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Backfromthebrink · 13/08/2025 21:44

Just arrived on holiday and I need the wise opinions of the Mumsnet community to help me decide if I’m being super unreasonable or if I’m right to feel pissed off.

On the plane off on holiday with my DH and DD9. Half way into the journey and the air hostess (think blonde, slim, attractive) comes down the aisle selling scratch cards, Prize being another holiday. She gets to our row and DH asks for x5 tickets and cheekily says “if I win, do you come too?” to the lady selling. I’m mortified and give her an apologetic look. She gives me a somewhat sympathetic look and I’m just feeling like the biggest dickhead.

I can’t bring myself to speak to my DH out of disgust and he laughs it off and makes me feel like I’m creating a drama for no reason. Feel so upset that he would humiliate me in front of my face.

Honest opinions please. Should I have laughed along or would you be fuming? Thank you!

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TesChique · 13/08/2025 21:57

Backfromthebrink · 13/08/2025 21:55

Thank you for your comments so far. I’m sat on the transfer coach with tears streaming down my face.

Thats a bit much

Backfromthebrink · 13/08/2025 21:55

Thank you for your comments so far. I’m sat on the transfer coach with tears streaming down my face.

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HiCandles · 13/08/2025 21:54

I think I'd have rolled my eyes but nothing more. But my initial thought when I read it was that he meant in the sense of having someone to serve food and drinks all day long. I see from @OtterlyMad comment that perhaps I misunderstood and he said it meaning he wanted a beautiful woman with him.
That meaning I would be very unhappy about!

LighthouseTeaCup · 13/08/2025 21:54

I wouldn't laugh, it wasn't funny. I wouldn't feel humiliated or be fuming though, assuming your DH is generally not a tosser, and this was a shocking one off thing for him to say

I'd tell DH that he came across as misogynistic and I felt embarrassed on his behalf. He'd probably try to play it down. I'd ask him if he's happy to be viewed by others in that way. I'd ask him to think about how I'd feel if randomers in my workplace objectified me. I'd be very calm. And if he accused me of creating drama, I'd say "not at all, I'm just very surprised. I never thought of you as a misogynist until today. And I'm curious why you don't seem to mind other people seeing you as that"

mumofoneAloneandwell · 13/08/2025 21:53

OtterlyMad · 13/08/2025 21:50

I would embarrass him by pretending to feel sorry for him - be sure to tell all your family and friends how he attempted to flirt with the cabin crew and how she gave you a pitying look! Then pat him on the head and say “bless him”.

Ooo do this! Yanbu op x

OtterlyMad · 13/08/2025 21:50

I would embarrass him by pretending to feel sorry for him - be sure to tell all your family and friends how he attempted to flirt with the cabin crew and how she gave you a pitying look! Then pat him on the head and say “bless him”.

Tagyoureit · 13/08/2025 21:50

God, thats mortifying!!

ForWarmPeachBird · 13/08/2025 21:46

Air hostess?