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To think this isn’t that weird

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LazyLions · 16/08/2025 16:19

Suffered with anxiety all my life. Finally found medication that helps. Usually I wouldn’t leave the house alone however today I’ve come into my local town to post some parcels and do a bit of browsing. I’ve just popped into the bistro and currently having a glass of cider with ice (it’s very warm here) DP rang and thinks this is weird.

I’m a SAHM with an incredibly hard 5yo autistic DS and this feels like heaven🤷🏻‍♀️ Would anybody else do this or is it strange?

Cheers by the way🍻

To think this isn’t that weird
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Glitchymn1 · 16/08/2025 18:05

Enjoy! I’ve done it too! lol

I think your DH is jealous 🤣

Purplecatshopaholic · 16/08/2025 18:04

What bit of that is weird? I would totally do that, me-time is important, and a cheeky drink in hot weather tastes even better than usual, lol. Having a drink, meal etc on your own is fine, and sometimes really empowering. Doing it in the sun even more so. Enjoy op.

gillefc82 · 16/08/2025 18:04

Honestly, I’m jealous. I’d consider myself a relatively confident person, but for some reason, I’ve always hated (and actively avoided) drinking or dining alone. A few years back when I used to travel regularly with work and have to stay in hotels, I’d always try to book one that had room service so I could avoid sitting and eating alone in a restaurant.

You’re a braver woman than me @LazyLions Hope you got to savour that cold, refreshing cider and that you’re already planning your next stint of solo time.

Climbingrosexx · 16/08/2025 18:04

LazyLions · 16/08/2025 16:19

Suffered with anxiety all my life. Finally found medication that helps. Usually I wouldn’t leave the house alone however today I’ve come into my local town to post some parcels and do a bit of browsing. I’ve just popped into the bistro and currently having a glass of cider with ice (it’s very warm here) DP rang and thinks this is weird.

I’m a SAHM with an incredibly hard 5yo autistic DS and this feels like heaven🤷🏻‍♀️ Would anybody else do this or is it strange?

Cheers by the way🍻

I say good on you! I wish I had the confidence.

Alexandrine · 16/08/2025 18:03

I don’t drink alcohol myself but why would this be weird? Are you not supposed to put ice in cider or something?

Half the town around here seems to gather outside every pub, bistro and cafe in the area to have icy drinks (both alcoholic and not) the minute it gets hot. Both people alone and in groups. If I wasn’t too much of a cheapskate to pay pub/cafe prices I’d be joining you/them with an icy soft drink 🥵

godmum56 · 16/08/2025 18:00

LazyLions · 16/08/2025 16:41

He’s just phoned asking me when I’m coming home😬

it would be a huge shame if your phone reception got really bad and you couldn't answer him.

wizzywig · 16/08/2025 17:59

So either hes annoyed that he hasn't thought of it himself. Or hes annoyed that youre also doing what he does. Go enjoy yourself !

godmum56 · 16/08/2025 17:59

I'd do it in a heartbeat OP! Enjoy your break and I am so pleased for you about the meds.

PigletSanders · 16/08/2025 17:57

LazyLions · 16/08/2025 16:41

He’s just phoned asking me when I’m coming home😬

He’s used to you being stuck at home, not going anywhere. He likes it that way. You having a small life suits him. He feels threatened by you gaining in confidence and independence. 🚩

youandmeandadognamedboo · 16/08/2025 17:57

So you have suffered with anxiety all your life which is now helped with the correct medication, your daily life is helping your 5 year old autistic son, you bravely went into your local town alone, you went into a post office which no doubt was full of people alone, and then feeling really pleased with yourself you walked into a bistro alone for a well deserved glass of cider, your dear partner should be stood on your doorstep with a bottle of champagne for you! Well done Op!!

CatCaretaker · 16/08/2025 17:55

Not weird at all, and I'm envious!

Duckswaddle · 16/08/2025 17:53

Of course it isn’t weird. Does your husband never go out by himself?

Sirzy · 16/08/2025 17:50

Sounds like he has got too used to you doing all childcare and isn’t reacting well to you having some much needed you time

DelilahMy · 16/08/2025 17:49

Nothing weird about it except your husband’s reaction. Please do not allow him to make you feel guilty because this is the exactly the purpose of his comment.

Trilemma3 · 16/08/2025 17:45

What's weird is your dp thinking it's weird!

Mothership4two · 16/08/2025 17:43

Assume he meant having a drink by yourself? Not at all weird in fact quite normal. I wouldn't rush back

Has he been part of the problem?

MuddyPawsIndoors · 16/08/2025 17:39

Good for you OP!

But if you've suffered from anxiety all your life and wouldn't leave the house alone, he probably just means it's weird for you.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 16/08/2025 17:31

Of course it isn't weird. How many blokes do you know who "stop off for a pint" here and there...I bet he's done it. He just thinks it is weird cause you're female and not at home doing chores.

OutIsay · 16/08/2025 17:27

It isn't weird. Hope you enjoyed it!

JLou08 · 16/08/2025 17:25

Not weird at all. Enjoy 😃

RoomToDream · 16/08/2025 17:25

My treat this weekend was enjoying a pint while reading my book in a beer garden. Enjoying time to yourself is healthy and (shock horror) some women like to spend an hour in a pub just as much as a bloke. Your husband is being weird.

BMW6 · 16/08/2025 17:24

What on earth is the matter with him? Not remotely weird to do as you are! Does he have a jealous or controlling streak?

runningonberocca · 16/08/2025 17:22

Maybeweare · 16/08/2025 16:50

That’s not right , sound like he preferred it when your world was smaller and you were more isolated 🧐

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I was thinking exactly the same and also wonder if your relationship may be contributing to your anxiety. I’d be raging if I was trying to have a quiet drink in peace on a rare day out and my DP kept bloody ringing me! Please enjoy your drink -linger over it and do not rush home. Never apologise for doing the simple things that make you happy.

TwistedWonder · 16/08/2025 17:20

What on earth is weird about having some me time with a nice cold drink?

Your DH is the strange one for thinking something perfectly normal is weird.

Timeforanewgame · 16/08/2025 17:19

Yes I would do it. Years ago I wouldn't have but I work away a lot so have got used to meals and drinks alone and don't think anything of it now