First night away with new boyfriend - should I be wary…

I’m with you on all point except the restaurant. I’d absolutely send it back if it’s lukewarm!!

There is a very funny SATC scene with Miranda about that exact same scenario 😂

Urrrghhhh to all (except possibly the parking). And this is early on in the heady stages of early romance, so as good as it gets.

I wouldn't pay £15 to park overnight either, I'd definitely be hauling my bag for miles than pay that 😂

All the other stuff are ICK, the way he complained to the waitress and embarrassed you is the red flag. The way someone treats staff in the service industry shows their character.

I wouldn't want to see him again after this.

More to the point how much bloody luggage was she taking for a weekend that it weighed her down doing a short walk

It's quite early into a relationship and usually at this stage you're on your best behavior. The gross bits speak volumes to me; what will he do when he is really comfortable around you?

What because I raised the very fair point that he might too have a list after spending the night with OP?

Is that you, op’s scuzzy boyfriend?

Oh my god, throw him back. He doesn't know how to behave properly in any given situation. This will only get worse.

He shouldn't have to be told not to be tight or embarrassing on a special occasion, or not to cut his pubes and leave the evidence for you to find, or, empty his bowels with the bloody door open.

It sounds like it's all about him, with no consideration for anyone else.

I think the manscaping and leaving it the sink would be the deal breaker. A man who can’t clean up after himself is a major ick. The open toilet door is a close second.

I don’t mind a 15 minute walk so that would be fine with me.

The restaurant thing would annoy me, because I’m perfectly capable of sending food back myself and after 4 months I’d expect him to know that.
all things together, er no thanks.

Can't believe I've done what i thought was impossible and replied to the wrong post. Please disregard my message! It was a AMA about male prison!

Urgh, I'm sorry but on your first night away together? I mean, it's not going to get any better is it? I've been with my partner three years and he would still never do any of that.

But then again, what might he list about her? What might the replies be?

"She expected me to spend £15 on parking when it was a short walk to a free car park!" She's so lazy, I bet she'd got half the wardrobe with her that's why, I bet you'd spent a fortune already but of course she demands more
"Her meal wasn't OK but she wouldn't say anything." Such a wet blanket, she's just a people pleaser and won't speak up, she wanted you to be a man...

Then maybe the things OP isn't aware he doesn't like either. Maybe:
She took so long putting her make up on we were nearly late
She left used make up wipes on the side
She unpacked her entire suitcase into the drawers so it took ages to get ready to leave
She chews noisily/with her mouth open
She didn't pack her dirty knickers into a separate bag to bring home

You're frustrated enough about it to post here.
His behaviour shows you who he is.

That'd be a no from me.

It’s a bit gross on a romantic weekend away. He should be wooing you not putting you off!

For one night away I'd hardly have enough with me to be "lugging" it anywhere...

The same type of man who leaves skid marks in the loo - he's probably saving that little treat for the OP to find on their next romantic night away.

He COMBED them? 🤯🤯🤯 Surely he cut? Or trimmed or something? Either way, gross. Who did he think was going to clean them up? Did he think she was going to brush her teeth over them or something? Yuk.

I just cringe a bit at stories like this. It’s so so easy to use your brain a bit, then he’d have a lovely woman (presumably) writing about what a wonderful night away it is and how she can’t wait for the next one…but instead she’s writing this and we’re all shuddering a bit.

the hair issue may have been a genuine mistake

Mistake or not - who the hell combs their pubic hair over the sink?

This is the romance stage and this is what he is doing?

its a no from me

The loo thing would be the end for me

Despite me saying not to, he made an issue of this to the waitress much to my embarrassment.

He doesn't hear it when you say no.

EDIT - it's subtle. I missed this when it happened to me. In fact it's so subtle you just thought it was embarrassing. The next time he'll push a little further.

He could and should have shaved at home before leaving. He chose to do it there and leave the evidence. The open toilet door is gross. It's almost like he's marking his territory and showing how little respect he has for you.

As someone else said, he should have dropped you and the luggage at the hotel and then taken the car to the car park.

He's testing your boundaries and seeing what he can get away with. He wants a woman he can treat like this.

The devil's in the detail.

Pubes-yuk

Parking-fair enough

lukewarm food-good for him

toilet thing- very odd

Only you know if he’s given you the ick.

I'd be miffed if DH was daft enough to spend £15 on parking when we could park for free round the corner. What if he felt he couldn't afford the £15, after spending money on a swanky hotel and meal?

He cut them over the sink because he’d forgotten to do it before he left home.

But he didn’t wash them down the plug hole.