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To politely ask next door's kids to be a bit quieter after nine?

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sorryitsaneighboursone · 14/08/2025 23:47

Sorry, another kids in summer holidays one.

Asking because I may be a bit out of touch as we haven't had school age kids as neighbours for a while.

1960s Terraced houses. Tiny back gardens, slightly bigger front gardens.
We've lived here 20+ years since DC were at primary.
New family with 4 kids moved in next door a few months ago.
Previously was let out to students by buy to let landlord for about 10 years prior to selling up earlier this year.
Before that owned by elderly lady who'd lived there since houses were built and raised family there.

When they first move in, kids would occasionally kick balls into our garden, I told them just to come in and get them as long as they came in the gate and not climb over the dyke/fence.

All OK until this week. Coming home I have chucked balls, shoes and various toys back into their back garden. Yesterday, they kicked a ball into our back garden 3 times in 10 minutes, 1st time we let it go, 2nd time, DH went out and asked them to mind our plants, we have planters along our side of the dyke. Third time was after the kids had a spat and one took a bad-tempered kick that knocked an ornament over and broke it. It was a cheap resin one and already cracked but DH went out and told them it had to stop, showed them the ornament and asked if their parents were in, they weren't. He wasn't going to actually get the kids in trouble just wanted to make them think. Kid mumbled sorry.

DH gets up at 4am as works 6am - 2pm so goes to bed at 9pm, tonight at around 9.15 kids next door come out and start playing football against their shed and shrieking and shouting. I opened back door and very politely said "Could you play a little bit quieter, please" which, to be fair they did.

Sorry TL:DR -

New family next door - should they tone it down or am I being a Grumpy Old Cow.

YABU - Kids will be kids, cut them some slack
YANBU - Report to Social Services NOW.

OP posts:
PixieTales · 15/08/2025 00:05

I completely disagree with PP.
Just because their on summer holidays doesn’t mean adults are. I think 9pm is a very reasonable cut off time to be going inside and not shouting in the garden on a weeknight.

TartanMammy · 15/08/2025 00:01

I have older kids, 10pm is probably the cut off for the garden. No screaming/shouting allowed at anytime but kicking a ball around and chatting is fine by me. It's not their fault your husband gets up early.

Likewise when I had little kids with early bedtimes I didn't expect the neighbours to be quiet for them either.

GiveItAGoMalcom · 15/08/2025 00:01

sorryitsaneighboursone · 14/08/2025 23:55

The SS bit was a joke. I get what you're saying about the netting and we do actually intend to have some proper fencing on top of the dyke but we haven't needed it in 20 years so why should it be on us. I'm really just venting as I don't want to come across as "that" neighbour.

The past 20 years don't matter though.

The point is you need it now.

Also, 9pm during the Summer holidays isn't particularly late I'm afraid.

sorryitsaneighboursone · 15/08/2025 00:00

@Hiptothisjive

Ok. Personally I think up till around 7-8pm ish is fine for loud/screechie play but after that, I'd expect kids to tone it down a bit, even in summer. No problem with laughing/talking at a normal level but this was full on slamming/shrieking.

OP posts:
ChungkingDreamer · 14/08/2025 23:57

Hiptothisjive · 14/08/2025 23:54

Sorry OP I don’t find anything wrong about this behaviour except probably it’s hot and windows are open but 9:15 is hardly antisocial.

My advice would be a fan and white noise to drown them out.

Definitely get a white noise machine. I got one because I had a very noise sensitive puppy, but I found it knocked me out like a light and I barely hear anything now that would annoy me/wake me up.

sorryitsaneighboursone · 14/08/2025 23:55

The SS bit was a joke. I get what you're saying about the netting and we do actually intend to have some proper fencing on top of the dyke but we haven't needed it in 20 years so why should it be on us. I'm really just venting as I don't want to come across as "that" neighbour.

OP posts:
Hiptothisjive · 14/08/2025 23:54

Sorry OP I don’t find anything wrong about this behaviour except probably it’s hot and windows are open but 9:15 is hardly antisocial.

My advice would be a fan and white noise to drown them out.

Livingthebestlife · 14/08/2025 23:53

Why on earth would you report to SS ? That's a bit mad.

The only thing you can do is speak to the parents explaining about your DHS job and if possible to play quietly. Maybe suggest getting netting in their garden to stop shit coming over.

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