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First night away with new boyfriend - should I be wary…

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AnnaJ89 · 16/08/2025 18:17

I went away with my boyfriend of 4 months last night and was a bit taken aback by some of his ‘habits’ let’s say. Prior to this, all has been going great with no red flags.

He booked the night as a treat for me. A few issues:

-He street parked a 15 minute walk away so we struggled along with bags because ‘the hotel had no parking’. Turns out it did have parking, but he felt it was a rip off at £15 a night. I’d have happily chipped in if I knew in advance.

-I went in to the bathroom to get ready and there was thick hairs in the sink. I pointed this out and he said he was grooming ‘down below’ and had forgot to clear it. Eww

-We had a really nice meal in the hotel restaurant. I casually remarked my side was a bit lukewarm but still really tasty. Despite me saying not to, he made an issue of this to the waitress much to my embarrassment.

-He used the loo this morning and left the door wide open , shouting out to me whilst sat there for what felt like 10 minutes.

Would you give the benefit of the doubt or take this as an early warning?

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SummingUp · 16/08/2025 18:26

YANBU however I don't think these are showstoppers if you are both younger. Just give him a bit of feedback. If over 30 though then yes worrying!

JLou08 · 16/08/2025 18:24

The public hair in the sink would make me feel sick and may put me off! The others aren't too bad and the hair issue may have been a genuine mistake. I'd also rather walk 15 minutes than pay 15 for the car park unless it was absolutely throwing it down and blowing a gale. I'd give it a bit more time.

ChocolatePodge · 16/08/2025 18:23

Tight, mean and revolting habits, I don't see these as small issues 😬

Whataholiday · 16/08/2025 18:22

The hair in the sink is gross and would put me off.

PringlesTube · 16/08/2025 18:21

Ew no. Throw this one back.

SnackAckerTack · 16/08/2025 18:21

Ew

Big ick!!

Ponoka7 · 16/08/2025 18:20

It depends on the night you've had. I'd go through what I wasn't happy about and what I find completely unacceptable, such as toilet door open. His reaction will give you your answer.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 16/08/2025 18:20

I'd get the ick tbh 😄, i'd just be pissed off

But these aren't things that cant be fixed

Was he nervous, maybe? x