I don’t feel feminine…any advice?

Anyway, if other women like male attention and seek it out, or encourage it in their manner of walking or eating as you described, I don’t see why that’s a problem for you? You can do what you want, behave how you like, and others can to do the same.

What OP means by feminine is particular to her. You don’t need to sneer; if you think it’s a ridiculous concept, that’s up to you.
Other people are allowed to feel differently about themselves. She’s looking for suggestions people may have, nothing wrong with that, and didn’t mention being attractive to men, so why the mockery?

Start small if you have to, even if it is literally just an hour of blocked off time. I appreciate it can be difficult. You do need to carve out time for yourself though, I think it's fundamental for every human.

Rocks and crystals?
Surely we really need the laughing emoji back.

Is there a woman IRL who you admire? If so can you model your self more like her. Not copy because you are different to her.
If not then a character from fiction. The when a situation is coming up at work or home you briefly think: How would Jane or Elizabeth dealt with this. or "How would Jane Austen have written this for me to cope with".

Some very traditional ideas of what is 'feminine' 😬

Crystals, croissants and aprons? I must be a man, a very masculine man. 😂

Do you not find that the slave labour used in mining the quartz, the habit destruction, and the work-related lung diseases suffered by the quartz miners negatively impacts your feminine energy?

I think it sounds like a normal reaction to a stressful living situation where your partner is working 12 hour shifts and things seem never ending. Its very easy to lose ourselves when life is like that. First and foremost you need to do something restful for yourself, can you speak to your husband and talk about making a dedicated time every week that you take for yourself? Where he is fully responsible for the children and the home in a way that isn't just piling up more for you to do.

What does feminine feel like? 🤔
Do you mean no man looks at you? Feeling feminine is just female coded message for receiving male attention.

I don’t think anyone “feels” feminine. You can’t walk around during the day feeling feminine. What does it mean?
In my observation the women who say they feel feminine are usually full of themselves and do anything for male attention. Even the way they walk..that exaggerated sway when they swing their hips. Or even the way they eat, taking little bites and pretending they are not that hungry. I bet they just trample around the house when nobody is watching them and eat like pigs 😆

Get yourself makeup lessons and build up a good makeup kit. Try and get to the gym twice a week. Invest in nice clothes that you like yo wear. Get your eyebrows done once a month.

It's full on with young kids as they can be so demanding and life just feels 'hard', so you can feel like you just become 'hard' too. But you are still the same person as you were before.

Why do you characterise your “issue” as not being feminine enough though? You might shout too much, be seen as unapproachable etc and you want to change that - fine. But it doesn’t make you “unfeminine”. Many women as feisty, many men aren’t. Address it or don’t. But don’t make out like there is some soft, sweet ideal that women should live up to and men avoid.

You can get chunks of rose quartz quite cheaply on Etsy. Also purple amethyst.

Calcite is another crystal that's quite inexpensive - lemon or orange calcite to energise you, or green (pistachio) or blue (Caribbean calcite) are more calming.

I always find water helps me to feel uplifted and connected. Even just the Thames when I'm walking over Hammersmith bridge! If you live near the sea or a river, it's good to just feel the energy of the tides and remember the magnetic pull to the moon. And breathe.., Let the stress wash away with the tides. I also love looking at sunlight on water. Always cheers me up. And it's free!

Yes, with crystals, you can wear them or just have them on your bedside table or in your bag.

People will laugh and whatever, but you may need to realign your chakras. Rose quartz or pink amethyst can help you go easy on yourself and others. Purple amethyst is great for self reflection and insight. Citrine works with the solar plexus to bring in the energy snd radiance if the sun. Moonstone, on the other hand, is great for reconnecting with feminine energy. Have a Google about all the various crystals that correspond to the different chakras. Or just see which crystals call to you.

I do that too… I’m a bit of a thief in that way. Does everyone do this? If I see someone with traits I really admire, or if I see them handle a particular situation really well, I’ll sort of pinch it for myself to try and use next time. It’s not doing it in a phony way - just learning from others how to do things better, handle things more efficiently, etc.