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To Tell My Elderly neighbours about their cat shitting in garden.

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thesagarollson · 15/08/2025 18:51

I will start off by saying I love cats before anyone bashes me as a cat hater .

I live next door to an elderly and frail couple who have always had cats but after their last one passed away I thought there were too old (80’s) to take on a new one.

I noticed a couple of weeks ago they seem to have a new one which also coincided with shit appearing on my front lawn. Every morning I pick up at least one 🤢.

I have CCTV and had a look just in case a fox but no it was their cat.

I have spent money on various deterrents but to date nothing works and tbh I really don’t want to spend more money to try and resolve it .

People have suggested throw water but it always shits at night ffs and we also now have our bins emptied every 3 weeks and the amount of flies and the smell is awful.

The wife is extremely frail and has just come out of hospital and has carers coming in so I really don’t want to give them more grief, but I chose not to have pets and it really pisses me off spending time , money and the smell especially in this heat.

As extra information I have always generally got on well with them but I need advice on how to approach this. Do I just accept it or try and discuss and tbh can they as cat owners really stop the cat?

Thanks

OP posts:
Ownyourchoices · 16/08/2025 06:13

Australian here - while there are councils which have rules about cats its not at all universal. We have two cats - one goes into our back garden and does their business. The other does roam more - but he was a stray and that it what he is used to. I don't think he poos on anyone's front door step - he also does his business at home. More Australians use kitty litter though. It just doesn't seem to be as big an issue here

SouthernNights59 · 16/08/2025 06:06

Cats poo in my garden all the time, I simply remove it, there is no great effort required Confused What do you expect your neighbours to do? Unless they keep the cat indoors - which is no life for a cat in my opinion - it will just do what cats do.

spoonbillstretford · 16/08/2025 05:34

It's like "cats shitting in the garden" bingo around here at the moment. I've nearly got a full house.

prelovedusername · 16/08/2025 05:30

I think you should mention it to them. If they’re in their eighties they are of a generation where cats were routinely put out at night and indoor litter trays were not provided, so it’s worth checking what arrangements they have.

What they need to do is provide an indoor litter tray and a cat flap so the cat can come and go. You can’t really stop cats shitting where they choose to unfortunately but they should at least provide “facilities”.

user1492757084 · 16/08/2025 05:16

Would you installing a KittyLitter tray be better?
You could set it up just inside neighbours' fence.

Do you have a friend who wants their little dog minded for a few weeks?

ilovesooty · 16/08/2025 05:11

MikeRafone · 16/08/2025 04:49

Sprinkle or spray the area with jeys fluid

its not harmful but cats don’t like the smell

spray the area they come onto the lawn and the area they relieve themselves

Yes it is harmful to cats.

MikeRafone · 16/08/2025 04:49

Sprinkle or spray the area with jeys fluid

its not harmful but cats don’t like the smell

spray the area they come onto the lawn and the area they relieve themselves

LeilaLandi · 16/08/2025 04:41

MatildaTheCat · 15/08/2025 19:11

Just deal with it. It’s about 3 seconds out of your day and cat poo isn’t usually that unpleasant. The cat presumably gives them joy.

My friend had a cat that was a total escape artist and liked to poo on her neighbour’s conservatory roof. Now that was awkward.

It is actually ‘that unpleasant’ ! Why do you think it’s not? Maybe you’ve never had to pick it up?

I picked up my neighbour’s cat’s sloppy cat shit from my lawn most days for an entire summer practically and it was absolutely disgusting. Far worse than dog shit for some reason. It always went on the grass so I couldn’t pick it up ‘cleanly’ and it smelt so bad.

And it isn’t a minor inconvenience each day, it’s disgusting and a bit soul destroying after a while tbh.

I’ve a dog and picking up after him when out and about is nothing like that.

clotheslinefiasco · 16/08/2025 04:26

They should keep their cat in as should all cat owners and no I don't believe millions of Americans and Australians are cruelly mistreating their cats by keeping them indoors they're just responsible owners willing to put effort into their animals.

That is not happening and it is not true - apart from cat owners who live in cities perhaps?

I very much suspect the OP is not coming back for a while.

Weepixie · 16/08/2025 04:22

InMyOpenOnion · 16/08/2025 04:01

I would chuck the poo over the fence to their garden for them to deal with but not much else

I wouldn’t chuck it over the fence but I would put it in their bin wrapped up in a couple of nappy sacks.

ilovesooty · 16/08/2025 04:09

FrenchLavendar · 15/08/2025 19:06

They could keep it in at night and provide it with a litter tray. The OP says it mostly poos at night.

Absolutely. Asking them to keep it in at night is perfectly reasonable.

CopperWhite · 16/08/2025 04:07

Yes, tell them. Elderly people do t need any more protection from the consequence of their choices than anyone else. I would chuck all the poo straight back onto their side of the garden. It needs to be their problem to clean up, not yours.

InMyOpenOnion · 16/08/2025 04:01

I would chuck the poo over the fence to their garden for them to deal with but not much else

RigIt · 16/08/2025 03:11

Just get a motion activated sprinkler. Don’t stress out your poor and sick elderly neighbours who probably got a cat for a tiny bit of joy and company in their small lives.

Complain continually to the council about the smelly bins.

TaupeMember · 15/08/2025 22:48

This is the third cat shit post in as many days

Odd

Laiste · 15/08/2025 22:34

I thought you aren't supposed to flush animal poo down the loo? )in response to pp)

Reignonyourparade · 15/08/2025 22:24

BloodandGlitter · 15/08/2025 19:05

Why are you ok with cat shit but not dog? What's the major difference that means ones owner is ok to let it go on your lawn but the other is not.

OP YANBU but you can't post anything against cats on MN as they'll eat you alive for it.
They should keep their cat in as should all cat owners and no I don't believe millions of Americans and Australians are cruelly mistreating their cats by keeping them indoors they're just responsible owners willing to put effort into their animals.

Batshit

Myfluffyblanket · 15/08/2025 19:22

Having a Jack Russell terrier has alleviated the catshit problem in my garden somewhat but I dislike the attitude of cat owners who maintain that cats are free to roam and defaecate where they like. In deference to your neighbours' age and frailty I would bag up the droppings and leave them tidily on their doorstep . They can then put them in their own bin.

LadyHexham · 15/08/2025 19:22

Just deal with it. It’s about 3 seconds out of your day and cat poo isn’t usually that unpleasant.

Yes it bloody is.
Why do cat owners always expect me to clean up my garden, without complaint, after their horrible pets?

Maybeweare · 15/08/2025 19:14

Next doors cat kept shitting in our garden and it could t be scared away it then decided it owned our garden and would attack dd every time she tried to play , our other neighbours were having similar issues it had even gone into their house through a window and attacked their dc ! They told us they were going to use jeyes fluid on their patio and path and that we should do the same as it repels cats ? It was amazing the cat didn’t even shit in the garden anymore ! They must hate the smell

MatildaTheCat · 15/08/2025 19:11

Just deal with it. It’s about 3 seconds out of your day and cat poo isn’t usually that unpleasant. The cat presumably gives them joy.

My friend had a cat that was a total escape artist and liked to poo on her neighbour’s conservatory roof. Now that was awkward.

Tollington · 15/08/2025 19:10

I bought Pet Shield from Direct Retail Outlet. Been using it for about three weeks now and touch wood, not a single poo on the front or rear lawn

Unicorn34 · 15/08/2025 19:09

Could you get a tray of soil and put it in their garden? Ive never had cats that poop on grass but have always had earthy areas for our outdoor ones to use instead of the neighbours gardens.

Selfishshellfishies · 15/08/2025 19:07

There was a story in the paper yesterday about a man who had a cat repeatedly coming into his house and terrorising his 2 cats. He asked neighbours, no one knew who's it was. He (bizarrely) catnapped it one day and drove it 5 miles away and left it in a woods. Owner found out and took him to Court as it never came back. I'm not advising that obviously, but thought a solidarity post might help. It clearly happens a lot. Only advice I can give is to get a dog...

JustPinkFinch · 15/08/2025 19:07

BloodandGlitter · 15/08/2025 19:05

Why are you ok with cat shit but not dog? What's the major difference that means ones owner is ok to let it go on your lawn but the other is not.

OP YANBU but you can't post anything against cats on MN as they'll eat you alive for it.
They should keep their cat in as should all cat owners and no I don't believe millions of Americans and Australians are cruelly mistreating their cats by keeping them indoors they're just responsible owners willing to put effort into their animals.

I am just about to tuck into dinner but I will come back to you to discuss the laws around animals and shit when I have finished eating.