To think I’m not a nice person?

Wow, keep your knickers on. That was a bit highly strung for someone just expressing an opinion. Edited to add that I am autistic myself 🍪

Yeah you aren’t so you’re right at least you akowledge it…. Can imagine what you look like though… an angry bitter individual usually has that dragged down, witchy type face like someone pulled your face down and the wind made it stay.
good luck 😉

It seems that many uncaring and unempathetic people have missed that you are actually concerned about your feelings and have felt perfectly normal levels of compassion and empathy in your life, but have become burnt out.

It's just too much fun for people who are low in compassion and empathy to rush in to abuse you, I suppose.

Again, please see a GP for a chat, this might be depression. Otherwise, it's just compassion fatigue and you should get yourself offline for a while to reset.

Are you autistic op, what you are describing sounds very similar to one of my friends who is diagnosed. She is just very indifferent to everything.

You sound vile selfish and entitled. Hope your kids aren't like you.

i think we all have elements of ourselves that just aren’t very nice (i certainly do) and bit that are genuinely lovely.
eg. im staying in a youth hostel and had loads of food left over at the evening menus mDe. i took the leftovers down the road to a homeless guy in the park.
but then earlier i was in a rush so actively pressed the ‘close the lift doors’ button when insaw a fut run towards the lift.
see, im nice and a total cock at the dame
time 😝

What an odd post 🤷

TBF I would rush my child in a wheelchair past you and stick my twos up 😂

no offence, my kid going to the toilet is more important

Apart from the road and toilet i’m with ypu, people make too much fuss about trivial stuff. I would always give priority to anyone in a wheelchair though

You should see a psychologist, there may be available therapy for your desire to bully and abuse strangers online. Maybe there is hope you can change. If not accept that you are a nasty and very unpleasant person.

You are self centred and selfish. Very self absorbed. But you are aware of it which is surprising. Generally entitled people never stop to consider their actions. And you seem to realize your behaviour is not socially acceptable!So maybe there is hope that you can change. If you want to that is. If not accept that you are selfish ,self centred and entitled and a very unpleasant person.

Ah, the performative scolders on here seem to have missed that comment. That could be a sign of depression, apathy and indifference is a side effect of depression. Please get yourself to a GP and have a chat.

This is a good example of that performative person who venomously abuses the OP for asking a question while pretending they themselves have high moral standards.

I have been known to stop ten feet back and check my phone so I don't have to hurry over to a pedestrian crossing for a car that is clearly planning to stop way too early. It's like the early door holders, they mean well but I'd rather the door was just closed behind them than I had to rush up to get through it when they're holding it. It's not a big deal, and like I say it's meant well, but I don't like it.

As you have children are you not worried that you are teaching them to not give a fuck about anyone and they will stick you in the cheapest OAP’s home they can find and not visit because they don’t care.

As a non-driver and forever pedestrian, it's really annoying when cars slow down deliberately to let people cross the road. So don't feel bad about that.

You've just go compassion fatigue, and mumsnet is the worst place to ask about reality because these people pretend they think literally everything is offensive while being kind of shitty themselves on the regular.

The sort of people haranguing you were unempathetically hammering some poor OP for daring to say air hostess while brushing off her husband's misogyny on another thread. Performative virtue signalling is rife online.

So long as you are doing what you need to do and are not openly anti social you're fine. I would actually get off mumsnet and all social media for a while and clear your head, the constant stream of demands and poor mes from entitled people with first world problems becomes too much and you kind of short out - like if you put too much electricity through a device not made for it and it burns out.

You are capable of normal empathy and compassion and if you give yourself a break from a flood of entitled whinging you will find it normalises again.

LOLing at some of these posters telling us compassionate and kind they are when you recognise their usernames from previous posts as being complete bellends (and a quick advanced search provides the proof).
I think a fair few here are very much enjoying themselves berating you OP.

You’re French aren’t you?

And just to be a bit of a pain and go against everyone else…. I’m pretty sure that most people secretly do these things (maybe not all of them all of the time) but would never admit it.

I am far far too nice and if karma does exist, she hates me, cos I never get anything good happen. It’s just shit piled upon shit. And when on the very few occasions I have done something like ones you’ve mentioned, I must admit I’ve felt a little kick from the middle finger I’ve put up to that bitch!

Finalement, to all those just name slaying OP, have a good hard look at yourselves and make sure you’re perfect first. Surely identifying that one has a problem in the first place, ie that self-reflection has taken place, surely shows that one cannot in fact be a psychopath…..

ill admit i can match on many points, although in general i do try to be considerate but if im in a rush etc then it is me first

I would not do some of your examples and even killing bugs give me a level of guilt that I only do it if they’re pests - ant powder etc. Some things are irrelevant to the not being a good person - liking birthdays or gender reveals

BUT

I don’t think people are being honest, most people have a selfish and self serving side. And it’s natural to put your family before strangers. I bet all the people suggesting you’re a sociopath have many selfish inclinations too. I will sometimes pick the big bit of cake when I’ve served up pudding. I would also spitefully close the door on a disabled toilet after I’ve used it to see if the person queuing up behind me at a concert has a radar key or if they’re just trying to skip the huge lines in the women’s. No one is perfectly selfless

I’m afraid children copy what you do, not what you say.

Doesn’t work like that. Actions speak louder than words with children

Yes I’m wondering about childhood trauma here

Hi @He1h I dont think you're bad person at all. I genuinely think most of your reactions are normal.

Most People aren't devastated by a squashed snail. Lots of people would argue their child should keep the toy. Who cares if you celebrate your birthday (I include other celebrations like christmas) on the 'right' day? And gender reveals? They can go to fuck. If we all stopped because someone was stood at the side of the road zebra crossings literally wouldn't exist. I love my cats, but I'm not bawling for weeks because one died. I'm sad, and I sometimes miss them. But I also understand pets live shorter lives, it happens.

I think what you are describing are normal feelings. It's okay to protect yourself and your child from other people's emotions. They drain you.

But equally, be kind to those you love. Spend time working on patience and being open hearted with people you care about.

I’m immediately wondering what your childhood was like.

How much kindness, compassion and empathy did you experience as a child?

Has your feelings/behaviour always been like this or has there been a change?

What are your relationships like? what have they been like over your lifetime?

Are there topics that you feel strongly about relating to injustices that impact you directly?