasons she could be being cringe that are a bit more serious. Depending on how close you are, maybe tell, but only if you’re really really close and even then it’s a risk.

Trust me, it will wear off. By the time DS came around I was trying to hand my kids off to anyone who would have them lol. It definitely gets easier to let them out your sight…

I do agree. I always hated my job and back when I had my first DC, it was genuinely the first time I felt loved by anyone so I was really on cloud 9.

I would keep an eye on her as she may be struggling.

You're not a very nice friend to start a thread about her on here imo.

I think you are being sensitive. It's annoying, of course. But it's just how she is experiencing. It doesn't take anything away from you and your relationship with your baby. Rise above it.

My kids are now 11 and 8 and I just smile when people say this sort of stuff - for two reasons (1) it brings me back to that honeymoon phase of babyhood and (2) enjoy it while you can, at some point Kevin will be screaming he hates you while he slams the door in your face.

Smile and gently back away.
These type often morph into competitive mothers.
Beyond dull and tedious to be around, I just couldn't be listening to it.
They certainly aren't the type you EVER want to be confiding in that you are struggling or having a hard day.

Don't waste time on these type is my advice.

Some new mothers can be so annoying.

My sister would constantly talk about breastfeeding and tell me stats on breastfeeding and constant breastfeeding stories. It was so freaking annoying because I didn’t care.

I would feel sorry for her more than anything.

In three years time, she might well be cringing at her pfb obsession.

Nope, I never felt the need to compare my bond with my kids with my friends' bond with their kids and make it sound like mine is stronger/better/whatever. That's a realy odd and annoying thing to do, tbh.

Nod and smile

But if it continues, fade her out

I can't relate to assuming other mums don't love their babies as much as I do, no 😂And I don't think my response is "horrible", just a bit of gentle ribbing, which is a fairly standard way of pulling you friends up if they make slightly silly/insensitive comments, using a bit of humour to keep the tone friendly rather than allowing resentment to build up or making a Big Deal of it.

Do all people grow out of it?

I went out with dd, her friend and friend’s dm after A Levels. Friend’s mum kept going on, “Amelia and I have such a special bond”, “Amelia and I are not like other mothers and daughters”, “I’ll be devastated when Amelia goes to university because we’re so close.”

Dd said the look on my face was priceless!

I am not getting that from the comments you’ve put here unless there’s something more you haven’t shared

She obviously speaks in a more unfiltered way than you like so stop seeing her I guess