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Sister needs weight loss jabs but doesn’t qualify

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 00:00

My step sister has been struggling with her weight all her life
In order fir her to keep her weight stable she has been fighting food noise and cravings since about 13 but has resisted which she describes as a full time job along with exercise which is baked into her life but she hates.
she is a healthy weight and quite slim but at 44 wants a breather from her life revolving around food and food noise.
She wants the jab for some time off all this

Im fat and qualify and use the jabs - 3.5 stone down but still very overweight and now finding that that the suppression lasts longer so have agreed to order my next lot as the starting dose of 2.5 for her so she can have a month or two off

AIBU
she is riddled with food noise and has had over 30 years from a teen with total
food obsession. Virtually sticking her fist in her mouth and doing exercises rather than overeat
agreed she hasn’t put weight on by overeating as has managed not giving in but this has been torture for her and she needs a break

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Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 09:38

SwingTheMonkey · 15/08/2025 09:29

The drugs come with risks for everyone. Currently, the risk to someone who is obese, is outweighed by the risk of obesity related illnesses. If in the future, the drug can be made safer, I’d be chuffed for anyone who struggles to maintain a healthy BMI to have access. Because I’m not a nasty, bitter cunt.

Your tone in your replies tells me everything I need to know about your attitude towards overweight people. Thank goodness op has posted this goady load of shite so that people like you can let everyone know how you feel.

My point is the rather meaningless measurement of BMI being the deciding factor. Should you be one below this then you do not qualify yet your struggles are the same save for either being a little taller and weighing a little less than your counterpart.

if people are so concerned about the risks or so in favor of its benefits then the criteria for inclusion should be looked at. The OPs sister just needs to sit back and put on some pounds to get the relief that all the overweight people are fawning over.

BIossomtoes · 15/08/2025 09:36

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 00:12

When I get to her weight I will still qualify for them?
so not sure where there harm is ?
If she put on two stone she would qualify anyway?

she just wants a breather

No she wouldn’t. Your BMI has to be in the clinically obese range to get them. Your prescription will stop if you move out of that range. I don’t know who’s most unreasonable - you or your sister.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 15/08/2025 09:35

AliceMcK · 15/08/2025 02:11

What are the reasons she dosnt qualify? This would be my biggest issue. I have a friend who wanted me to do similar, I personally felt she didn’t need them but my main reasoning was she had to many health issues I was not going to be responsible if something happened to her. In the end I was able to convince her the dangers with her health.

I personally would do it in your situation but only if you and DSis had done all the checks on her health and made sure there wasn’t something that would clash with the drug.

Also be careful as the food noise can come back even stronger, mine came back with a vengeance when I stopped last time and when you start retaking you may not have the same effects you’ve had after taking a break.

Did you read any of OPs posts? The main reason is she isn't overweight!

Rosscameasdoody · 15/08/2025 09:35

SwingTheMonkey · 15/08/2025 09:29

The drugs come with risks for everyone. Currently, the risk to someone who is obese, is outweighed by the risk of obesity related illnesses. If in the future, the drug can be made safer, I’d be chuffed for anyone who struggles to maintain a healthy BMI to have access. Because I’m not a nasty, bitter cunt.

Your tone in your replies tells me everything I need to know about your attitude towards overweight people. Thank goodness op has posted this goady load of shite so that people like you can let everyone know how you feel.

The poster has also lost sight of the fact that these drugs facilitate weight loss as a side effect. Mounjaro was developed to treat type 2 diabetes.

Rosscameasdoody · 15/08/2025 09:31

Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 09:19

If you read the countless threads on this subject every fatty becomes a doctor and declares how unsafe the drugs are for anyone (the borderline skinnies or fatties) but themselves…

I’m not a fatty and neither is my DH, who takes mounjaro for type 2 diabetes. And l wouldn’t countenance giving any of your own prescribed drugs to someone else. Why should weight loss drugs be any different ? And if OP is getting the drug on the NHS then she’s diverting resources that are not meant to be used in this way. One of the most ridiculous statements l’ve seen in a long time was when OP said earlier in the thread that if her sister gained another two stones she would qualify. Utterly meaningless. If she wants to use mounjaro in this way she should buy it herself. It’s available for anyone willing to take the risk of taking it it without the mandatory medical checks for NHS use.

SwingTheMonkey · 15/08/2025 09:29

Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 09:19

If you read the countless threads on this subject every fatty becomes a doctor and declares how unsafe the drugs are for anyone (the borderline skinnies or fatties) but themselves…

The drugs come with risks for everyone. Currently, the risk to someone who is obese, is outweighed by the risk of obesity related illnesses. If in the future, the drug can be made safer, I’d be chuffed for anyone who struggles to maintain a healthy BMI to have access. Because I’m not a nasty, bitter cunt.

Your tone in your replies tells me everything I need to know about your attitude towards overweight people. Thank goodness op has posted this goady load of shite so that people like you can let everyone know how you feel.

Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 09:19

SwingTheMonkey · 15/08/2025 09:04

Who has said that?

The fictional sister in this scenario can’t access the drug because currently, it isn’t prescribed for someone in her circumstance. It would be illegal for op to buy it for her. If, in the future, it could be used by someone who is a healthy bmi to make it easier for that person to maintain the healthy bmi, I’d be absolutely delighted and I can’t imagine any of the other ‘fatties’ would feel any different.

If you read the countless threads on this subject every fatty becomes a doctor and declares how unsafe the drugs are for anyone (the borderline skinnies or fatties) but themselves…

Titasaducksarse · 15/08/2025 09:09

Gosh there are a load of sanctimonious c*s everytime there is any post about weight loss. I'm not agreeing with the OP though but I mean the follow on comments.
I'm realising the biggest divide in this country isn't class, education, money but fat v slim!

SwingTheMonkey · 15/08/2025 09:04

Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 07:55

And equally a subset of fat people who wish to see the slim people continue to struggle with the daily grind of keeping themselves slim and are incensed that they too would wish for an easier path to a healthier weight.

Like they value a feeling of superiority at being afforded access to WLI based on a number (BMI) which reflects absolutely nothing about the similar struggle experienced by a person who is one or two below that number to the person who is one or two above that number.

Edited

Who has said that?

The fictional sister in this scenario can’t access the drug because currently, it isn’t prescribed for someone in her circumstance. It would be illegal for op to buy it for her. If, in the future, it could be used by someone who is a healthy bmi to make it easier for that person to maintain the healthy bmi, I’d be absolutely delighted and I can’t imagine any of the other ‘fatties’ would feel any different.

GiveItAGoMalcom · 15/08/2025 08:53

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:09

She’s would never ever ever gain weight
But is going to get them Herself by lying exaggerating her weight and appearing heavier in pics /video by layering up and knocking a couple inches of her height to take me out the equation.

Lol

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:52

wordywitch · 15/08/2025 08:41

It’s a bit like alcohol or drug addiction too, in that once you’ve had an addiction to a substance your neuro chemistry is changed forever. So telling an alcoholic that all they have to do is drink less and learn to moderate is futile and very bad advice. The difference of course being that we don’t need alcohol to survive but we all have to eat. Which is why obesity is such a difficult thing to break free from for good.

She works in the addiction area funnily enough so understands the in and outs of the cycles of change /recovery /relapse well

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:50

Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 08:43

So I’m not sure of the scientific evidence but I completely disagree with the notion that slim people lose weight easier than those who are obese. If I only have 5kgs to lose that is MUCH harder to lose than an obese person who has say 40kgs to lose if we both follow the same construct… ie eat less and move more.

My sister who only restricts her calories on a plan will lose weight very easily whereas I would have to eat significantly less and exercise significantly more than I am currently to lose the last 5kgs to my goal.

This is true the more I have ever had to lose the quicker it drops off
when
only a stone or so overweight it’s agonisingly slow

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KTheGrey · 15/08/2025 08:46

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 00:27

Definitely dies not strive to be slimmer
loves her body
has worked bloody hard all her life and now in her 40s to stay a size 12 and athletic slim

just wants to step off the hamster wheel and have the jab take the edge off for a few months where she’s not fighting temptation every five minutes just has no appetite for a bit - like I do now x

Hypnotherapy may be worth a try.

If you enable your sister with an eating disorder how will you feel about that? This is why we have doctors.

Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 08:43

wordywitch · 15/08/2025 08:36

The hormone you’re referring to is not only influenced by genetics - it’s also heavily triggered by obesity itself, which disregulates satiety cues, blood sugar spikes, and other factors that contribute to difficulties in losing weight. Those who have never been obese will overall have an easier time losing weight that those who have been or are obese, which is why it’s not as simple as the ‘eat less move more’ brigade would have you believe. It’s much more complex than that and it’s this ignorance of how the body responds to weight gain which fuels misinformation and judgement.

So I’m not sure of the scientific evidence but I completely disagree with the notion that slim people lose weight easier than those who are obese. If I only have 5kgs to lose that is MUCH harder to lose than an obese person who has say 40kgs to lose if we both follow the same construct… ie eat less and move more.

My sister who only restricts her calories on a plan will lose weight very easily whereas I would have to eat significantly less and exercise significantly more than I am currently to lose the last 5kgs to my goal.

wordywitch · 15/08/2025 08:41

It’s a bit like alcohol or drug addiction too, in that once you’ve had an addiction to a substance your neuro chemistry is changed forever. So telling an alcoholic that all they have to do is drink less and learn to moderate is futile and very bad advice. The difference of course being that we don’t need alcohol to survive but we all have to eat. Which is why obesity is such a difficult thing to break free from for good.

Movinghouseatlast · 15/08/2025 08:40

NeelyOHara · 15/08/2025 06:53

I have food noise, I just work very hard to distract myself until my next meal, like millions of other people.
‘Food noise’ is something that conveniently came along at the same time as the jabs. It’s extremely useful to shut down any criticism and to simultaneously make the ‘sufferer’ a victim.

So you have food noise but don't believe in food noise? Strange.

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:39

iamstillfuming · 15/08/2025 07:21

If I were you, I’d just get them for her.

She is going to get them herself x

OP posts:
Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:38

Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 07:55

And equally a subset of fat people who wish to see the slim people continue to struggle with the daily grind of keeping themselves slim and are incensed that they too would wish for an easier path to a healthier weight.

Like they value a feeling of superiority at being afforded access to WLI based on a number (BMI) which reflects absolutely nothing about the similar struggle experienced by a person who is one or two below that number to the person who is one or two above that number.

Edited

I agree with this

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wordywitch · 15/08/2025 08:36

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:26

I thought the levelled the paying field around a satiation hormone / gene
I’ve read that on here ?

The hormone you’re referring to is not only influenced by genetics - it’s also heavily triggered by obesity itself, which disregulates satiety cues, blood sugar spikes, and other factors that contribute to difficulties in losing weight. Those who have never been obese will overall have an easier time losing weight that those who have been or are obese, which is why it’s not as simple as the ‘eat less move more’ brigade would have you believe. It’s much more complex than that and it’s this ignorance of how the body responds to weight gain which fuels misinformation and judgement.

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:32

Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 06:52

Do you think slim people don’t have to endure this noise? So only those who are overweight and have noise are allowed to be medicated to stop the torture?

That’s how it seems
but when a fat person like me gets to her weight they will still be able to continue taking the jab to lose more and then to keep the weight off
I don’t get it

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:30

Followthesunshine · 15/08/2025 06:47

You say for a breather but she won't want to stop using in a couple of months. I think you should think about the impact on your relationship when she doesn't want to stop taking your medication. You will be the one saying no more and no matter what she says now she won't be happy with you and will blame you for her food noise returning.

I thought about that and also I need mine which is a priority of course . and I cant order double
It would have only been one month anyway for those reasons.

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:26

Aimtodobetter · 15/08/2025 06:36

To be clear - the jabs do not address a gene deficiency that you (and you beleive) your sister have at all. They do through slower gut emptying and other aspects make you feel fuller. So can eating lots of fibre and protein / controlling your sugar (just not as easily but if she has the self control to stay thin then she should have the self control to manage her diet that way by focusing on big protein/ high fibre / low sugar diets).

I thought the levelled the paying field around a satiation hormone / gene
I’ve read that on here ?

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TupperJen · 15/08/2025 08:23

I am a huge fan of these medications for those that need it, but sadly your sister doesn't need it. She might want it, or fancy it, but neither if those is a need.

You have no idea how her body will react to the medication, and even if it works on cutting her food noise, what happens when she comes off it - the food noise could increase massively. Then she is in a WORSE position, and she will firmly believe that this medication is her "only solution", but you won't have a way to keep being her dealer. Don't start dabbling into things that you aren't qualified to deliver, this is a slippery slope that could ruin your sister's health in the long term.

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 15/08/2025 08:22

borntoblossom · 15/08/2025 02:20

Has she tried doing keto, that really helps me with cravings, and obsessive thoughts about food. That might give her a break for a bit if it works for her.

Edited

3 high protein meals a day lots of strength training
I follow her lead and that’s exactly what I do now now I’m on the jab.

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Ontheedgeofit · 15/08/2025 08:22

DarkForces · 15/08/2025 08:05

There's literally no studies into the impact of these drugs on a body that's never been obese. I don't go and grab someone else's anti depressants when I'm feeling shit because that's insane. Once studies are done, if they're proven safe and licensed knock yourself out.

Do you think everyone who takes anti-depressants is clinically depressed? How many people who are a bit blue or sad will go off and get themselves some anti-depressants in an effort to feel better and declaring themselves as depressed. It is well known that antidepressants are one of the most over prescribed and misused drugs in the world. Yet here we are…

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