Why does he remember everything I post

^this is spot on.

I don’t think OP wants to block him - she’s looking for people to say that he’s obviously into her and likes her more than he admits.

OP it’s up to you if you want to put yourself in danger.

At best he’s a controlling stalker who wants to keep you on your toes while mentioning his other women while ensuring you’re not having fun - at worst he’s a dangerous, aggressive man who has a temper.

If your bar is so low you’re viewing his behaviour as some kind of strange proof he likes you, I don’t know what else to say.

If you have even a shred of sense you’ll do what PP suggest and block him on everything.

OP, I say this genuinely I am seriously worried for you. You are not seeing all of the big red flags 🚩 we are seeing.

Please take the steps PPs have suggested immediately.

Stop questioning his motives it does not matter.

This man seriously sounds unhinged & controlling. You haven’t even been on a first date & already he is behaving like he owns you & has a right to know what you are doing.

That is not normal behaviour.

Tell him something has come up & that you have had to change your plans & BLOCK HIM ON EVERYTHING.

Then you need to take steps to lock your social media down. Make all of your accounts private & go through all of your followers. If you don’t recognise someone remove, even if you are unsure remove! If you remove a friend unknowingly they will soon tell you & you can add them back.

Also make sure that your hse if it is on Google Street View get it blurred out by Google. You just need to go to Street View, click Report a Problem & request for your property to be blurred out.

Make sure there is no information available publicly on you. Sorry I am not sure where you are so pls do whatever is the next step in getting this info unavailable for where you are. That includes the Electoral Register.

That then just leaves your phone number. Does he have it? Could he find it? Can you change it?

It may sound extreme taking these steps but these days we know there are a lot of crazies out there so we have to take precautions.

Do bear in mind that if at any point he does something to alarm you, you need to go to the Police. Do not hesitate or overthink it.

Especially if after locking all your Social Media down you hear from him you go to the Police.

Pls let us/me know that you have locked all of your profiles etc down.

This action is not an overreaction at all. You are taking action against a man who is displaying unhealthy behaviours that are clear red flags.

One last point which is important take Screenshots of all of his conversations and please tell your Family & Friends so that they are aware of this situation and the action that you have taken. Does your Family know your movements & routine? You need to ensure that your loved ones know.

This isn’t to alarm anyone but to ensure that someone will always be able to check in with you.

Im 50 & still my parents check in as I do them and the same with my own family.

Well done for reaching out to get other people’s thoughts on your situation.

Sometimes it can be difficult to see a situation for what it is when you are in the thick of it all.

Who cares why?

He's reading and re-reading your every post, with an unhealthy level of interest.

He's pulling you up on casual comments when he's just some random bloke on the internet

He's trying to track your plans for your visit.

The moment he asked for your hotel/room number, I'd have blocked him.

Borrowing someone's car implies a level of trust that does not exist, and would allow him to track your movements.

At best he is obsessive, manipulative and controlling. Block him and run for the hills. Don't stay at any of the hotels he suggested. Don't share personal details with random strangers again.

He’s a weirdo. Trust me, I found myself in a situation with some similarities. It didn’t end well, the police were involved, it took a long time to remove him from my life.

Don't victim blame her - she can post a different arm on socially media every night of the week of she likes, and this weirdo has zero right to question it.....

OP he obviously DOES want some form of control over you - but that means jack shit in terms of a meaningful relationship, so please don't be fooled.

It may well bother him that you are seeing other men. Because it hurts his ego and potentially limits his access to you. That doesn't mean he will give you commitment,love or fidelity - it just means he will expect it.

You contact him and he just replies "I'm busy" or he explains afterwards he hasn't been in touch because he's busy?

So many red flags anyway.

No. Just no.

Block, delete, unfriend, then run an effing mile. Then run some more.

Last time you posted about this you admitted taking money from this guy, and then wondered why he expected you to visit him. People concluded you were just as weird as he is!

He’s saying he isn’t interested so he can keep his life private and choose what he tells you, then wants to know everything about your movements …
I wouldn’t find him remembering your posts if you were in an actual relationship… he could just have a great memory…. But the other things are weird!!

Block him.
It's pointless wasting time on this.

Because he’s lying so you trust him, or think nothing of it.

He’s fucking terrifying.

Why “work out a story”? Why is the advice on here always to lie to someone? You’re adults. Just say “no thank you”, block, move on. No need for works of fiction.

He's an emotionally disturbed control freak. Block immediately.

For exactly the reason you just questioned. He is unhinged. Stalker. Serial killer. Abuser. Take your puck, but he ain't right. Block and run.

Why do you care? You said you don't have high expectations for this and aren't taking it seriously so just block and move on.

Not sure what your problem is. He sounds amazing. He’s interested in your posts and what’s to know where you’re staying.

Firstly - such a shame, the reunion moved to Iowa at my mum's cousin, so we won't be able to meet. Secondly - what information does the crazy man have to be able to find you? You need to ensure he is blocked in every direction.

He sounds super creepy op. Worryingly so.

WHO cares? apart from you

Honestly...
Spend your time focusing on your own safety not why he does X when he says Y

this guy sounds controlling and his behaviouris alarming... get him out of your life ASAP.

He's rubbing a big red flag all over your face, OP.

I assume he knows where you live? That's more easily done in the US than here in the UK, I think. I would definitely end it. I'd tell him the event was cancelled - make up a reason - and then I'd block him. Does he know where the event was going to take place?

The remembering stuff, that's not all that odd, I have one of those good memories and remember not only peoples posts and emails but also conversations verbatim - a lot of people can do that without trying.

However the rest of your story, hotel etc, as others have said, I would strongly suggest moving away from this relationship and breaking contact.