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To give honest feedback to estate agent?

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Apricotily · 17/08/2025 14:25

Do you give truthful negative feedback when viewing a house with an estate agent? I'm autistic but can mask what I feel and say, when I know that saying the truth might offend someone. To me, looking at a house with an estate agent isn't this sort of situation. Hope that makes sense.

We've viewed a few houses this week with estate agents. One seemed incredibly offended when I share my thoughts, e.g. she was saying how wonderful the kitchen was, I said that it was clearly 20 years old and even then wasn't a great kitchen. She asked what I meant, so I explained that it was a cheap, plastic kitchen, which it was! It was wood effect laminate and blue plastic worktop. She made me repeat what I had said, presumably to embarass me. What's the point of this?

There were other features that I liked and said so, e.g. the garden was small and mostly pebbles, I said how nice it looked and that we wanted a low maintenance garden. Other people might well have been put off and said they would prefer a larger garden, or a lawn. Surely they need to give genuine feedback to their clients? I've had other estate agents say that it is "refreshing" to hear genuine feedback, which I think is probably indicative that they aren't used to it.

When we sold our house, any feedback was useful. Some of it we could do something about, some not, e.g. people who thought our garden was too small, it's a fair point but nothing we could do. People who thought the kitchen was dated, we could do something about, e.g. new cupboard doors in a more fashionable colour.

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Clairey1986 · 17/08/2025 14:30

Yanbu, that’s the point of an estate agent that you can say something to them vs the owner. A good estate agent would have responded by confirming how functional the kitchen was which would allow you to keep it until it could be upgraded, or/and note this was reflected in the price of the house.

Not everyone will be as direct so it probably is a shock but you’re not doing anything wrong.

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