Hobby tainted

Hobby comes and goes; starts and stops. What’s the big deal? Just ignore them and enjoy your hobby. Tell them you don’t need their judgment nor commentary.

Ah, I was on your side, but now you’ve lost me.
Creatures should not be kept in captivity ☹️

You think it's delightful to buy fish, get bored of them and sell them to random strangers on eBay?

Maybe not, but as humans we can see the bigger picture.

Caring after other species is an honor and joy.

Right up to the point you get bored and put them on Ebay!

Well it’s a power grab. What you deserve is respect. No wonder you are shocked. I have adult children it seems essential that they belittle you to bolster themselves. Part of the cruel way of separation. They’re trying to put you in your place .. downwards. Husband is just enjoying it because he wouldn’t dare.
you’re going to have to take it on the chin, know what it is and carry on. They think they are liberated from you by this mockery and defiance. Just agree with them and buy more. I think your hobby sounds delightful. Caring after other species is an honor and joy. Though the cleaning out just sounds like a bit more housework. All power to you and your fish. You could say to them that you’re sorry it might sometimes inconvenience them but you just love it despite everything, like you love them.

Instead of raising your blood pressure unnecessarily, if you see a repeated response, it is clearly not visible to everyone.

i suggest the whole post and thread is tainted because of the way it was written originally.

If op decides to inflict fish on her family, expect any response they give 🍤

All you need to do is click on the " Read all posts by OP" button. No need to read 20 pages.

Mumsnet police to the fore 🫡
Some of us work and don’t read through pages of replies. If she had said fish keeping in the OP, I’d imagine many would not have bothered responding, myself included. And it may even explain the family’s response because some people just don’t like fish.

Well you can tell them to piss off to their rooms during that two hours if they don't like it. Remind them you're a grown woman and you don't, under any circumstances, want or need their permission to enjoy your own hobby in your own home.

Oh dear god.

Maybe MNHQ need to edit the thread title to just read FISHKEEPING. THE HOBBY IS FISHKEEPING

I think this is truly the worst thread for it that I have ever come across

I give up.

I can't answer without knowing your hobby.

I assume she means bodies of water and the concept of drowning in the sea or lake rather than tap water!

You're "absolutely terrified" of water? What do you do about washing and drinking?

OK so it's fishkeeping! Well you need to understand what issues they have with that. Honestly.

Well, no. If OP's family have an issue with it, they need to explain it.

if this is the actual hobby then I’m calling bullshit on the cheapness of the hobby, as a fellow fish keeper. There are so many more expenses, space taken up and a lot of work to keep on top of and do properly

The fact you won't name the hobby makes me think it's something you are a little embarrassed about? And perhaps they are too??
You need to reflect on why they DO care so much, and then carry on if you enjoy it, with changes if possible to address their issues.
And talk to them about how hurt you felt. They probably don't realise.

OK so it's fishkeeping! Well you need to understand what issues they have with that. Honestly.

Ive got to say OP, I was all for you until I saw your hobby was fishkeeping!
My DF was an avid (read obsessive🙄) fish keeper and I hated it so much. We would always dread the bigger and bigger tanks arriving and being dragged to so many Aquarists every weekend as children. It took over our lives and I HATE fish! Absolutely terrified of them and water in general.

When my DF got a new fish tank a few years ago following an huge medical trauma, we all gave him some heavy ribbing (but we weren't actually joking! My DM was dreading it) because he goes over the top so we made him promise to only get one small tank which he's stuck to. So im half and half. I originally voted YANBU but when I saw FK, I wished I could change it 😂

That aside, I wouldn't accept being spoken to in the way you've described by my DC, I would be sitting them down and explaining that whilst they can have an opinion and voice it if appropriate, the way they spoke to you wasn't acceptable and explain why.

Ok, what I’m getting from this, as you say it’s cheap, but it’s messy while you’re doing it, so this hobby isn’t something you’re doing on your own, in the back room out of the way.
my understanding is, your overtaking one on the main areas of the house to do this hobby, which they see as inconsiderate.
so if your partner is ribbing you along with the kids then turn the tables on him whilst he’s there, and suggest he get you a fully equipped shed at the bottom of the garden, or you move.
or, the kids can bunk up and you can have one of their rooms. It really is quite easy to shut people up, especially when it’s your house and you can do what you like in your own home. You should say, they should be thankful you’re not into nude cleaning.

May I suggest posters click on ' Read all posts' to see OP's updates on what the hobby is? It's keeping fish.

Dear OP,
I got bored and stopped reading your post and skipped to last couple of lines. Two thoughts occurred, firstly; you do have some issues yourself about your hobby because if “loads of people do it”, just say what it is. Secondly, your DH and DC are picking up on something in you about this hobby and attacking that. You clearly do not feel “justified” in your hobby because you are going to such lengths here to justify it. Have you left some information out?

Busy packaging up her recently bought fish to return to the pet store or off load on gumtree

I doubt OP will come back to this thread now.