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Dementia and driving dc

32 replies

Puddingbox · 17/08/2025 21:45

My mil has dementia and is currently allowed to drive. However, she only drives specific routes and doesn't understand roadsigns. She doesn't drive in the dark as she finds it disorientating.
I don't want my dc in the car with heer anymore and my dh is upset by this and it did cause abit of a debate. I suspect mostly upset as reality of dementia is setting in. She has been diagnosed for 2 years and mid 70s.
WWYD? AIBU?

OP posts:
bilbodog · 17/08/2025 21:56

if this was my mother i would not want her driving at all. My father had dementia 35 years ago and we took the car away from him.

she only needs to be confused once to kill someone.

Hankunamatata · 17/08/2025 21:56

Has she informed dvla and insurance that she has dementia?

And no yanbu

Newtocycling · 17/08/2025 21:56

How can she be allowed to drive if she doesn’t understand road signs?

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/08/2025 21:55

Yanbu at all girl

I feel for her, but no x

Hankunamatata · 17/08/2025 21:54

What do you mean she doesnt understand road signs?

Puddingbox · 17/08/2025 21:47

Despite allowed by dvla?

OP posts:
bldy · 17/08/2025 21:46

of course you are not