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Sister needs weight loss jabs but doesn’t qualify

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 00:00

My step sister has been struggling with her weight all her life
In order fir her to keep her weight stable she has been fighting food noise and cravings since about 13 but has resisted which she describes as a full time job along with exercise which is baked into her life but she hates.
she is a healthy weight and quite slim but at 44 wants a breather from her life revolving around food and food noise.
She wants the jab for some time off all this

Im fat and qualify and use the jabs - 3.5 stone down but still very overweight and now finding that that the suppression lasts longer so have agreed to order my next lot as the starting dose of 2.5 for her so she can have a month or two off

AIBU
she is riddled with food noise and has had over 30 years from a teen with total
food obsession. Virtually sticking her fist in her mouth and doing exercises rather than overeat
agreed she hasn’t put weight on by overeating as has managed not giving in but this has been torture for her and she needs a break

OP posts:
Booboobagins · 15/08/2025 06:35

The risk of pancreatitis and other health conditions by taking any of these jabs when not needed is real. Google 'risk of taking mounjaro when you're not fat' and see what the medical profession say.

Hypnosis would be option I'd choose. It's cheaper than buying the injections, has no negative side effects and is longer lasting.

You can buy earworms online for this that work or pay a local hypnotist with good reputation and reviews.

Good luck to her and you. Thinking about food constantly must be exhausting. X

Elbowpatch · 15/08/2025 06:33

GiveItAGoMalcom · 15/08/2025 00:10

What on earth did people used to say before 'food noise' became the cool and trendy must-use phrase?

Anyway that aside, of course YABU and I'm sure you know it, just as everyone on this thread will be able to work out you know it too.

I don’t even know what it is. I’m going to have to Google it.

Titasaducksarse · 15/08/2025 06:32

Therapeutic intervention?

LoveMySushi · 15/08/2025 06:32

I think a lot of people have the same problem as your sister. Im quite slim, but i work hard for it. I run 10km 5-6 days a week and do strength training 3-4x additionally. Im constantly “hungry” because I never eat enough to feel full. When my kids have a birthday I fast all day so that i can have a bit of cake with them.
It takes a lot of discipline for me to stay slim and as soon as my diet slips (holidays) I gain weight right away.
I was borderline overweight (bmi 25) after my second child was born and i didnt feel good at that weight at all. It took me two years of dieting and exercise to reach my usual weight and i have to keep the diet up now at 40 years old just to maintain.

I would never consider taking a medication that i dont need though. Sure, maybe it will make it easier to stay slim, but there are certainly side effects. For overweight people these side effects are possibly better than the side effects of being fat, but for me it wouldnt be worth the risk.

Pricelessadvice · 15/08/2025 06:31

A lot of us slimmer people actually fight internally with ourselves constantly about food. It annoys me that people assume slim people don’t have these issues.
For many of us it’s hard work staying slim and trying to drown out the food noise.

Unfortunately she doesn’t qualify for weight loss drugs and it would be dangerous for her to have them.

icouldholditwithacobweb · 15/08/2025 06:30

Food noise reduction is not an inevitable side effect of weight loss jabs (didn't do ANYTHING to stop food noise for me, I eat less on the jabs because it's physically not possible for me to eat more) and they're not some easy way out either. Side effects are very real. She's already coping with her weight so the drugs are not aimed at her. To reduce food noise look at learning from people who can help reprogram her brain so it's not an ongoing issue - try Corinne Crabtree's podcast Losing 100lbs with Corinne (no jabs when she did it) for example.

PlayfulWrangler · 15/08/2025 06:30

Now come on - this is click bait.

arcticpandas · 15/08/2025 06:30

The main problem is that your sister would go from normal weight to underweight on the jabs.

WatermelonKiwi · 15/08/2025 06:28

Setting aside the fact it’s totally wrong, will it really just be a breather though? What happens when her ‘breather’ is over? Isn’t it just going to make it harder for her to get back to eating sensibly and exercising?!

Ooodelally · 15/08/2025 06:28

Has she asked you to commit this crime or have you offered and she’s jumped at the chance? If she has asked you to break the law for her I hope you are able to really look at the boundaries you have with your family and look at getting therapy to help you strengthen these.

Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 06:27

OP I hear you. All the information about what this drug is supposed to help people… control food noise, satiate hunger, reduce appetite etc and it appears that it is only available to those who are unable to help themselves through their own will or actions.

Seems the best advice to your sister would be to stop trying so hard, let herself go, pick up two stone, qualify for the drug and be happy.

Pinky1256 · 15/08/2025 06:25

If she can't control or struggles to control herself around food then she needs therapy. She needs a lifestyle and stick to it, such as keto or low carb, whatever works for her.

It's unhealthy to just eat whatever she wants (binge) because you will give her your jabs! Which should only be taken when they are prescribed for you! You can potentially put her life in danger and you would be liable for it. I'm pro jabs but you do need doctor supervision and you can't take jabs forever, once you are on your ideal weight, you have to make it into a lifestyle.

Yellowbirdcage · 15/08/2025 06:25

She wouldn’t be the only one in the world taking WLI when she’s slim. I believe it’s rife in the US amongst wealthy/celeb types. Will probably be quite normal in the future. I know of one UK woman who just lied to an online provider. Mine asks for photos regularly but there’s no ID check so I assume I could just upload a picture of a random fat person. They do have my GP details but I have never been to my GP.
But you can’t be a part of it OP. What if things go wrong? You’d never forgive yourself.

Charltonstrek · 15/08/2025 06:23

Classic example of people thinking weight loss jabs will do all of the hard work for me.

Radiowaawaa · 15/08/2025 06:17

She could have a break from ignoring the ‘food noise’ (hunger?) by having a month off of dieting and eating what she wants rather than taking a medication that isn’t prescribed for her. Either way she will struggle afterwards to an extent.

Empress13 · 15/08/2025 06:15

have you taken leave of what little sense you have?

Blushingm · 15/08/2025 06:13

cyvguhb · 15/08/2025 05:54

Are you saying that 70 years ago people had more will power? You know that not why there's an obesity crisis, right?

70 years ago there wasn’t the fast food and processed food we have now - some things were also still rationed!

people were also much more active too

Charltonstrek · 15/08/2025 06:03

Have I got this straight your sister needs a break from watching her intake so thinks she can eat what she wants if she has your weight loss jabs because quite honestly it doesn't work like that.
Also I do understand her battle I've lost 5st but still been careful about what I eat and its driving me insane it's a battle staying off nice things but I'd never think about taking weight Jabs to have a break

FluffyWabbit · 15/08/2025 06:03

With compassion, I think the world has created victims of everything that requires effort. There is no fat gene but there are chemicals in the food that means we react differently, mentally and physically, to certain foods.

Reduce carbs and, importantly, processed and ultra processed foods. You will enter a completely different world where 'food noise' and 'addiction' simply won't exist.

No one overeats eggs, anchovies, steak, chicken breast, lettuce etc.

iloveeverykindofcat · 15/08/2025 06:02

Health risks aside OP she is asking you to commit a crime. The penality is usually a fine, but technically can carry up to 2 years in prison.

chloe22whitethorn · 15/08/2025 05:55

Vaxtable · 15/08/2025 01:17

I am going to be rude here but you are an idiot

the jabs are not meant for people who are a healthy weight which she is, she will lose more weight, and what happens in two months when you have put weight back on, which you will do, she has lost more which is not good and doesn’t want to stop the jabs?

The noise you talk about will simply start again

she needs to go and see a Dr and get an appointment for eating disorder help, thereby, whatever to help her control but not the jabs you are ridiculous

Not rude, factual. You are 100% correct the OP would be stupid for doing this.

cyvguhb · 15/08/2025 05:54

Crake1792 · 15/08/2025 05:53

Food noise? Weight loss injections? Wow the world has gone nuts.

It just takes a little self control. 70 years ago almost no one was obese.

Are you saying that 70 years ago people had more will power? You know that not why there's an obesity crisis, right?

Crake1792 · 15/08/2025 05:53

Food noise? Weight loss injections? Wow the world has gone nuts.

It just takes a little self control. 70 years ago almost no one was obese.

Shoxfordian · 15/08/2025 05:48

She could be really ill if you do this op, she needs therapy not mounjaro

Zanatdy · 15/08/2025 05:39

How will you feel if she gets acute pancreatitis. A rare, but documented side effect. I’ve had it 5 times, it can be fatal. They will ask where she got them from and why she was taking them. Your excuse sounds ridiclous. I’m always hungry as always having to watch what I eat. But taking the jabs for a break from that? Insane.

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