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What do you think of when you hear LGBTQ+?

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purpledaze24 · 16/08/2025 11:43

It seems these days, when people see/hear LGBTQ+ they think of trans people & the trans debate. Is this accurate do you think? Or AIBU? I read on here recently about someone rejecting a rainbow badge given to her to wear at work to celebrate pride month (presumably not cos she was homophobic but rather, anti-trans). As a lesbian, this makes me really sad. I’ve always been proud to be a ‘rainbow family’ and want my kids to be proud too, but this association, and takeover imo, of the rainbow symbol & LGBTQ+ acronym by the gender ideology brigade, is creating, at best erasure of LGB people, and at worst, (maybe unintentional) homophobia and discrimination. I respect & understand that trans people have played an important role in the LGBT struggle historically, but it’s this ridiculous escalation of it & all these ‘trans trenders’ and being able to identify as one of 72 different genders etc 🙄

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DidIdotheritething · 16/08/2025 11:57

I just think it’s anyone who isn’t straight.

TheGirlWhoWantedToBeGod · 16/08/2025 11:56

I think that trying to conflate two separate concepts - sexual attraction and gender identity - into one thing is conceptually unsound.

The LGB part makes sense as a grouping as they all refer to who someone is sexually attracted to. But then adding on a hodgepodge of letters that relate to gender identity doesn’t make any sense.

Snorlaxo · 16/08/2025 11:55

LGB and QT+ should have remained separate. The joining of the groups makes me roll my eyes and brace for drama because of the pronoun brigade which I know is unfair on the LGB people who are very different.

Smokiejoe · 16/08/2025 11:54

I can’t say I think of one group over the rest of them, we’re all in there.

LGBTQ+ is the best acronym though because when it was LGBTQIA+ being used it was a bit much.

Catpiece · 16/08/2025 11:54

I think it’s the being “forced” to celebrate the sexual preferences of others ie wearing a rainbow badge when we don’t want to. I don’t want any group to be picked on or bullied but I’m not prepared to go far as to “celebrate” or “support”.

araiwa · 16/08/2025 11:49

Lesbian gay bi trans and queer people

Bambamhoohoo · 16/08/2025 11:49

I don’t think of trans really, I think of the older gay generation who established the movement and made so much progress.

trans I would usually think of that pink purple thing they’ve created to be extra special

Brefugee · 16/08/2025 11:47

i will wear a rainbow badge, and have a rainbow flag. I will not touch the progress pride tripe with a barge pole.

Lots of my friends are lesbians, most are aghast at the takeover of women's spaces by men who claim to be women. Some are ok with it. I'm not ok with it and find all the TQ+ invective rather misogynistic and homophobic.

TofuEater · 16/08/2025 11:47

There hasn't been an anti-trans thread for at least 20 minutes...

CatKings · 16/08/2025 11:45

Absolutely. I don’t think of gay people at all when I see it. Just trans and ‘queer’ straight people.