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Mymindsgoneblank · 2025-08-15T18:45:13+00:00

Now married with kids when you see on Fb pics. Has anyone ever had that?

BarbaraVineFan · 15/08/2025 22:25

BarbaraVineFan · 15/08/2025 22:17

This is the strangest thread. Sorry OP but I don’t really understand the point of it? It seems to be a) bringing out the latent or overt homophobes and b) not contain any kind of question or debate.

Sorry for poor grammar in this post- I lost the structure of my sentence between a) and b) and now can’t edit.

Brainstorm23 · 15/08/2025 22:21

My entire family were convinced my brother was gay. He got married (to a woman) in April. I've met his wife precisely once and she didn't even speak to any of us at the wedding. She's an odd fish.

BarbaraVineFan · 15/08/2025 22:17

This is the strangest thread. Sorry OP but I don’t really understand the point of it? It seems to be a) bringing out the latent or overt homophobes and b) not contain any kind of question or debate.

Sometimeswinning · 15/08/2025 22:17

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 22:11

You had 3 lovely gay friends

A cracking “anecdote”

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I’m sorry I’ve hit a nerve. I can be controversial but even this has surprised me.

I was just a bit like you can’t always assume. The lads I hung out with were lovely, I knew they were gay and they were.

Didn’t realise this would even ping on anyone’s radar. Mumsnet is a funny place.

GreenFlag · 15/08/2025 22:13

I think this post just highlights opinion is not fact!

MysteriousUsername · 15/08/2025 22:11

I never thought about anyone's sexuality when i was at school. I went to a girls school so didn't know many boys. Some people reckoned one of my friends was lesbian but we never spoke about it - she married a man , had kids, and now has a wife. A couple of others from school have been married to men and now have wives. Some have only had girlfriends/wives.

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 22:11

Sometimeswinning · 15/08/2025 22:06

Please do 😂

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You had 3 lovely gay friends

A cracking “anecdote”

CommentHere · 15/08/2025 22:10

Being out and gay was very unusual in my day so I never assumed anyone in school was gay as it seemed very rare to be gay. Never crossed my mind.

Of course now I realise that many more people were gay than I ever knew. I'm trying to think back and I'm not surprised that any have an opposite sex or same sex spouse. Does it matter what we assume and what is the reality???

Gnarab24 · 15/08/2025 22:07

IzzyHandsIsMySpiritAnimal · 15/08/2025 19:49

No.
Boys I assumed were gay turned out to be gay. Girls I assumed were gay turned out to be gay.
I've got very good gaydar.
Also, the kids I thought would turn out to be utter shits have turned out to be utter shits.
The kids I became friends with are still friends.
We left school 40 years ago.

Hahah this is so funny, my DD, who is gay, has the worst gaydar ever. She actually thought Graeme Norton was straight.
She’s screwed

AtTheBar · 15/08/2025 22:06

A few lads and girls that everyone assumed were gay, are gay.

One lad that said he was bisexual at school, later said he was straight, married a woman and had children. He has recently said he is gay, always knew he was gay and has left his wife for another man that he has been cheating with for the majority of the marriage. Bastard!

Sometimeswinning · 15/08/2025 22:06

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 22:03

head. Wall. Bang! 😆

Please do 😂

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 22:03

head. Wall. Bang! 😆

Sometimeswinning · 15/08/2025 22:01

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 21:56

This is weird

the op is asking if anyone “assumed” someone was gay at school who later married and have kids

and you say you have 3 lovely gay friends

ok

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No. We’re no longer in touch. But they are married.

But to men.

I don’t have anything to offer the op. Like I said, I was adding to the following posts. Maybe you should read them.

RedToothBrush · 15/08/2025 22:00

The one person I KNEW to be gay married someone the opposite sex as her. Both very religious and I know there was contention around him being gay too.

Oddly enough they ended up divorced.

It's quite sadly really. All cos of religion.

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 21:58

Sometimeswinning · 15/08/2025 21:55

I mean they are lovely. That’s my memory.

It’s an anecdote. The post is screaming out for random anecdotes surely! What’s your issue?

Did you want a story where I thought they were gay and they weren’t? Not got one. Sorry.

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The op is asking an explicit (albeit odd) question re assuming someone was gay at school who later marries and have kids

and you think it’s an invitation to mention an “anecdote” (this is an anecdote?!) you have 3 lovely gay friends 😆

LouisaJG · 15/08/2025 21:57

It’s hilarious when straight people think they have gaydar.

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 21:56

Sometimeswinning · 15/08/2025 21:55

I mean they are lovely. That’s my memory.

It’s an anecdote. The post is screaming out for random anecdotes surely! What’s your issue?

Did you want a story where I thought they were gay and they weren’t? Not got one. Sorry.

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This is weird

the op is asking if anyone “assumed” someone was gay at school who later married and have kids

and you say you have 3 lovely gay friends

ok

Sometimeswinning · 15/08/2025 21:55

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 20:17

Huh?

this op is asking whether boys she “assumed” were gay are now married with kids on Facebook

and you tell us about your three “lovely” friends who are gay. Well, thanks for that

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I mean they are lovely. That’s my memory.

It’s an anecdote. The post is screaming out for random anecdotes surely! What’s your issue?

Did you want a story where I thought they were gay and they weren’t? Not got one. Sorry.

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 21:51

Selfishshellfishies · 15/08/2025 19:51

2 I knew are still pretending they are straight yet clearly love steroids and looking buff for other men to fawn over on their socials. Always in the gym pumping with men rather than at home with wife and kids.

I read this a few times
and concluded the same every time

Not the sharpest tool in the box

ShiftySquirrel · 15/08/2025 21:19

One of my best friends came out aged 19 or 20. It wasn't at all obvious. Some of his family were unsupportive shall we say, so he'd been very careful whilst we were at school.

dogcatkitten · 15/08/2025 20:54

One boy who was clearly gay and came out shortly after leaving school. Lovely person

neverbeenskiing · 15/08/2025 20:51

No because I don't tend to make assumptions about people's sexuality.

DontFeedTheDucks · 15/08/2025 20:48

I only know 1 in this situation. Always felt he was gay, married with 2 kids…. But I’ve seen him once leave a car with another man and they were still buttoning their trousers, sweaty, and another quick kiss when they looked around first but didn’t see me. So confident they’re not just friends. This is early in the morning, he must go the gym (and at least sometimes see his lover) before work. I’m not even usually out and about that early, yet I’ve seen him twice. Cheaters aren’t even that subtle.

I feel like in this day and age it can’t be terribly common for men(or women) to be in the closest like this? I’m surprised you know a few that you suspect this is the case, do you actually know/ seen them… I’m wondering if you’ve got an over excited gaydar or if it’s a lot more common than I thought.

Mariana95 · 15/08/2025 20:40

Selfishshellfishies · 15/08/2025 19:51

2 I knew are still pretending they are straight yet clearly love steroids and looking buff for other men to fawn over on their socials. Always in the gym pumping with men rather than at home with wife and kids.

How does working out at the gym 'prove' that they must be gay?!

MrsMoastyToasty · 15/08/2025 20:24

There weren't any boys at my school. Unless one of the boarders sneaked one in.