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My child having no father is going to affect him?

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ForFunWriter · 16/08/2025 23:50

Short Term relationship and had a child. I was too far along and had found out his lies, mostly about money and got sick of him lying about ex. He walked and I’ve not seen him again.

I never met his family and neither did he meet mine. They aren’t interested.

My family are estranged from me mostly. my parents love their grand baby but are 70s so not much longer. My siblings have bullied me a lot and I felt emotionally neglected. Tried nhs therapy.

I have realised that my son isn’t being set up for the best start in life and I wish he didnt have to suffer. I find it hard to make friends so no one else to help. I hope he has a good life because I feel like I can’t give him much.

Will he always think he’s missed out?

OP posts:
GottaBeStrong · 17/08/2025 00:08

Better to raise him alone than to raise him around people who are not emotionally healthy for him.

SlushMountain · 17/08/2025 00:08

My kids don’t see their dad it has 100% affected them I do think people are dismissive on how much affect it can have

murasaki · 17/08/2025 00:08

He'll make some in preschool, school, take him to the park, it'll be fine. Please don't worry.

ForFunWriter · 17/08/2025 00:07

menopausalfart · 17/08/2025 00:03

I didn't need anyone else but my mum. Just don't make the mistake my DM did and marry a hideous bloke, he'll be absolutely fine.

I don’t think I know any lone parents, just lone parent children from sperm donors, but that feels it’s more of a recent thing. there was children when I was at school but I honestly didn’t care.

do you think your nasty step father clouded your judgement or do you think one parent family is ok? I’m worried for my son

OP posts:
ForFunWriter · 17/08/2025 00:05

My parents don’t live close and I can’t move to them

I don’t have any friends, what makes you think he will?

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menopausalfart · 17/08/2025 00:03

I didn't need anyone else but my mum. Just don't make the mistake my DM did and marry a hideous bloke, he'll be absolutely fine.

murasaki · 16/08/2025 23:56

You love him, his grandparents do, enjoy the time they have with him, he will make friends, he has you and that's what he needs. You will be just fine. And friends will come. He is loved, he loves you, it's all good. Please don't worry.

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