Mum says IABU using some of DD’s bits for baby boy due soon

Your mum is being ridiculous.
Newborns can’t even really see colours let alone understand about gender stereotypes.
I have two DDs but we didn’t find out the sex so washed all of DD1’s baby stuff and would have definitely used pink vests and blankets etc if I’d had a boy.

Tell her to stop being so bloody sexist and why does it matter if other people are ignorant and make that mistake.

My ds was my 1 and only.

I bought a bundle including pram and Moses basket 2nd hand when he was born - and again money wasn’t an issue. Just seemed daft buying new when perfectly good items available reused.

As it was ds hated the Moses basket and slept (read cried!) in it about 4 times! Pram lasted until he was 3.
Baby Bath we rarely used.

You are doing a great job not adding to the waste of the country and thinking about your babies comfort.

You’re mums ridiculous. Take no notice and carry on as you were.

Your mum is being very weird and I totally agree with your sensible plans.

This!

My son has long hair, gets called a girl. Doesn't bother me, just means he's beautiful 🤷‍♀️

Don't get into the detail about colours, girl/boy whatever.

You can just say 'Thanks for your thoughts, but just so we're clear it's up to me what my baby wears (or eats or plays with or does).'

My DD uses a towel and a blanket embroided with her older brother’s name. Holy shit!

Your mum is being ridiculous, and sounds like an absolute nightmare for the planet!

I wouldn’t put a baby boy in a pink frilly dress, but pink Muslin clothes are absolutely fine.

My first child is a boy but we didn’t find out, so everything is neutral. We’ll be reusing absolutely everything for our next baby due in November (also don’t know the sex).

please ignore your mum and don’t buy things that get outgrown in such a short time, when you already have everything you need!

Your mother is being absolutely ridiculous. New everything for each baby? What nonsense. Has she never heard of family heirlooms (which don’t need to be just expensive items)?

I loved the family feel of knowing that my babies' crib, cot, baby bath and a lot of clothes and toys had bern passed down through two families of cousins before they reached me! If things are in good clean condition there is absolutely no point in wasting money on things that won’t be used for very long.

I would tell your DM to mind her own business - she made the choices for her babies and now it’s your turn. And if she went out and bought you new things you didn’t want, I would probably refuse to use them, on principle. If she’s got money to spare for them, suggest she puts it in a savings account for the children.

Seeing your kid in clothes your older kid wore is one of life's pleasures - don't let her take this!

We bought some 2nd hands bits of equipment for my 1st and got some flack from family for it which really upset me at the time. However someone suggested to me that sometimes if someone comes from a generation back, and from a poorer or immigrant background, using 2nd hand can feel a lot more loaded than it might do for me. That was food for thought and helped take the sting out a bit.

It’s not like he will be wearing them. I once took a hooded towel to baby massage for ds that had been DD had gone pink in the wash. Nobody cared and pink is ds favourite colour. He has autism so to him it’s just a colour he likes. He used to pull DD wet pink clothes off the clothes horse and put them on.

Your mum is a twat - my son had loads of second hand stuff -(all from my friends daughters) and like you, I was grateful to save money and save the planet. Ignore her.

Your mother is being ridiculous. Good luck OP!

Your mum is beyond ridiculous.

I'd tell her to crack on spending her own money if she really feels that perfectly good baby items can't be passed down to your son just because your firstborn was a girl.

Your mother is talking bollocks. Ignore her and reuse the beautiful stuff you bought for your first child. Your baby won't give a shit what colour the muslins are.

Why on earth does she think you need a new moses basket? That's just bizarre, especially considering that you have replaced the mattress. Reusing the car seat is great too.

It's good and much more environmentally friendly to reuse as much as possible. If your mother insists on going to buy a pile of new stuff then tell her that it will be kept at her house so that it will be easier to travel when you visit with the kids.

Can I ask why you allowed her to get you so upset? Surely you just tell her to stop and continue to do things your own way.

She must be very overbearing if you think you are still beholden to her. You’re an adult. You’re a mother yourself now.

You have permission to totally ignore what she says if you want to do things differently and feel no guilt at all. It is your turn, not hers, to be the parent now. She can shove it.

People buying all new of everything for every child are the unreasonable ones. Wasting money and ruining the planet. Ignore her and focus on your baby.

@WarriorN is quite right that the custom was originally blue for girls (reference back to the Virgin Mary) and pink, the "manlier", "stronger" colour referring back to the red cloak which St. Joseph traditionally wears; in "Good Wives", the sequel to "Little Women", so late 19th C., dressing baby girls in pink and baby boys in blue is referred to as "French style", something of a novelty. However, I suspect that this nerdy fact would be quite beyond your mother, much as the colour of your DS' sons outfits etc will be quite outside his comprehension.
You are to be commended for reusing and recycling equipment; indeed some families take a positive pride in furniture being cared for and reused through the generations.
It can be hard to contradict an authoritarian DM, but this isn't your first DC, you know what you are doing, so Keep Calm and Carry On!

‘That’s ridiculous, colours don’t have a gender and baby won’t carry anyway’ and the you repeat and if she continues on say ‘ok you’re not listening to me, let’s cut this visit short.’ If she has a tantrum let her.

She's being daft! Wonder what she would have thought of my 3 babies all using the same pram I was pushed around in 30 years later?!! As far as clothes go, they get so little use as babies grow so quickly it makes economic, environmental and common sense to reuse.

She's a wasteful idiot. Why on earth would you spend money buying stuff you already have? People like her are killing the planet with their pointless spending.

We used hand me downs from DD for DS. It made her feel like she was helping and made her feel like a grown up. It also saved us money. For DD2 who is due soon she will have a bit from both, we’ve hardly brought any new stuff.

Your mother is completely ridiculous. Like a newborn will care what colour muslin it sicks on! Tell her you're thinking of the DC's future and the environment, as there's enough waste and landfill already, and you're not adding to it.

I think you know your mum is being ridiculous. It surprises me in this century that you would be bothered about her. I would honestly suggest you laugh at her-takes practise!