Air BnB - would we get turned away for bringing an extra person?

First of all as an Airbnb host myself I would expect you to inform me that there will be an extra person. This is a requirement and essentially you are only meant to bring the number you’ve booked for. Avoid overcrowding.

Secondly, how long have you known this person for? Are your friends ok with an additional person on their holiday who they don’t know? I would be annoyed tbh. Ask him to book something nearby. Then meet up or invite him over.

Hanging out at the Airbnb and not staying there is fine. Having someone stay who hasn’t paid isn’t fine especially if max capacity is breached.

If I owned a holiday let then I’d be much happier if you brought a camp bed and bedding than if he was sofa surfing on my sofa.

I’m a host and i’d say yes if you asked. I also wouldn’t charge you extra.

Ask, and if the answer is no, accept it with a good grace.

There's no problem with this. We have stayed at places with table and chairs for more than the number of people who can stay, and have sometimes had friends or family nearby over for an evening / dinner etc.

One of the OP’s friend still doesn’t know (anything to stop you pinging her a WhatsApp or…. Calling her Op?)

and the other two “have no issue” with new boyfriend (op hasn’t clarified how long been with him… so I’d read in to that, weeks!).

I don’t know about others but “no issue” with something doesn’t exactly mean “happy” “enthusiastic” about it!

and given the OP’s defensive cagey responses on this thread… I imagine they’d also have “no issue” if the op decided not to join in the end

That's assuming that, once you meet him, you actually like him.

Personally, I wouldn't like my first meeting of someone to be on a holiday!

It's not about whether they're nice, it matters whether he is!

And, respectfully, it doesn't sound like they know him very well which, whether you like it/agree or not, will alter the dynamic of the holiday.

^ this. I’m a host and I would end any booking if you sneaked an extra guest in (and airbnb have supported me to do this in the past)

Your friends would end up without accommodation and still be charged.

I have entry cameras (which airbnb allow) so you couldn’t sneak him in : I have had 2 guests do this and I know and ended their bookings

Leave him at home or book a hotel room: putting the living room out of action is very selfish

i would/do allow daytime guests with no issues: let the host know you’ve booked another room nearby but will be joining the group for meals etc

Really? I’d be so delighted if a friend who’d always been single had met someone special and I’d be dying to meet them!

Absolutely just ask.

Scotland here so licence dictates maximum capacity. But there is a pub round the corner and something can always be sorted.

what cannot, is lies.

we host a huge sporting event twice a year in the small village. The crew take my cottage. Tents, changeovers, etc. as long as I know about it I can make the next steps with licence and insurance.

there might be 30 people that week, but all switching over shifts fast and I’m aware of it.

one extra would not bother me if I knew.

Same here OP!

What is wrong with some people?!

I’d personally check with the host and if they aren’t happy then he/you can book a room elsewhere. Only because if they find out they could turf you all
out!

OP, Ask all your mates by text if needs be, if they would mind him coming particularly if they haven't met him.

If they are OK with it, just message the AirBnB - better still ring them and explain and ask if he can stay, he's happy to rough it and you will pay extra. He will need bedding and a lot of accommodation only supply chairs, crockery, knives and forks etc for the max occupancy, so they may also accommodate that.

If they say no, book him in somewhere nearby.

If you don't ask and he gets discovered, who ever booked the accommodation could be barred from using AirBnB again and if you are found out mid break, they will chuck him out and maybe the rest of you and I can't see that going down well with your friends - so don't risk it. I can't see them turning their nose up at a bit of extra money unless their insurance does not allow overcrowding.

You need to ask the owner - I agree that there might be insurance implications. Also what about towels, crockery etc. Will there be enough of everything to cope with an extra person.
If I was one of the original 7an extra person staying wouldn’t bother me cost wise if they were using your bedroom, but I’m not a fan of anyone sleeping in the living room.

Amazed at the responses- I'd be excited to meet my friends new partner and would be very happy for them to join in.

As a friend I ould be happy you have a new partner, but I might not be happy with someone new joining for the whole weekend.
Especially if the rest if you have all spent together like this before, and no one really knows him very well.
Could change the dynamic massively.
I want to relax when I'm away.
I'd find someone i don't know sleeping on the sofa really intrusive.
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i don’t know why people are being so judgemental to you. I’m generally I’ve found airbnbs mostly are modest on size for number of people. Ie I’ve booked houses for 6 for 2, 8 for 4. Unless you’ve booked a really lavish one I’d not try to cram more in and that’s hardly romantic and beginning of relationship. I’d book a hotel and then you can have a lovely time with him and visit your friends

Just ask the host. No need to ask on this forum.

I'd be extremely unhappy about a man I didn't know sleeping on the sofa in a holiday home I was sharing with friends. If I wake up really early and want to go downstairs and read a book and have a cuppa, I don't want to have to tiptoe around a stranger on the sofa. And I don't want to have to go to bed earlier than I feel like doing because he's tired and he wants everyone out of the living area so he can sleep. What if the rest of them don't take to him? Best to introduce him slowly, in a situation where people aren't stuck with him.

Why don't the pair of you book a separate local AirBnB/ hotel/ B+B for the two of you? You can have lots of sex without bothering your friends, hang out with them when you want to and have privacy at the end of the day.

Another host here - also depends on the location. In Scotland it is now illegal to have more than the designated number in the property, whether paying guests or just friends staying, sadly.

‘Before I book seperate accommodation for however many nights, would it be possible for my DP to stay. We are happy to air-bed and provide our own bedding for the single room. If so can you let me know the additional cost. If not can you recommend anywhere nearby for a cheap bed before I head to Premier Inn/Travelodge?’

If someone messaged me with that and my insurance was fine with it I’d let them stay. But I’d also keep an eye out for them staying if I said no because it wouldn’t be covered. I’d not be fuming. Circumstances change if you’d booked a long time ago. It’s a perfectly reasonable question.

I would ask the air B&B owner first.
The last thing you want is to ruin everyone else’s weekend away.

I personally wouldn’t be happy having a stranger come to a trip that is for a group of good friends, it does change the dynamic.

I guess it depends on how long you’ve been with him and how many have met him before (I’m assuming at least one would have met him if you’ve been with him a while and they’re all good friends).

Tbh if my friends were fine I’d just take him along and offer friends some extra cash for his share. Mn is very black and white on right and wrong.

I'd say no because my sofa isn't suitable, but mine is only for couples! If it was a bigger place I would check with my insurance on max occupancy and say yes. I'd charge an extra £25 for the bedding if the sofa was going to be used, which is what it would cost to launder.

The host of course may not have a spare duvet/ pillows on site if they don't live nearby. I wouldn't want anyone sleeping on a sofa without bedding.