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Dispute with x over secondary school

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Clh1991 · 15/08/2025 00:26

Feeling extremely upset & anxious DD will be doing her Kent test in September if she does not pass she wishes to go to our local school 10 minutes away. However my x her dad wants her to go to another school that’s in the city over half an hour / hour in traffic away even if she doesn’t pass her Kent test. He is being completely dismissive of our wishes im so worried my daughter will end up going to a school she doesn’t want to go to that’s going to be a nightmare for us to get to.

Does anyone know what will happen if we do not agree on a school can I just apply for the one of our choice anyway? Just to add both schools have a good reputation but the school that’s in the city there will be more children she knows going there but at a downside she will be having to leave a lot earlier & coming home later , the one near our home because she currently goes to school near the city it’s unlikely any of the children from her current school will be there , I have made my daughter aware of this but she really wants to go to the closer one if she does not pass … sorry for long post im just so worried over what to do

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Notquitethetruth · 15/08/2025 06:19

Your x sounds like a bully. His wants do not supercede that of you and your daughter. Apply for the nearest school and ignore him. Seems to be the best choice that will work for you both.

Clh1991 · 15/08/2025 06:18

Tiswa · 15/08/2025 04:31

Who is the resident parent

My daughter will spend 3 days a week at her dads so I would say I am but this is the main issue of why I want her to be at the school closest to me I want my daughter here full fime how it should be , her dad is more than happy with that arrangement too just not the local school he has proposed if she goes to the school in the city they will take her everyday ie him his mum & dad which is completely impractical.

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Tiswa · 15/08/2025 04:31

Who is the resident parent