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To completely ignore 2 faced neighbour?

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picklerosa · 17/08/2025 16:01

I did get on relatively well with NDN and always thought she was nice.

I had an issue with other neighbours kids constantly trespassing on my property and when I got big fences erected one neighbour had an issue with it and stopped talking too me.

My NDN is very friendly and pally with this neighbour, they are Facebook friends, go round for cuppas etc.

I heard from a friend who lives down the road ( an elderly couple) that my NDN has been slagging me of and talking about me to other neighbours.

Basically siding with this other neighbour (whom I have only engaged with a few times, I just didn’t like her son constantly walking past my windows and playing on my drive).

Since all this my NDN dosent really talk to me as she used too.
Just says “hello” and walks off.
Definitely an atmosphere.

Seeing as she is siding with this other neighbour I don’t want to be doing her any favours.

Having her parcels delivered too me whilst she is at work.

Letting her visitors park in my drive when she has parties.

Collecting her bins when she is at work.

Allowing her to use my green bin so she’s doesn’t have to pay for one.

AIBU to be stopping this?
She isn’t friendly at all anymore and I am not a mug end of the day.
Surely the other neighbour can help her out.

OP posts:
Kingoftheroad · 17/08/2025 16:15

Stop it all - ignore both of them

Lmnop22 · 17/08/2025 16:14

I agree you shouldn’t have to do favours for someone who’s clearly distancing themselves from your friendship and disagrees with you about the trespassing kids issue.

BUT I would think long and hard about stirring up ill feeling between you and your NDN because a neighbour who says a friendly hello and might do return favours for you with parcels/parking is better than a neighbour who active dislikes you and potentially starting a feud.

Neighbours are the absolute worst people to fall out with because they can create so much drama especially when coming to sell your house and coming up with petty reasons to argue with you.

If you can just rub along as you are now but stop going above and beyond (like just don’t do her bins if she isn’t there and say no to the delivery man with her parcels as she will never know) but I wouldn’t overtly have a row

user1476613140 · 17/08/2025 16:12

I don't talk to my ndn at all. Blank them as they're selfish tits.

Do as you please. Sounds like yours is out of order.

Tartanboots · 17/08/2025 16:10

Don't get involved in the drama OP. If you no longer want to do them favours, then don't, but don't give the gossip any headspace. The elderly couple are shit stirring.

Ilikewinter · 17/08/2025 16:09

Yeah I would deffo stop doing all that stuff for her - YANBU

LuckysDadsHat · 17/08/2025 16:09

Nope not unreasonable at all, but i do expect she will kick off somewhat as that's what rude, cheeky fucker neighbours do!

cherrytree12345 · 17/08/2025 16:08

Absolutely agree with your ideas, perks that come from being a friendly neighbour should be withdrawn - as you say the other neighbour who she is friendly with can now ‘fill in the gaps’. If she is being off with you anyway you have nothing to loose.