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How to make my message sound polite?

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Mariana95 · 15/08/2025 00:15

Not really AIBU but I want my message to come across the right way.

I have a tradesman who's an acquaintance/casual friend coming to do some work in my house at the end of the month. He'll liaise with me and my housemates to find a suitable day.

I wanted to send a message saying, "you can start on the 28/08 is fine if you like, as I'll be out of the house all day, and I'll only be back briefly at around 4pm to collect a bag."
Does this sound like I'm implying, 'it's fine for you to come round then because I'm not there, and I don't want to see you'. The man is a friend, and it isn't a big deal, but I don't want to sound rude either.

Maybe I'm just overthinking.

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CountryMumof4 · 15/08/2025 00:21

Maybe just rephrase it if you're worried? Maybe something like "Are you able to fit us in on 28th August, please? I won't be in, but you can catch me on my mobile if you need me and I'll be popping home around 4pm. Help yourself to tea and coffee"?

Peaceisenough · 15/08/2025 00:21

“I’d appreciate you starting on the 28th as we will be out of your way for most of the day” will be fine and not rude.