Air BnB - would we get turned away for bringing an extra person?

do you have your own en-suite for this stay? If not, even if you get approval from the owner, this is an additional person to work into the queue. Also a person on the sofa limits other people’s options.

its entirely different if you plan from the beginning and choose an appropriate rental for the number of people.

Sharing accommodation with someone they don't know very well might be awkward for them. I assume that you got to know their partners before going on holiday with them.

The airbnbs insurance will be for 7, any more and it will be invalidated if something happens

why don’t you see if you can get a small one room one for you and your partner? Hopefully the 6 remaining will,pick up your share of that one

I wouldn’t use a trip away to introduce anew partner to old friends. Suppose they don’t get on?

You wouldn't be happy if your best friend bought their partner to a trip you are also bringing your partner to? That's a bit odd

I certainly wouldn't, especially if I had to get up in the morning to a stranger on the sofa. You have to grow a friendship and that's a bit too abrupt.

Insurance

Which you could be invalidating on some of your trips

Awww be lovely OP if he could stay, it would make it an even better weekend having your new partner stay and meet your friends.

You should just ask the host though otherwise you will only worry all weekend that you are going to get caught out. You never know the host may be ok with it but definitely best to check.

Have a lovely weekend however it goes and all the best with your new relationship.

People are being far too cautious! Just take him! The Air BnB hosts won’t know. I have an Airbnb and I really wouldn’t care, unless he shits the bed or breaks something. But anyone could do that. If he does sleep on the sofa, I would make sure he’s up and dressed with any bedding put away before everyone else wakes up as I hate duvets and shit all over the place, but other than that it should be fine.

It really isn’t a biggie.

They quite possibly will only have insurance for 7 people at the Airbnb. You can ask them very nicely and offer to pay more if they want, they may be fine, but they may well say no due insurance or fire safety ect. Don't try to sneak someone in, as if they find out they could ask you all to leave, which would be a pain for all your friends.

I do think it is normal at the start of a relationship to not do things together like this due to logistics of booking. If the relationship goes well you will have years of group holidays with them though. Another option, if it is not too far, might be your new boyfriend joining you for the day. In your position (if your friends are OK about someone on the sofa ect) I would ask the host in case, but not expect them to say yes.

You have to ask the host there are a number of reasons (including insurance) why it may not work for them that you need to check (including whether he can visit for long periods of time)
Please don’t sneak him in!

but ignore the issues with your friends it is purely about whether it is ok for the host

Sorry didn't finishing posting! They may say yes which is great.
They may say no. Its up to them. If they do can you not stay somewhere close by?

I would do this. Explain the situation and ask if it would be okay and when you do offer a little extra for it.

Please OP, don't take any notice of any of this.

And ignore all this insurance nonsense. If something gets broken, or the house burns down, your friend was never there.

APPALLING ADVICE
If he is injured or he injures somebody or there is a medical emergency of any kind
pretending he was not there will not wash.

It is highly likely that the host will say yes
but it is THEIR PROPERTY

Who told him the address?

Accepting that your friends’ partners are sometimes dicks is part and parcel of a couples trip.

See I would want to know the partners before signing up to a couples trip - and if any of them were too dickish I wouldn’t be going! It’s one thing to book a trip with partners you know, entirely different to have a new unknown added in.

We've stayed in a couple of places recently where the owner has explicitly added a clause that the house is not set up for extra people and they will consider your booking null and void if you turn up with more than the booked number. So I guess there are a lot of owners getting fed up off people saving money by overoccupying and the resulting wear and tear on the property.

Accepting that your friends’ partners are sometimes dicks is part and parcel of a couples trip. It would be very rich of her friends to say they don’t want to take a chance on her new bf while bringing their own. I’ll give you the Celtic / Rangers supporters point though, I have dated both in a past life (not at the same time obviously!) and fck me, it’s something I would never have understood until I saw it in practice!

Airbnb owner here - you definitely need to check with the host, it can invalidate their insurance and you don’t want to be in that situation. If they can’t accommodate you, why don’t you and your BF find a room nearby?

Im not sure where all the fury and outrage has come from with some of the responses you’ve had OP! Personally I think the way you’ve explained it in your post sounds like you are a sweet and decent person, and I don’t think the suggestion of your new partner joining the trip and meeting your friends is unreasonable (plus as you say it would be nice for everyone there to have their partner, rather than 3 lots of couples and you just on your own!). The way you’ve worded things in your post sounds sensible and I’d contact the AirBnB owner saying just what you’ve said here? If it’s an issue to do with maximum occupancy for fire regs or something, at least you’ve checked? Perhaps you could say that he could bring a camp bed if they are concerned about damage to sofa or single bed with extra people sleeping on it? Hoping it’s a yes and you all have a lovely weekend!

Assuming your mates are cool with it you only have two choices.

• Ask the Air BnB host ASAP, so you can source a hotel if if they say no.

• Sneak him in. The host won't be there counting you in and if he is, you just tell him that your friend is leaving later. He's not going to post up in the bushes waiting or watch the Ring doorbell all night. It's hardly crime of the century. If the host turn up in the morning, your friend arrived ten minutes ago.

And ignore all this insurance nonsense. If something gets broken, or the house burns down, your friend was never there.

Just ask. BIL and his partner had the cheek to come visit us when we were on holiday about an hour from them and brought their bloody camper van and parked it up in the drive of the Airbnb and the host was totally fine with it.

I, on the other hand, was not fine with, surprise, having to suddenly play hostess to in laws on my own f-ing holiday (our first holiday post-COVID). They stayed for the week and I had to feed and water them and share the 1 toilet and shower with them. They wouldn’t even buy a takeaway for us all on one night. It’s been 4 years and I’m still traumatised by the experience. Dh is a people pleaser and just stood there as they parked up ready for their all inclusive holiday (they didn’t contribute to any costs, buy any food shopping, take us out for a meal, offer to go get some drinks, nothing, so make sure new boyfriend contributes too). I have never forgiven any of them for this, as you can see. It still makes me see red.

I would just offer to bring an air mattress though, as I wouldn’t want someone sleeping on my sofa as a host. Also changes the dynamic when everyone is tiptoeing around some guy they don’t know passed out in the lounge when they are trying to get a coffee.

Ask your friends - and ask them to be honest. I wonder if their “air bnb might say no” is actually them saying “I don’t want to go on holiday with a brand new boyfriend I don’t know”

Ask the air bnb host, for all the reasons said.

And if friends and airbnb say ok - Strongly suggests he sleeps in your room NOT the sofa, that’s grim for everyone and not fair on the air bnb host. Bring an air bed and sleeping bag.

I think you should ask the host as well lots of places are only set up for exact number of guests so 7 bowls, 7 mugs etc

I wouldn’t be keen on having someone sleep in the sofa if it’s open plan as you feel like you have to wait before they are up before you hsve breakfast. If host says yes posdibly a camping sim or something. I t try junk sharing a single is tough as adults so you’ll probably need a plan B.

We have people like you all the time trying to sneak in extra people. They try turning up at 1am and things like that, so we don't know but we always find out.