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Air BnB - would we get turned away for bringing an extra person?

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Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 15:33

Okay, I am prepared to be told AIBU

the situation is group of 7 of us, 3 couples and myself (single when it was booked) booked an Airbnb for a weekend away. We are all close friends

we booked an Airbnb that has space for 7 people - 3 doubles, one single bed.

between the time of booking and now, I have started a relationship with someone and I would really like him to come. however, this obviously throws up an issue in the max capacity of the air BnB is already reached so it's not like we can just add one more person in

he's very chill, I know he'd be fine sleeping on the sofa or squeezing in the single with me. If we ask the air BnB host if we can do that I imagine they will say no though, even if we offer to pay more for the extra person?

or is it super cheeky to just all 8 of us show up and hope they don't notice?

or do I just accept he can't come? I know it's not the end of the world but I'd really love him to come, I don't want to be 7th wheel (again!) and these are my closest friends, due to living all over the country we rarely get all together for a whole weekend, so I'd like them to meet him.

OP posts:
Michele09 · 15/08/2025 15:41

The problem for the owner may be the insurance is only for a certain occupancy level.

Arlanymor · 15/08/2025 15:40

It's their property you have to ask them, it's courtesy and the right thing to do. If it is against the rules and you sneak him in then you would both just feel jumpy the whole time - what if they have CCTV, a ring door bell? If it's not possible can't he just find somewhere nearby to stay and just come and go? He can leave late and come over early. Presuming your friend group are also fine to have him come along too? I say the latter because one of my friendship groups has a friend who changes blokes like library books and we're tired of investing our time, energy and friendship in someone who will shortly be replaced. Six months and above then we're fine - you've only know him for two weeks? Nope!

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 15:40

What do the 6 others think op?

IMissSparkling · 15/08/2025 15:40

Erm, have you asked your friends if they want a guy don't know crashing their holiday?! I would not be happy at all.

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 15:39

Just ask fgs op

adlitem · 15/08/2025 15:36

Let them know and offer to pay for the additional person. Lots of people have CCTV and it's pretty likely they'd find out one way or another.

murasaki · 15/08/2025 15:36

You could split the cost with him of somewhere near and see him with the group that way.

murasaki · 15/08/2025 15:35

You could ask the air bnb host, but it would be super cheeky to sneak him in. And they may have a ring doorbell...

I'd be furious if I were a host and found out.

Theoldboots · 15/08/2025 15:35

Personally I wouldn't risk it, I'd ask and abide by what the owner says.