Torn on attending a wedding with a positive covid test

I think it comes down to moral judgement, there is a very good chance that you will pass it to someone. There’s also a chance that other guests already have it. Thing is you know you have a virus which is infectious and to some people can be quite debilitating so you have a choice to make. I’d stay at home, I find weddings boring when you don’t know the couple.

The groom is a bad person.

Plenty of us still test regularly. Covid isn’t over for those of us with high risk family members.

whether it’s Covid, the flu, or any other contagious illness, it has always been rude to knowingly spread it to others and it will always be rude to knowingly spread it to others. Covid should have helped people realize that, but most went right back to being selfish

I didn't even know you could still get covid tests and honestly it would never occur to me to do one!!

I honestly find it so strange the way people here are so cool with willingly getting others, potentially those who are high-risk, sick.

I thought it was a post from 2021! And I was wondering “why is someone reviving that?”. Op, for goodness sake, of course you must go, if you were invited to my wedding and used the Covid excuse you wouldn’t be my friend any more. STOP TESTING !

I hate the 'it's just a cold' responses from some people. It may just be a cold for you and for the OP. For me the last couple of times I've had it, it's 6 days of fever and a 4 week recovery time. It really floors me. For others, it's complications, long covid, even death. There were 850 hospitql adnissions due to covid last week. For others it means they might have to avoid immuno compromised relatives. I wouldn't do it, even if the groom doesn't give a shit about all his guests. And the 'someone else will probably have it' argument may be true. But doing something shit because someone else probably will anyway, isn't any kind of valid moral argument (I may as well shag a married man, he is going to cheat anyway so may as well be me' type argument)

But why did you test though?

If my friend advised me to buy one I'd just give her a strange look and ask which year she thinks she's living in.

Just go!!! You won't be kissing anyone will you?

I wouldn’t go, it’s selfish when you know (regardless of what the groom, your dp, your friends think) that you have covid which is contagious and could cause someone else to be unwell.

This post is going to divide opinions.

I refuse to take covid tests so i wouldn't have tested in your situation.

I tested positive in July 2023.

Still fucking struggling with LC now. It’s destroyed mine and my family’s life. There was nothing at all wrong with me when l caught it.

Covid is flu. It’s not a basic cold

If you had common flu, you wouldn’t go. So why go with COVID. There was a post on here not so long ago about a pregnant lady who’d miscarried and it was potentially because she’d caught covid off a colleague who’d kept coming in to work.

just because you feel fine and the groom feels fine about it, doesn’t mean that you can make the decision about what risk exposure is appropriate for other people.

Actually immunosuppressed people do. That’s more people than you might think. Your ‘common cold’ is extremely dangerous for some. I think OP should go at all. If you’re unwell with a horrible cold, why would you spread it?

Don't go, please OP. It really isn't fair on anyone else there, particularly elderly or people with conditions that make them vulnerable. And in fact anyone can get bad covid and long covid which can have devastating effects. Why risk it? You don't even know these people. I am afraid I think you would be very selfish to go just to appease Bf and his mate. Bf shouldn't go either, probably. 😯

I think you should stop listening to your friend!

I mean, that's not true.

You shouldn't go now that you know.

Sorry to hear this. The strain that was going round last autumn (I caught it too) seemed to be particularly bad at causing long term issues. My doctor said he’d seen a huge increase in perfectly healthy people with issues caused by Long Covid. It can really get in to the vascular system and cause heart problems, brain fog, inflammation. It’s just awful.

It’s all well and good saying “nobody should test for Covid” or “it’s just a cold” but for many many people it isn’t.

with DS we have to test him at the first sign of illness (we get free tests) because if he develops it we need to get the right antiviral drug ASAP before he becomes ill as the risk for him is so high.

I would go but I also wouldn't have even bothered testing. I don't think I've done a covid test in 2, maybe 3 years

It’s contagious, you knowingly have it and you will pass it on to other people, that makes you a dick,

I absolutely wouldn’t have tested in your situation.

however, since you have… I couldn’t go and enjoy myself in the full knowledge I had it. And I don’t think you could either or you wouldn’t have posted.

‘Nobody cares’ not true. I care. I tested positive for Covid in October 2024. I have had 10 months of problems with my heart which the doctor says is due to what Covid did to my body. I have to have more tests on my heart in September.

It is so much more than ‘just a cold’ to many people and I would never have said I was vulnerable but here I am trying to figure out what damage Covid did to me and wondering if I will ever be totally well. If you catch Covid and recover with zero complications, well, lucky you.

Cray that cook are still testing - surely, like any other illness you go if you feel well enough and don’t if you don’t. You’ll be most contagious while you’re feeling crap

I used to be a fairly relaxed about Covid. Wasn’t more than a cold the first few times I had it. Then caught it last Nov. Developed Long Covid (normally very healthy and don’t get ill often). I still am only working at 50% of what I was before and I can’t run which I used to love. So it’s had a huge impact on my life and career.

Long Covid is becoming a huge problem. Plus you have elderly people at that wedding so I wouldn’t go. It’s not a cold for lots of people.