Would you take your ex in, if the only other option was being homeless

Nope. Not iin a hudred years regardless of gender.

I think it could be really disruptive and upsetting for your children, depending on how old they are and how much they know about their Mum’s behaviour and life choices.
It seems likely that she will want to stay long term, and that there will be friction, arguments etc. She isn’t going to suddenly be a great parent. All that won’t be good for you but especially won’t be good for the children.
It’s difficult as I can understand that you want to make sure she is ok, for your children, but her moving in seems a bad idea. Also as pps have pointed out, she would then not be able to get housed by the LA.
I would help her if I could with anything she was struggling with in order to get her housed, but not have her back in the family home. What is the problem, fundamentally? Poor mental health, drugs, a personality disorder ?

No. I wouldn't have him stay or help him in anyway. I would tell him that this is the consequences of his actions leaving me with a 6 month old, no money or support from then to now. I hate very few people but I really hate him. Maybe if he hadn't have treated everyone (not just us) like shit all his life he might be in a better place.

Ha! I should have rtft. I’ve seen too many real-life examples of men sponging off their ex-wives/girlfriends till they find another unwitting woman to carry the burden.

Absolutely not!

1. Does she really have NO ONE else? Perhaps she has no family, but does she really have not one single friend who he knows well enough to stay with for a bit? Not a single other person in her life who cares enough to help her avoid being homeless?

1. What's the long term plan? Will she now live with you forever? What new housing options will present themselves in 1 month/6 months/2 years? If you think its hard to turn her away now, it will be even harder to actually make her leave in the future. At the moment his homelessness is "her fault" but if you take her in now and then want her to leave down the line there is a risk that her homelessness will appear to be "your fault"

1. Letting her live with you will cost you money. In raised household bills, council tax and possibly loss of benefits. And it sounds like you will also be tidying up after her.

I hope he will!

Presumably his nasty bitter behaviour is some reason why he has no other friends or family to lean back on?

Big fat no

Not if he was a nasty piece of work during break up. That's on him.

"refuse her request" would work nicely here.

No, never.

Yes, that’s my view as well. I would not want that person - either sex - in my house.

She was horrible to you, your children are better without her - why even consider it?

HMOs may not be ideal but she will be rehoused eventually if she goes to one. I've known 2 people (one male, one female) stay in homeless accommodation and both survived and were rehoused eventually.

What???? He She may behave decently as long as he’s she's allowed to live off you and treat you as his her servant????

What a prince princess.

Of course you should jump at this chance to relive all the misery of your marriage, OP, and remind your children that women men exist to serve men women.

Grrrrr

Fixed it for you there @LeftieRightsHoarder

It's a she. OP is a man.

You might want to read the thread again. OP is a man and his ex-wife is the waste of space

You don’t want her in an HMO but you don’t really want her at yours. I would tell her no. Why doesn’t she work?

What???? He may behave decently as long as he’s allowed to live off you and treat you as his servant????

What a prince.

Of course you should jump at this chance to relive all the misery of your marriage, OP, and remind your children that women exist to serve men.

Grrrrr

This again!

Do what is in the best interests of your children always. Do not destroy the home that you have built for them. You can facilitate a relationship with their mother without inviting her in. Don’t destroy their safe place.

No

Agree, for your children’s sake, it should be no. If things turned nasty at home for you or for them then wouldn’t be able to ask her to leave without causing more trauma to them. And this time you’d be the bad guy for making her go. You wouldn’t be their safe person anymore - they might feel if they acted badly then they would be asked to leave too.

Don’t put them or yourself in that position.

Has she got a job? Can you help in terms of assisting with a deposit for a rented accommodation somewhere? It does sound as though having her around won’t help your children but I understand you want her to be safe.

Agree with this. Put the well being of your children first. Don’t do it. She’ll never leave and will be a disruptive and nasty influence

No.

My children's behaviour have improved massively since she left, a few school reports have commented that they can't believe the difference they have seen

@Donotpanicoknowpanic aside from everything else... this is the biggest reason to say No!