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Original poster

To think DP’s friend should give him a lift home

86 replies

Irelanderin · 14/08/2025 13:42

DP doesn’t drive, and is meeting a friend later round the corner from his work.

I’m picking him up when he’s done (with our toddler in tow). It’s about a 20/25 min round trip for me.

It would be about a 10 min detour for his friend if he was to drop him home after.

AIBU to feel a bit miffed that he hasn’t offered? Probably not helped by the fact I’ll have to rush dinner etc either before or after due to the time it will be.

OP posts:
Original poster
Irelanderin · 14/08/2025 13:48

CopperWhite · 14/08/2025 13:46

How dies he usually get home from work?

Bus. The route to our area stops by the time he will be done.

Taxi seems a waste of £15/20

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Mischance · 14/08/2025 13:48

Sounds like an opportunity for him to walk home .... cheaper than the gym!

HypnoToads · 14/08/2025 13:47

Can your husband not get a bus or taxi? It would be nice if his friend offered but it's not up to him to get your husband home.

Inertia · 14/08/2025 13:47

Why hasn’t your husband offered to get a bus or taxi?

ilovesooty · 14/08/2025 13:47

I don't see that the friend is under any obligation to offer the non driver a lift home.

HenDoNot · 14/08/2025 13:47

Why can’t your DP use public transport or an Uber?

I can’t stand people who don’t drive, but expect others to be running them here there and everywhere.

Don’t want to or can’t drive? Absolutely fine. But then take responsibility for getting yourself from A to B without inconveniencing others.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 14/08/2025 13:47

Why can’t he make his own way home? How does he usually get home from work?

And why can’t he ask his friend for a lift? It shouldn’t be for the friend to offer but for your DH to ask.

You wouldn’t be unreasonable to refuse to collect your DH, but YABU to expect the friend to offer.

Parksinyork · 14/08/2025 13:46

Bus, cycle, taxi?

CopperWhite · 14/08/2025 13:46

How dies he usually get home from work?

Twothurty · 14/08/2025 13:45

This ones on DP to ask him for a lift home.

There might be a reason why he can’t run him back but I don’t think you should feel miffed that he didn’t think of it. You probably weren’t on his radar.

No bus option?

CopperWhite · 14/08/2025 13:45

No, non drivers cannot expect their friends to drive them home every time they meet up, and nor can their partners.

You can tell your husband to make his own way home like the adult that he is if you don’t want to do it, but it is definitely not something the friend is obliged to consider.