Would you take your ex in, if the only other option was being homeless

Yep I would for the kids sake but that’s not to say I think it’s a good idea or would judge anyone else for not doing so
you Know what right for you and what you could tolerate

You have made the right decision OP. She would drag your children backwards to where they were before. She won't do housework or get a job. She will never leave. And then you will be the bad guy for turfing her out.

Keep her out of your house

If I were living on my own, I would take my ex-wife in if she had nowhere else to go, as I don't have any animosity towards her. I've married again, so I suppose that would be rather awkward, but I would try to provide help in other ways in getting her back on her feet.

In your situation I wouldn't do anything for her.

Thinking about my exh and his health problems (bowel and prostate cancer) I thought maybe but as soon as I saw that your exh was nasty and it would be long term it would be a massive no.

(My exh wasn't nasty at any stages our relationship or divorce but he was a piss taker and a cock lodger).

The fact that she has only you left to ask shows she has alienated everyone else.

Her choice to do this.

You have made the right decision to say no.

I love that you've given "examples" of days of the week 😄

Your ex is struggling but if you take her in you will be enabling her which will probably make it unlikely she will sort herself out. The situation will be confusing and upsetting for any children you have and will likely result in huge stress for you.

Does she not have family or friends? Surely the council can help if someone is in immediate danger of sleeping on the streets? Can you help her apply for employment in the short term so she can support herself? Also, what has got her into this situation? Can you explain without outing her? Are there drugs or alcohol involved?

You should tread carefully here. Be compassionate without getting taken advantage of. Sometimes helping people does mean letting them experience the consequences of their own actions, although this is heavily dependent on context.

OP people are confused because you said “she was offered an HMO but I felt it wasn’t safe”, which makes it sound like she was going to take it but you told her to turn it down and suggested her moving in with you instead, but have now had second thoughts.

And if that is what happened, that was kind of a dick move on your part, because now she’s refused housing, the council will wash their hands of her.

If she refused the HMO off her own back, fair enough. She should go back to the council and accept it.

No
they will ruin your life again

No. No. No.
She was horrible the first time round. You try getting her out again once she's got her claws into your couch!!

She'll drop off the housing radar if she moves in also. You're actually doing her no favours longterm.

I'm sure she'll be fine at the HMO.

My thought is, he'll get his feet under your table and then start to undermine you again.

While you may sympathise, I wouldn't let him move in. It will be very very hard to get him out again if he restarts his hostile campaign against you.

A definite NO and this only confirms how right you would be to say No. Best interests of the children meant you have full custody of them, so best interests of the children is that this continues peacefully.

Unfortunate that your children's mother has made some poor choices, but neither you nor they need to be affected any more by that. You could help in other ways but not this. Keep saying no!

No, absolutely not.

How are people on the third page and still saying he when it’s clear the ex is a woman?

This

The council have a duty to provide a housing plan
Not sure why you are saying a car is the only option @Donotpanicoknowpanic
The council must provide a plan with a named housing officer within a set time and then housing is offered.
This may be a room in a hotel, B&B or HMO

If you house your ex then you are simply prolonging the process, you would have to make her homeless at some point just to go through it all again
Your duty is to yourself and your children and providing them with a safe and stable environment.

Don't disrupt your home, things have turned around for your children, they're doing well .

He’ll no!

I’m the world’s softest bastard It’d be a no from me. You’re not responsible for him anymore. You are divorced. You are responsible for giving your children a peaceful home.

Absolutely not.

I wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire, either. He was a complete cunt.

I took in an ex when he was having a rough patch with his wife. But we had an amicable split and remain on good terms. He only stayed for a few days before going back to the wife. I don't think I would do it longer term as it would get too complicated in terms of finances I think.

Absolutely not

refer him to https://thestreetlink.org.uk/location to get verified as rough sleeper
Give location of vehicle. Brand and registration of venicle. Physical description of him
Be specific about location so they can find him

Where did you think she could go when you deemed the HMO unsafe for her?