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Air BnB - would we get turned away for bringing an extra person?

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Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 15:33

Okay, I am prepared to be told AIBU

the situation is group of 7 of us, 3 couples and myself (single when it was booked) booked an Airbnb for a weekend away. We are all close friends

we booked an Airbnb that has space for 7 people - 3 doubles, one single bed.

between the time of booking and now, I have started a relationship with someone and I would really like him to come. however, this obviously throws up an issue in the max capacity of the air BnB is already reached so it's not like we can just add one more person in

he's very chill, I know he'd be fine sleeping on the sofa or squeezing in the single with me. If we ask the air BnB host if we can do that I imagine they will say no though, even if we offer to pay more for the extra person?

or is it super cheeky to just all 8 of us show up and hope they don't notice?

or do I just accept he can't come? I know it's not the end of the world but I'd really love him to come, I don't want to be 7th wheel (again!) and these are my closest friends, due to living all over the country we rarely get all together for a whole weekend, so I'd like them to meet him.

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PurpleThistle7 · 15/08/2025 16:17

I’d absolutely ask the host first as I’m guessing they’re only insured for 7. But worth asking!

Doitrightnow · 15/08/2025 16:16

Please don't sneak him in.

I run an AirBnB. I don't mind extra people assuming there's room, but I do charge extra pp so if you didn't tell me about an extra person I'd assume you were trying to get out of paying fairly and take a very very dim view.

There is indeed a limit to the number of people allowed by my insurer too.

Just ask, and if they say no either leave BF at home or book somewhere around the corner.

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 16:13

Oh OP…. This is going to go one way this weekend away! 😆

jen337 · 15/08/2025 16:12

2dogsandabudgie · 15/08/2025 15:59

You sound like the selfish type who doesn't care about anyone else as long as you're happy.

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You sound like a fun sponge. Won’t somebody please think of the insurance!

TilerSwift · 15/08/2025 16:03

Unfortunately they will have a maximum occupancy on their insurance, so I would definitely ask but don’t think they’re being difficult if they say no.

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Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 16:00

Soontobe60 · 15/08/2025 15:58

I wouldn’t be if I didn’t know the man.

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Fortunately for me I have nice friends ☺️

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2dogsandabudgie · 15/08/2025 15:59

jen337 · 15/08/2025 15:53

Sneak him in! Hardy crime of the century is it. You lot sound like the types who’d pay for tasting a grape at the supermarket.

You sound like the selfish type who doesn't care about anyone else as long as you're happy.

Soontobe60 · 15/08/2025 15:58

Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 15:42

You wouldn't be happy if your best friend bought their partner to a trip you are also bringing your partner to? That's a bit odd

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I wouldn’t be if I didn’t know the man.

moondune · 15/08/2025 15:57

If the hosts find out there is over occupancy they are entitled to ask you all to leave immediately without recompense. I’m not saying they would do that but they are within their rights, and Airbnb would back them up.
It’s a bit unfair on your friends to put their holiday at risk imo.

theresnolimits · 15/08/2025 15:53

Please don Do this without checking. You will invalidate their insurance. You also have no idea if their neighbours are watching like a hawk and will report them. Also, how comfortable will that be.

I would suggest you run it by the Airbnb owner. If they say no, look for a cheap B& B nearby, get a proper double bed and come and go. Much nicer for all concerned.

jen337 · 15/08/2025 15:53

Sneak him in! Hardy crime of the century is it. You lot sound like the types who’d pay for tasting a grape at the supermarket.

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Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 15:49

To answer the people who are asking what my friends think, I've spoken to 2 of them, and they would have no issue with me bringing my partner. They just have the same concerns I do, whether we would be allowed to or not.

I haven't spoken to the other one as she's very busy (the other 3 are partners so I wouldn't speak to them directly anyway)

I don't just show up to events with random people uninvited, but if a group of couples are doing something together I find it odd people would think one half of a couple can't come along just because they're new?

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FOJN · 15/08/2025 15:48

You should look at the terms and conditions. I think if you turn up with more guests than permitted/booked the host can refuse you entry to the property or ask you to leave.

I think if you decide you want your boyfriend to join you for the weekend you must ask the host to avoid any problems.

Talkinpeace · 15/08/2025 15:48

Ask the host.
The airbnb near me sleeps 9 but they have cots and a folding bed so there were 12 the other week

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 15:47

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 15:45

How long have you been with him?
do others know him?
are they happy for him to join?
what do they think about asking the owner?

Simple questions really

BridgetofKildare · 15/08/2025 15:46

Where is the property? If it is in an area with licencing it will only be for seven people with those beds. Overuse could invalidate licence and cause problems with local authorities, Air B&B and insurance.

Darragon · 15/08/2025 15:46

Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 15:42

You wouldn't be happy if your best friend bought their partner to a trip you are also bringing your partner to? That's a bit odd

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Oh dear God. You're that person who brings an extra person to things without asking. YABVU.

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Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 15:46

XelaM · 15/08/2025 15:43

Can he book a cheap room nearby and then you can all hang out together?

This is a good idea, but I'm not sure if it would be an issue us all hanging out at the Airbnb even if not all staying there?

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Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 15:45

Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 15:42

You wouldn't be happy if your best friend bought their partner to a trip you are also bringing your partner to? That's a bit odd

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So…. Have you asked them?

Othersnotsomuch · 15/08/2025 15:45

How long have you been with him?
do others know him?
are they happy for him to join?
what do they think about asking the owner?

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Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 15:45

Shatteredallthetimelately · 15/08/2025 15:42

between the time of booking and now, I have started a relationship with someone

I don't want to be 7th wheel (again!)

Yet you booked it before you were in a relationship, so would have knowingly been the 7th wheel anyway.

Yep, I did! I wanted to, and still do, spend time with my friends whether im the single one or not. But now that I'm not single it would be more comfortable for me not being the only one there without their partner. Obviously if that can't happen I'll still go, it wasn't then, and isn't now a dealbreaker.

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XelaM · 15/08/2025 15:43

Can he book a cheap room nearby and then you can all hang out together?

Shatteredallthetimelately · 15/08/2025 15:42

between the time of booking and now, I have started a relationship with someone

I don't want to be 7th wheel (again!)

Yet you booked it before you were in a relationship, so would have knowingly been the 7th wheel anyway.

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Jahavagayxn · 15/08/2025 15:42

IMissSparkling · 15/08/2025 15:40

Erm, have you asked your friends if they want a guy don't know crashing their holiday?! I would not be happy at all.

You wouldn't be happy if your best friend bought their partner to a trip you are also bringing your partner to? That's a bit odd

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boredwfh · 15/08/2025 15:41

It’s also insurance implications for the host. You’d be invalidating the insurance with overcrowding

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