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Didn’t get job

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tiredsotired6 · 13/08/2025 22:27

I’ve been working as a temp for one company for over a year. They’ve been very happy with my work, giving me a lot of good feedback. A few people (including the manager) have said they would really like me to be on permanent staff as I do a great job.

Anyway, a few months ago a perm role came up, which was essentially my role to the letter. Having had the good feedback I decided to apply as felt I had a very good chance.

As I’m sure you’ve already guessed, I didn’t get the job. I’m now feeling like my confidence has been shot and my manager was just leading me on.

The new person has now started and seems fine but no better than me at the job. Worse still, I’ve been asked to help them out if they have any questions about how to do the job that I’ve been doing for over a year.

The result is that a job I used to look forward to every day has now left me feeling deflated and upset. I now dread work and generally just feel my confidence has been shattered.

AIBU and WWYD?

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PeonyBulb · 16/08/2025 00:58

I hate it when this happens

The employers forget we are a human being who wants and needs the job to live off and have been doing the role very successfully until it’s passed on to someone else who we then have to train. What a waste of time having to train a newbie to do the exact same role you’re already doing.

it’s insulting as well as leaving us out of a job an actual job to pay the bills and survive

Shivvy1 · 15/08/2025 23:44

It is always disappointing when you don’t get the job you were hoping for, They probably did a better interview than you, but that’s not to say they would be better than you at the job. . I would ask for some feedback to see how you did in the interview and you can use it going forward for any other roles that come up.

Enough4me · 15/08/2025 23:35

CoffeeCantata · 15/08/2025 06:58

Why wouldn’t they show bias to an excellent internal employee who was already doing a great job? Are they mad?

This is crazy talk. It’s turning recruitment from a common sense-led, pragmatic process into a silly, counterintuitive game.

It ignores the overwhelming fact that the internal candidate is in a totally different situation from externals and tries to treat them the same. Treating people in different situations exactly the same doesn’t result in fairness.

The person who is offered the position needs to be successful at interview. Internal candidates generally have the "team fit" advantage so the job is likely theirs to lose. If they don't do enough the panel cannot offer them the role. It's less about performance as you can look past an internal candidate's nerves but you need to hear relevant content.
I couldn't tell you the number of interview panels I was on in my last role but it was often the case interviewees just missed the point of the question, often even with prompts they had an agenda in their head.
Practice with a friend can help people to learn how to listen to questions and how to answer from an 'I did, I know' perspective (rather than we).

Xyloplane · 15/08/2025 23:14

tiredsotired6 · 15/08/2025 23:00

This, really. The clue is in this sentence:

“I had a temp staff member who was really good at the job”

What more do you need?

Edited

I agree. I genuinely wonder how some people become managers. In your shoes I would take all the learning and apply elsewhere OP. And I certainly would not make training the new hire my responsibility-you’re not their manager.

Thankfully it has not been the case for you OP but to the other poster: making a solid temp staff member apply for jobs over and over again knowing they fall down at the last hurdle simply due to interview nerves is cruel and humiliating.

tiredsotired6 · 15/08/2025 23:00

Xyloplane · 15/08/2025 22:55

This is a ludicrous approach to recruitment. What a shame that none of you used an ounce of common sense and kept setting that poor woman up to fail.

This, really. The clue is in this sentence:

“I had a temp staff member who was really good at the job”

What more do you need?

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Xyloplane · 15/08/2025 22:55

YetanotherNC25 · 13/08/2025 22:47

I had a temp staff member who was really good at the job and in this situation. She was awful at interviews and went to pieces, forgetting everything she did on a day to day basis. Her interview scores were too low to appoint her and she had so many goes at applying every time we had a vacancy, plus lots of feedback and we even sat with her to do interview coaching. We tried really hard to support her but in the end we just couldn’t give someone a job without passing the interview process.
The crazy thing was she was interviewed for the temp role and was the top scoring candidate so she’d done it before. HR wouldn’t let us passport that interview score over, as it was a FTC, although we did try!
Just because you weren’t appointed doesn’t mean you’re not valued. Ask for feedback and try again if it’s a good company and role.

This is a ludicrous approach to recruitment. What a shame that none of you used an ounce of common sense and kept setting that poor woman up to fail.

tiredsotired6 · 15/08/2025 22:28

Duckswaddle · 15/08/2025 17:38

Get applying for other things. Never give a company your loyalty. It’s never, ever returned.

I have learnt this through this process. It’s so sad as I love the company, gave it my all and wanted to continue doing so. Never again.

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Duckswaddle · 15/08/2025 17:38

Get applying for other things. Never give a company your loyalty. It’s never, ever returned.

BunnyLake · 15/08/2025 17:37

Bambamhoohoo · 15/08/2025 13:23

IME temps are usually lower quality hires than perms. For the reasons I’ve spoken about re lack of investment from employers.

this is why standards are often lower for temps, they’re recruited on a more casual basis and to a lower standard, and often less is expected of them. There is no long term investment or commitment either side

I was a very highly thought of temp, being personally requested when companies needed a temp and they had used me before. Temping is also a great way to quickly adapt to new environments and industries at short notice. You have to learn the job quickly if you don’t want to be replaced by another temp. I would love to go back to temping but there isn’t the demand anymore, at least not if you don’t live near a big bustling city. Being a high quality temp is a skill.

BunnyLake · 15/08/2025 17:27

Thing is some interviews are for careers and progressing on that career path and other vacancies are just jobs. Cafes requesting you are passionate about food and drink is absurd.

Thehandinthecookiejar · 15/08/2025 17:26

Worse still, I’ve been asked to help them out if they have any questions about how to do the job that I’ve been doing for over a year.

So the person who didn’t get the job has to train the person who did? 😵‍💫
I think you would be within your rights to tell them to get stuffed (or the professional equivalent thereof)

BunnyLake · 15/08/2025 17:23

CoffeeCantata · 15/08/2025 07:27

Sure, but in your own words and with no penalty for something like ‘not being passionate enough’. Everyone’s an adult in this situation - so no need for phoney games.

Or being marked down for not using enough of their buzz words.

tiredsotired6 · 15/08/2025 17:16

Swiftie1878 · 15/08/2025 16:34

That’s kind of expected?

Of course. But the poster said there’s no long-term commitment on either side. Personally I think giving 100% and doing the job to the best of my ability over the course of a year does show a long-term commitment.

Edited to add: the poster is clearly right though about the “either side” bit - as the company has shown zero interest in a long-term commitment to me!

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Bambamhoohoo · 15/08/2025 16:49

Yes doing the job to the required standard is expected, and what a temp is paid for.

Bambamhoohoo · 15/08/2025 16:48

tiredsotired6 · 15/08/2025 15:54

There is no long term investment or commitment either side

On the commitment point: that is not true of me. I can say without doubt I have worked bloody hard and have given it 100%.

just to confirm I’m not throwing any shade at your own dedication. But the point remains- you don’t need development, investment in serious training, qualifications etc when you’re a temp.
You can also leave whenever you like and many temps do the work specifically for this advantage. It’s just the way it is

Swiftie1878 · 15/08/2025 16:34

tiredsotired6 · 15/08/2025 15:54

There is no long term investment or commitment either side

On the commitment point: that is not true of me. I can say without doubt I have worked bloody hard and have given it 100%.

That’s kind of expected?

tiredsotired6 · 15/08/2025 15:54

There is no long term investment or commitment either side

On the commitment point: that is not true of me. I can say without doubt I have worked bloody hard and have given it 100%.

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Bambamhoohoo · 15/08/2025 13:23

CoffeeCantata · 15/08/2025 13:09

Exactly. Simples!

That’s what I’m not getting.

IME temps are usually lower quality hires than perms. For the reasons I’ve spoken about re lack of investment from employers.

this is why standards are often lower for temps, they’re recruited on a more casual basis and to a lower standard, and often less is expected of them. There is no long term investment or commitment either side

3678194b · 15/08/2025 13:14

I've seen this happen in the NHS. Seems pretty normal thing to do sadly there from my experience!

The temps then left, sometimes on the spot.

CoffeeCantata · 15/08/2025 13:12

thepariscrimefiles · 15/08/2025 09:04

If the external candidate was excellent at interview and had loads of relevant experience that they could demonstrate at interview, it is reasonable for them to appoint ahead of an internal candidate that didn't perform as well on the day.

However, in the interview feedback that OP requested, they basically told her that she wasn't appointed due to a small issue with a part of her job, that they hadn't raised with her previously and that she has now taken on board and immediately rectified. If they knew that OP was doing something wrong, they should have provided feedback at the point this issue came to light, not to let it continue and then use it as the reason why she didn't get the job.

It is also unfair of them to expect OP to train the new hire, i.e. you are not good enough for us to appoint you to the permanent role, but you are good enough and knowledgeable to train your replacement to do this job.

So if I’m understanding correctly, a good interview from a stranger trumps a proven record of competence in the post by the internal applicant?

If the organisation is very happy with the temp, why not just appoint them to the permanent post?

CoffeeCantata · 15/08/2025 13:09

LizzyEm · 15/08/2025 12:20

I'd leave.

Why couldn't they just change op's contract to perm and recruit for a temp.

Edited

Exactly. Simples!

That’s what I’m not getting.

LizzyEm · 15/08/2025 12:20

I'd leave.

Why couldn't they just change op's contract to perm and recruit for a temp.

dogcatkitten · 15/08/2025 12:07

Ask them why you didn't get the job, a chat with your manager or a more formal sit down to see what you have to improve to be a better candidate in future. Are you agency staff? It is sometimes very expensive to pay off the agency to take someone on directly, I remember my company having this problem they were pretty much held to ransom.

BunnyLake · 15/08/2025 12:03

Bambamhoohoo · 15/08/2025 11:57

I think probably key to this is that those jobs don’t exist to the same level they did before. PAs usually do a really different role to the old “admin” and also support multiple people. I started in admin and it was easy and didn’t require much more than being organised polite and learning basic software systems. A lot more is expected now, for fewer roles.

also you can’t have it both ways - accept a persons excellent feedback then decide they’re clueless when they feedback and make interview decisions. The workplace is tough really, especially nowadays

I agree it’s very tough. Even casual work like Saturday jobs don’t really exist anymore. No more randomly walking into places asking if they need staff (pubs, cafes etc) and they just say sure, pop in tomorrow for a trial day, with no asking for a CV or how passionate you are about clearing dirty plates 🥴

And I was out of the workplace a long time (16 years) (sahm), I think I still haven’t come to terms with how much the job landscape has changed. I’m still stuck in the 80s/90s mindset of job hunting.

Bambamhoohoo · 15/08/2025 11:58

TheGoddessFrigg · 15/08/2025 10:51

I have always wondered that myself. The interviews where I work are very strictly structured, and yet there have been some terrible appointments.
Can the interviewer actually say 'Oh that's absolute bollox Fred- you've never been a team player!' ?

I’m a bit miffed by people who follow a strict process to the point of ignoring obvious red flags, but I suspect it happens less than we might think. This has never happened to me for example and I probably do 30 interviews a year