Boys you assumed were gay at school

The question doesn't make sense OP.
They could be gay and married to another man with kids. "married with kids" =/= "straight".

It never occurred to me that any of them might be gay

Obviously several are. Including one I had a long-term crush on.

What kind of pictures does he post on SM that would lead you to conclude this?

No, I haven’t had this.

All of the boys we thought were gay in school did turn out to be gay!

One married a woman and had a son but sorted himself out and married a man later on.
Another is married to a woman, I’d guess it’s a lavender marriage from pictures.

This seems a really odd question to me. Speaking as someone who was in secondary school from 1976 until 1983, I don't remember anyone at all - boys or girls - who I presumed were gay or lesbian.

If anything, my experience has been the opposite.

I did find out about 10 years after leaving school that a friend of mine had come out as being lesbian. This was quite a surprise to me as I know that she definitely hooked up with more than one boy in the 5th year and lower 6th.

Although, perhaps she was unsure of her sexual orientation at the time and only felt able to accept her orientation as she grew older?

Sounds awful

Yes... that too !
I just meant was no one can really know the personal details of someone's marriage unless they are in that marriage.
Not that's it's any of their business anyway.
That's why I think this thread is strange.

And just because some moronic 14 year olds decided that somebody was gay because they weren't conforming to the most basic gender stereotypes, that doesn't mean they weren't absolutely heterosexual and went on to have a perfectly ordinary, healthy and secure marriage.

Strange thread.
Just because someone is on social media with their wife and kids doesn't mean they are living a heterosexual family life.
You know nothing about their life.
They could be in an open marriage and conceived the kids with a turkey baster because they (both the husband and wife) are gay but wanted children and steady companionship.
No one knows what's going on behind the doors of a marriage and as long as it's all consensual and legal who cares?

No, but I am a good judge of character, generally. Right now I'm taking a sabbatical so not engaging with many people on a daily basis.

A combination of a wide friendship group, small community and social media.

I wonder whether any of the homophobic morons that beat DP up when he was 16 think of starting threads like this?

I think it's weird that people have never met someone and assumed they were gay. I mean would you really not assume Graham Norton, Alan Carr, Boy George, Julian Clary, Paul O'Grady etc etc were gay if you met them?

Well yes probably I would these days. And in fact most of my adult life. But I genuinely think there was a lot less awareness a generation or so ago.

I remember my Mum used to love watching Liberace on the TV and when my Dad muttered insults about him my Mum told him he was being ridiculous!

I didn't assume boys were gay at school. Of those that others assumed were gay, some were and some weren't. A bit like the general population.

I think it's weird that people have never met someone and assumed they were gay. I mean would you really not assume Graham Norton, Alan Carr, Boy George, Julian Clary, Paul O'Grady etc etc were gay if you met them? I see non celebs on random shows like gardeners world and assume they're gay and then they mention their husband. It's strange to me that some people have never ever thought that someone they met was gay.

There are also lots of men out there that are gay/bi and in denial/hiding it/sleeping around behind their wives backs while pretending to be completely straight. I was married to one of them and I've heard from many others in the same boat since I found out.

Hmm I am in my 60s and was very innocent and uninformed about that sort of thing back then, in the 1970s.

One lad I knew from school and really liked came out a few years after leaving. Apparently hit the gay scene very enthusiastically and move down to London. Sadly died of Aids in his 30s.

Statistically I suppose there must have been other gay people in our cohort but I wasn't aware then and I don't remember there ever being any rumours or homophobic bullying. I think we were probably all just more innocent about it.

Thank goodness I'm 65 and went to all girls schools from the age of 7.

Never gave whether someone else was gay a second thought. The only person at my school who was a Gaye, had it as her name and back then it didn't warrant comment.

Is that pretty ghastly “fag hag” term around?

For what it's worth "femboy" is a very popular type these days and loads of girls are attracted to them. Basically a very feminine, non-threatening, straight male. These types of men have always existed. Back in the days people might have assumed they were gay but nowadays it's so commonplace.

You had already told him 😆

Ok, relief that you keep this “anecdote” in house!!

I braced myself. I said to dh and he said oh yeah I remember you saying. Then he said did you not know they were gay? I said yeah I kind of did.

Then he swatted a fly on the wall! 😂 Just kidding.

Honestly, if I’ve upset you I’m sorry. It was a throwaway comment. Enjoy your weekend. ✌️

Never thought about it. Why would it matter? If those you went to school with have happy lives, are kind and honest people then who they went on to marry is irrelevant.
This thread is odd and an odd question to ask

This thread is really off