It’s not my fault I have to go and get water

People who always have enough of everything and never run out are almost certainly incredibly boring.

Don't you have your water delivered?

@Longoverduelibrarybook we also live in a hot climate where we all drink bottled water. ,between my husband and I and the two dogs, we go thru 5 gallons every two days. I always have one on the dispenser and 3 backups. When last backup gets opened, we have 3 three empties picked up and 3 new delivered. Do you not have delivery there for water if most people drink bottled?

if you can go through it in a day, its not lots.

Why didn’t he just say “come with me” to your daughter? I used to love doing that with my dc, they take daft little impromptu things like that as an adventure, lol

Of course YANBU. Not sure why MN is being so weird about this.

Where you are, bottled water is a necessity. Sometimes people run out of necessities (even with good planning) like nappies, milk etc. Then someone has to get more urgently. Your husband forgot to do it and then whinged “it’s not my fault” rather than taking responsibility for his mistake.

It’s a loathsome Uriah Heep “ever so ‘umble” manipulative pose. He casts you as his “manager” when it suits him (it’s not my fault I can’t play with you now DD, the boss says I have to go out). But if he said “it’s not my fault” in front of his actual manager when asked why he wasn’t available for another task after failing to complete the previous one, he could expect a quick “whose fault is it then?” and probably a quick exit too. All of which he knows full well he won’t get from you.

Because you have to put your daughter first, you feel you can’t tell her the truth: “daddy made a silly mistake and now he has to fix it which means sadly he can’t play with you”. He is taking advantage of your kindness as a mother to manipulate you into making yourself the bad guy (mummy is making daddy leave me) in front of your daughter.

But you aren’t actually protecting your daughter by waving away the blame for his failures. It’s not noone’s fault. It’s his fault. And if you teach her now to make excuses for her father’s weaponised incompetence, don’t be surprised when in twenty years’ time she’s making excuses for her own partner’s weaponised incompetence, with the attendant effects on her self esteem, physical heath, career goals, enjoyment of life etc.

Are your taps broken?
Has your water been turned off?
Is your water unsafe to drink?

If the answer to all of these is "no" then you do not need bottled water

Me too, as a child it was only really available in the North West, the 1950s, 1960s, our cousins who had migrated darn sarf would load the boot with Vimto for their return home. I had to take a 2 litre bottle in hand-luggage to New Zealand when daughter was there! Best served with soda water and it also makes brilliant lollies, we were the talk of the avenue in the '50s, we had a fridge (!) and Mum would make Vimto ice lollies, never short of 'friends'.

It’s actually not odd at all.
By saying ‘it’s not my fault’, he is putting himself in the place of the helpless victim (who has to buy water) you as the awful perpetrator (that forces him to actually participate in household tasks).

It works because he is still looking like a good person, esp in front of his dd whilst doing as little as possible. Which wouldn’t happen if he was actively refusing to do something.

Also seeing it’s a thing of his, look at strategic incompetence.
He just forgot/didn’t do it quite right etc…. So you’re either picking up the slack afterwards or simply stop asking him. Or he gets away with not playing/spending more time either way his dd because he doesn’t want to.

And you can also notice his dd reaction.
She wants to spend time with her dad. Might well not be keen of you being there. And he has to go away again because of you (see the victim/perpetrator position). So yes she now identifying you as the person responsible for her spending less time with her dad.

It’s actually not odd at all.
By saying ‘it’s not my fault’, he is putting himself in the place of the helpless victim (who has to buy water) you as the awful perpetrator (that forces him to actually participate in household tasks).

It works because he is still looking like a good person, esp in front of his dd whilst doing as little as possible. Which wouldn’t happen if he was actively refusing to do something.

Also seeing it’s a thing of his, look at strategic incompetence.
He just forgot/didn’t do it quite right etc…. So you’re either picking up the slack afterwards or simply stop asking him. Or he gets away with not playing/spending more time either way his dd because he doesn’t want to.

And you can also notice his dd reaction.
She wants to spend time with her dad. Might well not be keen of you being there. And he has to go away again because of you (see the victim/perpetrator position). So yes she now identifying you as the person responsible for her spending less time with her dad.

Random fact for you (which you may already know!) Vimto is huge in the Middle East, especially during Ramadan, where Muslims fast from sunrise to sunset. Whole supermarket aisles full of the stuff. People drink the concentrate to break their fast, because it’s so sweet. I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if the bulk of Vimto’s sales globally are made during Ramadan each year.