Would you take your ex in, if the only other option was being homeless

There are a couple of exs that I would take in because they are nice people and still are kind to me.

I wouldn't have someone in my life, let alone my house someone who was nasty and told lies about me so no.

I would not let her move in. She was nasty to you in the past. Why can't she move in with family or friends? My feeling is that over the years she was mean or nasty with other people. She probably refused to listen to any advice she was given in the past by people.
Now things have come to this situation. If she moves in with you the council won't find her a place to live in the future so she will be with you long term.
She is going to increase your bills and she will get nasty with you again. If your children live with you they don't need to see and hear you both fighting with eachother.
She needs to move into a hmo and work on improving her own circumstances to move out of a hmo in time.

Nope.

there will be an offer of accommodation from the council (likely a hostel) , they may not like it but it will be a roof over their head.

your aren’t responsible for them.

also, if the relationship became toxic then this isn’t good for the children to be around f again.

also also, very confusing for the kids if other parent is here/ then not here/ sofa surfing in their home (their safe place).

My answer would be exactly the same.
Don't set yourself up for potentially more hurt.

I’m a Christian too but you can help a person without giving them the keys to your house. As the OP says his children are much better without their mum living there, I think setting a firm boundary is a good way forward. ‘Yes, I’ll help you but not to the detriment of my kids’ welfare’.

Happens to the best of us! Hope you don't get a pile on from others who also didn't rtft!!!!

The ex was really nasty during the divorce, saying lies all over social media, argued with all of your family and has also been quite nasty since the divorce
That'd be a no, then. Why potentially set yourself up for more hurt? Look after yourself.

NEVER

No way

Ah, the OP did not mention gender so I just assumed.

Same though, how has she got herself into that situation? Usually some kind of addiction issue would be involved, right? Possibly not safe to be around/ have around the kids?

Saying this as a little girl who was around violent women with addiction issues and it wasn't safe for me. Or a pleasant memory to have as an adult.

Unless it's specific circumstances that make her safe to be around the kids, no. But the fact that as a father he has been able to get sole custody, sounds like some pretty severe circumstances involved. Kids should come first, it's their home and safe place.

No - zero chance. What about his family or friends? You owe him nothing.

I'm a Christian and from that POV, the right thing for me to do in this situation would be to take him in.

However I think of the years of abuse my ex put me and the DC through and I think, fuck that.

Don't do it, OP.

literally the only option was to sleep at yours or they sleep in their car

If she has been issued an HMO then her options aren’t just limited to yours or sleeping in her car. They have locks on each door. If she doesn’t like the people she’s living with then it will be an incentive for her to get a job so she can pay for alternative housing.

My personal ex? Yes in a heartbeat because he was never nasty. Not if he was nasty though.

I understand why you’d want to help her but inviting her to live with you again sounds like a bad idea. You can definitely offer help from a distance though and see if you can help her get back on her feet.

My exH, Hell no, let him go crawling to the woman he cheated with (and then cheated on) see if she wants him back.

No I wouldn’t, sounds like karma to me.

So your ex has been offered housing in a HMO. If she rejects it and moves in with you, the council’s responsibility towards her will cease. You will be stuck with her.

She takes the HMO or stays elsewhere.it isn’t a case of your house or being homeless. The council have made her an offer to house her.

No, absolutely not. ExH has been sofa surfing for years but over my dead body will be step into this house. Not my responsibility, not my problem.

In OP's specific situation the ex is a she.

Also however maybe stop passing opinion on her options. Your idea of the HMO not being safe is not appropriate. It's an HMO or her car (if that is the correct interpretation of her choices). The HMO has to be safer than her car. Stop telling her it's not suitable.

Probably not if he’d been nasty. Otherwise, sure.

Any of my exes, 100% would, yes, and they'd do the same for me.

As to your specific situation though, from what you're describing, no, he doesn´t sound safe to be around. How has he fallen on such hard times, are there subtance abuse/gambling/ other addiction issues?

Do the kids know/ what do they think?

Your children’s response is the key bit of the picture here.

My ex(es), absolutely because while we didn't work out, they are not nasty.
The person you describe, not a chance.