Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To think this isn’t that weird

108 replies

LazyLions · 16/08/2025 16:19

Suffered with anxiety all my life. Finally found medication that helps. Usually I wouldn’t leave the house alone however today I’ve come into my local town to post some parcels and do a bit of browsing. I’ve just popped into the bistro and currently having a glass of cider with ice (it’s very warm here) DP rang and thinks this is weird.

I’m a SAHM with an incredibly hard 5yo autistic DS and this feels like heaven🤷🏻‍♀️ Would anybody else do this or is it strange?

Cheers by the way🍻

To think this isn’t that weird
OP posts:
commentsuncomfortable · 16/08/2025 16:46

I wouldn't do it personally but not really that weird

GreyCarpet · 16/08/2025 16:46

LazyLions · 16/08/2025 16:41

He’s just phoned asking me when I’m coming home😬

"Later. I'll come home when I'm ready," is the answer to that. And the sooner you get some time in peace, the sooner you'll be ready.

And, if you're not driving, have another. It's a perfectly normal thing to do. It's one of my favourite things. I often go to the pub for a drink when I'm out and my partner wouldn't comment other than to ask what beers they had on.

Would he have reacted differently if you'd had a coffee? Is it the fact you're out doing something for yourself he objects to? Or the fact it's alcohol?

Don't answer the phone again and go home when you're ready 👍

Original poster
LazyLions · 16/08/2025 16:41

He’s just phoned asking me when I’m coming home😬

OP posts:
Spirallingdownwards · 16/08/2025 16:40

He wants you to come home and is begrudging you your me time. Stay longer (and if not driving) have another! 🍹

GhostInTheWashingMachine · 16/08/2025 16:37

Not weird but wonderful!

Happy that you've found meds that work for you.

HedgehogsDontCare · 16/08/2025 16:37

Nothing remotely weird about it. I’m a lot older than you (judging by the age of your DS) and don’t have anything like the your day to day pressures, but I call in to our local micropub for a glass of something refreshing now and again.

Your husband sounds like a fun sponge, to be honest.

popcornpower2025 · 16/08/2025 16:36

And I will also add, it surely can't help your anxiety if you have a husband who calls you weird for doing perfectly normal things. He sounds like an absolute prick tbh

Pricelessadvice · 16/08/2025 16:35

One of my favourite things to do is go out and have a drink or some food by myself. Utter bliss!
Enjoy your new found confidence! Life is for living x

popcornpower2025 · 16/08/2025 16:34

What bit is weird? Being out on your own? Having a drink on your own ( funny as men seem to be able to do this all the time)? Or the ice in your cider?.

chipsandpeas · 16/08/2025 16:34

whats more weird is being served cider in a cruzcampo lager glass

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 16/08/2025 16:34

Brilliant!

shellyleppard · 16/08/2025 16:34

@LazyLions i used to sit in the pub with a pint and the paper sometimes just to get some peace when my sons were little. Enjoy your time you deserve it x

itsgettingweird · 16/08/2025 16:33

My ds works on the coast. We live 10 minutes drive away.

o often drop him off and walk for 3-5k, sit at a cafe on the beachfront with a coffee and my kindle and then walk back to the car and go home.

It’s really good for my MH and I do t suffer with MH difficulties so I think if this works for you you should do it more often.

supersop60 · 16/08/2025 16:33

If a bloke did it, no-one would bat an eyelid.
Enjoy!

Trickabrick · 16/08/2025 16:32

I would totally do that so if it makes you weird then I am too! After struggling with anxiety for so long, it’s amazing when you have those moments of realising you’re doing things others do without a thought, so you enjoy OP!

TripTrapSnipSnap · 16/08/2025 16:32

Definitely make this a regular thing. Some time to yourself and a bit of peace in the day will do wonders for you!

It's also perfectly fine to have a meal and a glass of something nice by yourself.

I'm glad the meds are working for you. 💐

user9064385631 · 16/08/2025 16:31

Totally not weird!
You first mistake was telling him if he’s prone to being a fun sucker…

Cutleryclaire · 16/08/2025 16:30

Not weird and totally deserved. Looks lovely and relaxing. x

BCBird · 16/08/2025 16:30

This is great news. Ignore DP. U enjoy the occasion. Hopefully you wi be able to treat yourself like this again.

thornbury · 16/08/2025 16:30

Have an amazing bit of me time. I'm often solo in cafes.

Sundaycrunch · 16/08/2025 16:30

No it's not weird and it's nasty of your DP to make you feel otherwise, given that leaving the house at all is usually a struggle for you.

TripTrapSnipSnap · 16/08/2025 16:30

Of course it's not weird. I'm surprised he isn't cheering you on for getting out of your comfort zone and enjoying something nice.

Mulledmead · 16/08/2025 16:29

Sounds amazing. And a huge achievement given the past difficulties you have described. Don't let your husband spoil it.

Original poster
LazyLions · 16/08/2025 16:28

Thanks everybody😊

OP posts:
MarxistMags · 16/08/2025 16:28

Well done you. Have another one on me ! Cheers 😃