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Why does he remember everything I post

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Janelizzy · 17/08/2025 21:21

I have been talking to a man from out of state intermittently. I don’t take it seriously; the conversation is enjoyable, and we have a lot in common, but I don’t have high expectations for it.

I’ve noticed that he remembers everything I post on social media and brings it up. If we go a week or two without talking, he reminds me about my posts. For example, I posted a picture of my cousin's arm while we were out for dinner, and he mentioned that I go on dates. When I denied it, he responded, saying, “You were on a date last week; arm on your story.” I can hardly keep track of my own social media, so how does he remember everything I post?

I recently told him that I haven’t had a drink in months, and he responded, “You had drinks a few weeks ago; you posted it.” He seems to remember everything—every picture and every quote. I have watched so many movies on Tubi; maybe I’m overreacting since I haven’t even met him yet. However, if I decide to take a leap and see him, are these concerns valid?

The he started bringing up other women while I was on the phone with him

He’ll be like “I’m tired of stupid women, why is this girl texting me”.

“The restaurant you showed me, I know the girl that works there”

“On the plane they have barf bags, when I was on vacation with this girl she used one”

later that day he called me
update he called me later that night, I’m visiting his state soon cause I have a family reunion down there planned. He sent me some hotel suggestions, yet got soo upset when I wouldn’t tell him what hotel I’m staying out. He said well why are you being weird why won’t you tell me what room you’re staying out he was almost yelling. Then told me that I didn’t need to rent a car, that I could just drive his …..

I know this is all over the place but why is he acting like this ….. why does he care especially since he said he’s not looking for anything serious

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Myme · 18/08/2025 06:34

The OP has posted about this at least once before and ignored all the advice that time and will probably ignore all the exact same advice this time. Probably because he gives her money so she’ll keep dragging it out.

PollyBell · 18/08/2025 06:32

Janelizzy · 18/08/2025 06:20

What do you mean once hooked he won’t let go? I don’t even live in the same state as him ? We’ve been talking on and off since may. I ended things with him the first time

First time? You know what do but I am guessing you enjoy the attention?

Henbags · 18/08/2025 06:31

It’s Jekyll and Hyde, as in Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. It’s not a woman called Jacqueline High.

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Janelizzy · 18/08/2025 06:20

Silvertulips · 18/08/2025 06:16

He also got out of a 4 year relationship like 5 months ago

What difference does that make?

Ultimately, you know something is wrong, you posted because you have a gut feeling. You need to listen to yourself - trust yourself.

DF was warned, 10 years later and 2 more children she was left battered from his rages and jealously, left with nothing to feed the kids, affairs, STDs - and it doesn’t end there with custody battles, threats, police, social services.

If this is what you are looking for crack on, but you have been warned by several posters who can see coming

Once hooked he won’t let go. You’ll never have a social life, you’ll never meet your friends, End it while you still have your own life. .

What do you mean once hooked he won’t let go? I don’t even live in the same state as him ? We’ve been talking on and off since may. I ended things with him the first time

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YesImaman1100 · 18/08/2025 06:19

Run a mile, this is loony material.
I can hear the red flags in the wind from here!!!

Silvertulips · 18/08/2025 06:16

He also got out of a 4 year relationship like 5 months ago

What difference does that make?

Ultimately, you know something is wrong, you posted because you have a gut feeling. You need to listen to yourself - trust yourself.

DF was warned, 10 years later and 2 more children she was left battered from his rages and jealously, left with nothing to feed the kids, affairs, STDs - and it doesn’t end there with custody battles, threats, police, social services.

If this is what you are looking for crack on, but you have been warned by several posters who can see coming

Once hooked he won’t let go. You’ll never have a social life, you’ll never meet your friends, End it while you still have your own life. .

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Typicalwave · 18/08/2025 06:06

Run.

chatgptsbestmate · 18/08/2025 06:04

Givenupshopping · 18/08/2025 00:38

Last time you posted about this you admitted taking money from this guy, and then wondered why he expected you to visit him. People concluded you were just as weird as he is!

I'd agree. Ffs just block him. Or admit you are enjoying the attention 🙄

zaazaazoom · 18/08/2025 06:01

OP do you have a history of poor relationships or of none at all?
I otherwise don't understand why you are wasting time thinking about this man.
He definitely is bad news. He will be controlling, he obviously has a low opinion of women and is a creep.
Anyone one of those is reason to walk away.
No.point trying to understand him. He is not worth the energy.
Most people who have healthy outlooks on relationships would walk away at anyone of the above red flags. If you are not it is a major issue.
Trying to analyse a wanker is pointless. Instead save your energy to find a decent guy.

I would.look to doing the freedom programme as I fear you have such a low bar. This will.help you spot all of these red flags and then just leave.

autienotnaughty · 18/08/2025 05:59

People do lie. He’s saying he’s casual but then he’s acting like a possessive, creepy stalker. Listen to his actions and walk away.

user1492757084 · 18/08/2025 05:57

You are sharing too much on open social media, Op.

Many people remember what they read.
It isn't that odd to read what a person posts.

You need to change the settings on your facebook.

Restrict what you share with some people. Allocate some people as close friends and others as contacts, work mates etc.

This guy doesn't need to know anything more about you.
You seem unable to watch out for yourself, naive perhaps.

Janelizzy · 18/08/2025 05:46

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He also got out of a 4 year relationship like 5 months ago

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EscargotChic · 18/08/2025 04:46

And OP, listen to everyone on here. He sounds dangerous.

EscargotChic · 18/08/2025 04:44

LyricalGangsta · 18/08/2025 04:37

Who is Jaqueline High?

I think it’s an autocorrect / mishearing of Jekyll and Hyde.

Janelizzy · 18/08/2025 04:43

LyricalGangsta · 18/08/2025 04:37

Who is Jaqueline High?

It’s a saying, when someone act one way to you, then the next act different.

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LyricalGangsta · 18/08/2025 04:37

Who is Jaqueline High?

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Janelizzy · 18/08/2025 03:30

Im actually not enjoying this .. I’m confused with the behavior it’s like jacqueline high? I just wanted some clarification and opinions.

Well you've had lots. He sounds unsafe. Lock down social media and run.

Eenameenadeeka · 18/08/2025 03:32

He sounds intense, I'd stop communicating with him

Janelizzy · 18/08/2025 03:30

SpidersAreShitheads · 18/08/2025 02:58

^this is spot on.

I don’t think OP wants to block him - she’s looking for people to say that he’s obviously into her and likes her more than he admits.

OP it’s up to you if you want to put yourself in danger.

At best he’s a controlling stalker who wants to keep you on your toes while mentioning his other women while ensuring you’re not having fun - at worst he’s a dangerous, aggressive man who has a temper.

If your bar is so low you’re viewing his behaviour as some kind of strange proof he likes you, I don’t know what else to say.

If you have even a shred of sense you’ll do what PP suggest and block him on everything.

Im actually not enjoying this .. I’m confused with the behavior it’s like jacqueline high? I just wanted some clarification and opinions.

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