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To be pissed off at inconsiderate colleagues?

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TreatTreat · 17/08/2025 16:41

I scheduled a day off this week to wfh. I had importabt deliveries and stuff to do in my area after work. Apart from one other colleague who was away, all others were in. I've just checked calendars and others have since booked leave without checking anyone else's calendar which takes the absolute fucking piss as I'll have to go in as mine was wfh and theirs is leave they've officially booked. There will only be one other person in the office and im not about to leave them on their own. Its a busy office. I am so tired. This has happened before.

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BauhausOfEliott · 21/08/2025 16:31

YABU to think you WFH means other people shouldn't book leave. You should booked leave yourself if you can't do your whole job from home and were expecting other colleagues to fill in for you by going into the office.

Nookfoot · 21/08/2025 16:25

I scheduled a day off this week to wfh

I think you need to be careful using language like that. Was it a day off or wfh? Why woukd you describe it as a day off if you plan to do a full days' work. Carry on like that and the privilege of working from home will be removed altogether.

Should colleagues really have not taken their leave so you could wfh? If you're not off then you need to be a available to do the work required of you.

NImumconfused · 21/08/2025 16:20

Certainly in our organisation, WFH is completely at the discretion of your manager - if they want you in the office on a particular day for a specific reason, eg face to face meeting or in your case having enough staff physically available in the office to deal with clients, they're entitled to insist, and annual leave would take precedence over WFH. WFH doesn't exist to accommodate people's deliveries and errands.

Truetoself · 21/08/2025 16:14

I don’t think they have done anything wrong to be honest …… is there a rule when someone has scheduled to work from home, there must be adequate cover in the office?

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 15:56

PhilippaGeorgiou · 17/08/2025 21:02

I scheduled a day off this week to wfh
Freudian slips can be quite telling. Your colleagues quite properly booked leave to do things they wanted to do. Working from home is not "a day off" it is "working", with the emphasis being on work priorities, not things you want to do outside of work.

That is a bloody good point! One to which you didn’t get a response, which speaks volumes!

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 15:56

I was on your other thread about Calendar clashes at work…. Clearly you have an issue with scheduling

and so bloody cheeky too!!

PhilippaGeorgiou · 17/08/2025 21:02

I scheduled a day off this week to wfh
Freudian slips can be quite telling. Your colleagues quite properly booked leave to do things they wanted to do. Working from home is not "a day off" it is "working", with the emphasis being on work priorities, not things you want to do outside of work.

QPZM · 17/08/2025 20:38

itbemay1 · 17/08/2025 20:32

Sorry OP but I’m not booking my A/L around your WFH days!

Same!

I'd be buggered if I'd let someone's deliveries and stuff to do after work in their own area, affect my annual leave!

And it would appear the manager who approved the leave would agree.

itbemay1 · 17/08/2025 20:32

Sorry OP but I’m not booking my A/L around your WFH days!

RJ2023 · 17/08/2025 19:51

Why did you check everyone's calendars today? Sometimes it is better not to know things because now you have made yourself angry on a Sunday evening and can't claim you didn't know about the lack of cover in the office if a manager phones you when you are working from home.

gamerchick · 17/08/2025 19:22

TreatTreat · 17/08/2025 16:59

Most of our client communication is by telephone. Sometimes clients will come into the office though and this can be very stressful for someone on their own trying to juggle everything.

Then there will have to be change to booking annual leave then, wont there.

ChateauProvence · 17/08/2025 19:20

There’s no way I’d consider not booking holiday because someone wanted to wfh that’s ridiculous. Use your leave for your personal errands if they are that important - talk about a piss take

loobylou10 · 17/08/2025 18:38

If you had to be at home you should have booked AL. Surely AL trumps your desire to WFH.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 17/08/2025 17:57

They haven’t done anything wrong, you aren’t on leave. If you choose to go in then that’s up to you

Overthebow · 17/08/2025 17:50

But you’re still working, they’ve booked it off as leave. They’ve done nothing wrong. If you want a day to do your errands then book it as leave too.

LumpyandBumps · 17/08/2025 17:47

I have never WFH and assumed there was some element of it being contingent on meeting the needs of the business, so am surprised at so many people saying not to go in.
You have already identified that your colleagues have priority as they are on leave and you are working, but want to do so at home.
How many days are you allowed to WFH?
Unless it is a very limited number then it doesn’t seem fair to me for a colleague not to be granted AL because of another choosing to work at home.
I don’t think your colleagues are being inconsiderate in booking their limited amount of AL when they want to take it.
If the manager is expected to check WFH as well as who else is on AL then it is up to them to direct who needs to be present.
It has been suggested that the lone colleague who is left in the office can hold the fort. Maybe they are happy to do so, but surely they will need the odd comfort break, and if the manager has been negligent it is their responsibility to accommodate this.

Mumof2wifeof1crazytimes · 17/08/2025 17:46

YABU. If I needed to book AL I would not not book it because someone needed to wfh. AL trumps annual leave, you should have booked leave on this date.

DarcyProudman · 17/08/2025 17:41

beAsensible1 · 17/08/2025 17:34

Don’t go in. Don’t be a martyr and next time who ever manages/approves leave will
make sure they don’t have too many leave at once.

it’s not on you to fix the mistake and no one has asked you to. And I doubt they’ll thank you either

Edited

But she should’ve booked annual leave!

beAsensible1 · 17/08/2025 17:34

Don’t go in. Don’t be a martyr and next time who ever manages/approves leave will
make sure they don’t have too many leave at once.

it’s not on you to fix the mistake and no one has asked you to. And I doubt they’ll thank you either

StinkyCheeseMoose · 17/08/2025 17:31

It would be absurd if people were not allowed to take annual leave in peak holiday season so you can work from home.

There's a significant aspect of your job that cannot be done from home, so it would be unreasonable of your manager to deny requests for annual leave so colleagues can cover for you when you are supposed to be working.

If you want to stay at home, request the day off.

QuickFawn · 17/08/2025 17:27

I guess that was the risk you took wfh rather than booking the day off 🤷‍♀️

Icecreamandcoffee · 17/08/2025 17:22

Unfortunately it is a busy time of year for booking holidays, the manager should have checked calendars before approving any leave. Did you officially book a WFH day (in the shared staff calendar as @TreatTreat is WFH) or have you just planned it hoping everyone is in but it's not actually in the shared staff calendar? If it is officially booked in the calendar then the manager obviously doesn't think it is a problem for you to WFH and others to have leave.

Everyone I know is wrangling for time off at the moment. Anyone with school age children has been massively restricted due to the government's stance on term time holidays and fines. Childcare costs are through the roof for holidays. Plus it's a bank holiday weekend approaching.

Why can't you WFH and colleague work from office? Do you have the same role? If so, surely you can arrange with colleague that you will pick up the majority of telephone calls from home and they can focus on in person clients? If you are not set up for taking calls and it is predicted to be busy with in person clients too then the manager is not unreasonable to say you both need to be in the office. In future you may need to book leave (can you book a half day or take TOIL?) if you have deliveries or lots of things on after work that you can't have wiggle room on.

DarcyProudman · 17/08/2025 17:19

Why didn’t you just book the day as leave then?

Hatty65 · 17/08/2025 17:07

TreatTreat · 17/08/2025 16:59

Most of our client communication is by telephone. Sometimes clients will come into the office though and this can be very stressful for someone on their own trying to juggle everything.

Then that's unfortunate for them that all your other colleagues booked leave, surely?

Unless you'd just assumed you would work from home that day and not booked it? If you've booked to be at home, be at home.

CopperWhite · 17/08/2025 17:04

If you’re supposed to be working, it’s reasonable for the business to say you need to be in to cover staff leave in the middle of the summer holidays. WFH is supposed to be flexible both ways and is already a bonus for you.