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Friend went to the queens funeral and not my mums

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Mayflower282 · 16/08/2025 14:20

I know it was 3 years ago, but I have just found out that my best friend (since childhood) 30+ years of friendship, went to the Queens funeral instead of my mum’s. At the time she said she had to work and couldn’t get time off. Then the other day she casually brought up the fact she was at the queens funeral.

I feel so let down. I don’t have many friends, maybe 3 close friends, and my family is really small. I feel like she prioritised someone she didn’t even know 😔

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Arlanymor · 16/08/2025 14:41

Yes people make a good point - the Queen lay in state from Wednesday 14 - Monday 19 September - the funeral was 19 September and was a Bank Holiday as others have said.

AliTheMinx · 16/08/2025 14:33

She may have gone to see the Queen lying in state before the funeral and maybe wasn't lying about not being able to take the day of your mum's funeral.off? Do you know for a fact that she lied?

AliTheMinx · 16/08/2025 14:31

I think all funerals scheduled on the day of the Queen's funeral were postponed, as it was declared a public holiday. My friend's funeral was planned for that day and was delayed by a week. Or do you mean she went to London to line the streets?

LuckyNumberFive · 16/08/2025 14:29

Doesn't the queen lie in state for 4 days? It's entirely possible she couldn't get the day or your mother's funeral off work but one of the other 3 days was bookable for the queen.

quickncncncnc · 16/08/2025 14:28

the actual funeral?

Arlanymor · 16/08/2025 14:26

She went to see the Queen lying in state I would assume - not to her funeral? The lying would bother me, but not the fact that she didn't come to your mother's funeral. I would have rather she told me the truth at the time. Some people find funerals incredibly hard for a range of reasons - my own sister has already said she's not coming to my mum's funeral when the time comes. But she's told me, she's been up front, I respect her choices. Plus it will go off much better without her to be honest and I will doubtless find it less stressful without her there creating chaos.

KawasakiBabe · 16/08/2025 14:26

I wouldn’t care tbh. I’d be more upset that she lied.

heroinechic · 16/08/2025 14:23

As in, she was invited to attend the Queen’s funeral, or she went down to London to line the streets?

Swiftie1878 · 16/08/2025 14:23

That is a punch to the gut.
Your friendship has now changed, irreversibly.

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