To think I’m not a nice person?

You sound like a bit of a self absorbed arsehole but you already knew that writing it out. Not sure what use anyone else’s judgement is if you manage not to give a shit what people think about you in any of these real life scenarios.

Law says you should

If you care enough to change your name and/ or have ever worried you may be a sociopath/ psychopath- you aren't. Your choices are more selfish and self centred than any sort of pathology.

You’re not the kind of person I’d want to know.

😂

I have a denim skirt and jacket combo.

You already know what you are, I don’t think you need validated by a bunch of strangers on the internet but here we are.

You certainly don’t sound nice at all. But strange examples to give- I mean not caring about a gender reveal is most of us, I’d say- I’d even go further and say I abhor such nonsense. But potentially running someone over is very serious and also a crime that could end up with you in prison! You are apparently aware of what the ‘right thing to do’ is, even though you don’t ‘feel’ it. I suggest you try harder to do the right thing when you can, then maybe you can respect yourself a little more.

NOOOOOOOOO 😱

There are more of your posts that I relate to than don’t, and for the most part the people saying that you are awful and they fear for your children are sadly (ironically) lacking empathy.

Children cry, old people die. If you feel a 93 year old dying that you don’t know is incredibly sad then you are not wired correctly, a 33 year old is a different story. Children spoilt crying leaves me quite cold but if I saw a child have an unusual jolt that might be harmful I’d think about it for a long time and hope that they were okay.

I care about me and mine, sad stories upset me but I try and shake it off. Often the empathic are the ones who have to harden themselves to cope with the realities of life. My DH is moved by very little and he worries not a jot.

If I hear someone who has battled drugs has died on their tenth overdose I don’t feel the same way as I would if someone the same age was struck by lightning, I think they have probably hurt themselves and a lot of people and I worry that that makes me a harsh person.

People are very performative I feel, they have things they pretend to get upset about as they think it makes them look like a good person and there is a lot of that around at the moment. Especially in those who have lived softer lives. Virtue signalling is worse than not caring if a spoilt toddler can’t steal a toy at a sandpit.

Stepping on a snail or killing a spider, not everyone feels bad about these.

Your friend being upset, not sure if you just don't have the same feelings, value or experience of a family pet but you obviously care enough about the person or you would've said something.

If you're refering to letting people cross the road not at a traffic stop. Lots of people don't do this, I cross the road all the time as a pedestrian and more people don't stop than do.

Some other kid is crying because they want a toy your child has, sounds like they should learn to share. Obviously depending on age this might affect your response.

Yeah you probably shouldn't push in the queue for the toilet though

I'd love to see you try and rush past my disabled son to change your PFB. You'd get his wheelchair at your ankles.

I wouldn’t say those things particularly make you a bad person, some are careless and a bit selfish! How are you with your family, are you empathetic to them?

How is your mental health? I’m only asking because if you felt stressed when DD needed the toilet you may of been overwhelmed and done the wrong thing. You sound a bit numb to the world, I hope you’re ok?

Well at least you are acknowledging you are selfish and entitled. Why not go one step further and change your ways. You don’t have to care necessarily, to do nice things and to be unselfish, just behave properly and may be you will start to care.

You don’t sound very caring at all, but there’s definitely a reason behind it. I would seek therapy if I were you.

Me too. It's weird how some posters are saying we all think like that. Nope.

The pet one got me. What was it about your friend feeling so upset about it that annoyed you? Did you feel she just should have sucked it up and not shown how upset she was? It feels sad to me that you didn't want to try to imagine yourself in her shoes.

Not for me to judge if you are a nice person or not. I am relieved I'm not friends with you though!

Tbf to you op, I live near a very busy main road and it's rare that someone stops to let you cross so I dont know why everyone is so shocked by this. I guarantee they wont be stopping either 😂

You sound like a toxic narcissist.

Go see a phsycoanalyst they could help u get to the bottom of this, it will be linked to your childhood....

I feel like you are coming on here with this outpouring and expecting us all to reject you. Maybe that's what you want - to prove to yourself that you are not a nice person. Does that align with how you see yourself? Anyone who deliberately kills a living thing: a snail, a spider, any defenceless creature, is not a decent human being in my book. But it's up to a higher power to judge your actions, not me. Maybe if you really want to get to the root cause of your behaviour, it might be worth considering therapy, especially if you are as unhappy as you sound.

You sound like a class A arse if I’m frankly honest - but you also seem to be actively revelling in your socially unacceptable behaviour, which makes it even worse. I reckon paying for a few sessions with a therapist might be helpful in digging into why your instinctive reaction to everyday situations is to be so cold and uncaring.
I often react to situations badly, but afterwards feel like an utter s* which is what possibly sets you apart. Honestly, I’d try to get it sorted - we get one chance at this life and I’d hate to think I’d used it so poorly.

We could have a section on Mumsnet where we confess our bad thoughts.

I'm glad double denim has come back in fashion.

I clearly can't dx you online, b7t yes, I think this is unusual. You seem extremely self absorbed. Maybe sociopathy, maybe narcissistic (I doubt this as most wouldn't bother asking! ). Ultimately I don't know. Sounds like you don't either. If it bothers you seek therapy...

Just to add - my original point was that nobody is perfect, and any of us could start a thread listing our worst qualities (because we ALL have bad qualities) and we would all get lambasted in the same way.

You seemed to have missed that.

A lot of people on this thread could start one of their own saying something along the lines of “Am I a bad person? I go on to forums and tell the OP they are a psychopath and a shitty person and kick them when they’re clearly down because I think I know better” and guess what? They would be attacked for it.