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To think most people marry for convenience, not love?

31 replies

BluntMintSeer · 15/08/2025 17:38

When you look closely, so many marriages seem to be about money, security, kids, or just not wanting to be alone. Love might be there at the start but AIBU to think convenience is what really holds most marriages together?

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ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 15/08/2025 17:45

I think managing those shared responsibilities and burdens amicably, with trust, security and confidence is only achieved when it is underpinned by love. It might not look like the bells and whistles of the first flush of romance but it is integral and necessary.

Octoberdreaming · 15/08/2025 17:43

I agree OP.

adlitem · 15/08/2025 17:42

Hmm, no. But I think perhaps more people ought to think about the practicalities rather than "just" love.

Darragon · 15/08/2025 17:42

Those are two different questions to ask. Your thread title says "most people marry for convenience not love" and in the body of your post you say "convenience is what holds most marriages together". Why people marry someone can be completely different to why they stay with them.
Which one are you actually asking?

Ilovemyshed · 15/08/2025 17:41

Not mine.

MadisonMarieParksValetta · 15/08/2025 17:40

I wouldn't say most but certainly some. I think alot of people would split up if they won the lottery.